Naghmeh used a modern Christian buzzword when explaining why she went to the family courts:
In very difficult situations sometimes you have to establish boundaries while you work toward healing. I have taken temporary legal action to make sure our children will stay in Idaho until this situation has been resolved. I love my husband, but as some might understand, there are times when love must stop enabling something that has become a growing cancer.
You may recall the CBMW’s Women’s Studies professor using the same term:
Submitting to the Lord sometimes involves drawing clear boundaries and enacting consequences when a husband sins.
Pastor Driscoll made a similar plea to the women in his congregation when preaching on the Book of Esther. Pastor Driscoll explained that Christian wives need to emulate Vashti as a strong independent woman, not the doormat Esther:
And ladies, sometimes the godliest thing is to say no. I believe what Vashti did was noble, it was brave, it was good, it was right. And some of you ladies, you’ve mastered the art of saying no. Like, you’re—you could, like, teach a grad school class on how to jam up a man. Right? I mean, you landed the dismount. Boom, nailed it again. You’re really good at it. Okay?
Now, some of you ladies have never even tried. You’re always like, “Yes, okay. Whatever you say. Whatever you want.” No, pick your chin up. Look him in the eye. “No! No.” I’ve seen this repeatedly, where there’s a foolish man with a wise woman and her not speaking is not helping. Ladies, use a loving voice, use a respectful voice, use a godly voice, but don’t lose your voice. And sometimes, a woman has to prayerfully, carefully just say no. Vashti says what? No.
This also ties in with the godly tantrum wives are instructed to throw if their husband “isn’t listening to them” (doing as the wife instructs).
What you won’t see is husbands being exhorted to set boundaries for their wives, enact consequences for their wives, learn to say no to their wives, etc. This is the inversion of the roles of headship and submission that nearly everyone hasn’t noticed, because cross-dressing theology is what our feminist culture is thirsty for. Submission now means saying no, enacting consequences, and establishing boundaries. Submission means washing your husband in the water of the word, just as headship now means winning your wife over without a word.
