Letâs take it a step further. How would this make you feel about women? How would this make you feel about relationships?
I can tell you for a fact that you would feel like shit, about all of those things. Your self-esteem would take a serious hit and youâd have a skewed, negative view of women and relationships in general, at least eventually (exactly how long-time strippers end up having a skewed, negative view of men).
In other words, if you must pay for sex in order to have sex, this is very bad. Youâre a beta. Long-term, youâre going to feel like shit if you donât already. Instead, learn the skills so that you can have sex without paying for it and if you still want to go back and pay for it at that point, then go ahead, since doing it wonât harm you once youâre at that level.
Of course, thatâs only provided you also meet the second criteria…
You Must Be Able to Easily Afford It… Emphasis on âEasilyâ
The second criteria you must meet before you start paying for sex in a way that doesnât harm you is that you must have:
1. A reasonably high income.
2. Comparatively low monthly expenses.
3. Little or zero debt.
If you make $175,000 a year, have zero debt, reasonably low monthly expenses, healthy long-term investments/savings, and continue to fund those monthly, then if you want to throw around $100-$300 a few times a month to get laid, go ahead. I see no problem with this (as long as you meet criteria number one above).
If you make $45,000 a year and have the typical amount of debt, and youâre spending $100-$300 to get laid on even a semi-regularly basis, then with all due respect, youâre a fucking idiot and youâre probably headed for bankruptcy. Use that extra cash to build your skills, build your income, and pay down debt, not to pay hookers. If you want to get laid, learn the skills, practice, and get to at least an intermediate level at dating/pickup. Itâs not that hard.
I mention this because Iâve seen a growing number of mid or even low-income men pay hookers or chicks on sugar daddy sites on a regular basis. No! You are severely damaging your long-term future financial position if you do this. Learn how to get laid for free and pay for it later once your income is higher or your debt is lower (ideally zero).
The same goes for you high-income guys who have shitloads of debt or who have huge monthly expenses because of things like a high lifestyle, alimony, or child support. I donât care if you make $200,000 a year if you are paying $4500 a month in alimony/child support and your house payment is $3200 a month. Fucking hell, dude. Stop paying for sex! You canât afford it! You need to be paying down your debt and funding your retirement. Learn how to get laid for free or pay off your debts and alimony and move into a cheaper house, then pay for it.
The money that goes to paying for sex cannot be the same money you would normally use to pay down debts or to put away for long-term savings. If you make enough money and have low enough expenses to where you can easily fund these things and pay for sex occasionally, then fine.
You Should Do These Two Things Anyway
As I already talked about here and here, learning how to get laid for free and getting your income up to a decent level should be something you should be doing anyways, regardless of any women or sex in your life. So, what I call âcriteriaâ here are actually two of the baseline requirements for long-term masculine happiness regardless of women.
Regardless, my viewpoint stands. I donât like the concept of paying for sex, but if you already know how to get sex without paying for it, and you can easily afford it, and paying for sex frees up your time to pursue other important tasks in your life, then, and only then, paying for sex is probably fine.