In my particular example, I spend most of my typical day working on my own projects. Pink Firefly and I spend dinner together and a little time in the evening after that, then I get back to work. As a compromise to make up for this lack of time together, I committed to spend one entire day a week with her (usually Sundays) that we designate as our day together. Then the other six days of the week Iâm back to work.Â
Certainly, if I wasnât OLTR married I could devote that entire Sunday and a few hours on those weekdays to my work and Mission. That time is what I give up by being married. However, there are three counterpoints to that.Â
First off, outside of one day per week plus about two hours a day on the other days, I can do literally whatever I want, whenever I want, with whomever I want, without having to check in or get permission from Pink Firefly or anyone else. That includes having all the sex with other women I want as often as I like. This in no way describes any other married man I have ever met, including married Alpha Male 1.0s. All these other married guys are under a strict set of rules that govern their entire lives, even when their wives arenât around. As Iâve talked about in great detail, that will not make you long-term happy unless you are an extreme beta male. While OLTR Marriage-level freedom isnât quite what it is if you live alone, it’s still extraordinarily significant.Â
Secondly, those times I spend with Pink Firefly are enjoyable. Itâs not like Iâm grudgingly or angrily spending time with my wife out of some sort of obligation like many other married guys I know. I really enjoy spending time with PF. We have a great time together. Because of certain opposite aspects of our personalities, our attraction for each other is very high, even now, going into our sixth year together. We get along very well. We also have surprisingly similar tastes in what we like to do for fun⦠and we have radical differences in what we like to do, but I just donât do those things with her, so I compromise nothing (she can do things like see chick flicks with her girlfriends, not me).Â
Lastly, and most importantly, I am a man who is almost 50 years old who has already accomplished most of his biggest goals and dreams in life. Far before I married Pink Fireflyâ¦Â
- I had achieved every lifestyle goal I had ever had.Â
- I had achieved every business goal I had ever had.Â
- I had not only met but exceeded all of my income goals and was making more money than I ever even imagined.Â
- I had sex with a massive number of women, at least 90% of which were either cute or hot. Â
- I had lived literally every sexual fantasy I had ever had, no matter how crazy or improbable, multiple times, with multiple women.Â
- I had lost 40 pounds and had radically improved my phyiscal appearance from my beta male twenties and early thirties.Â