As I talk about in great detail in the Ultimate Online Dating Manual, you need to time the date pitch precisely when the odds of success are highest. And, as with all of my advice, you need to do this regardless of what your personal opinions or feelings are regarding when you think this âshouldâ be done. As always, reality doesnât give a shit about your feelings or your Societal Programming. Neither do women.
Many of you already know my standard system here. That is, to date pitch a new woman youâre communicating with online within two or three exchanges. This means you send her an opener, she replies (one exchange), you send her a response, she responds (second exchange), then you date pitch, or send her one more response, and then get hers (third exchange) when you then pitch.
Iâve done this hundreds of times and it works well. However, there are several scenarios where this doesnât apply.
The first is if youâre on a swipe app like Tinder or Bumble. When youâre communicating with a woman over an app rather than a site, the communication dynamic is slightly different. The conversation over an app feels more like texting. A conversation over a site feels like emailing. The interaction over an app feels faster.
This means that if you date pitch on two exchanges over an app, it feels too fast. When using an app, sadly, you have to wait a little longer to date pitch. Remember I said a little. If you carry on a conversation too long, you will lose her.