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If you've given a legitimate effort and reached Week 6 (in HOWEVER MANY days) you are doing quite well.
Let me tell you about this week-
You are going to make big strides this week.
The good news is- this week often isn't a "make or break" week. You are fully prepared to handle this week if you can remind yourself "I've done this before."
That's good because you'll take some significant steps forward this week to not only beating approach anxiety but also having REAL interpersonal, sexually/emotional driven interactions and not just acting like a fucking idiot.
It's usually after the drills that make up Week 6 when guys say, "I'm come pretty far," and more significantly- really believe it.
It's for real. By the end of this week, you have really have made significant progress on smashing your approach anxiety. There won't be too much will left that keeps you from having decent (not necessarily aggressive) interactions.
Since our goal is to really demolish, demoralize and nearly erase approach anxiety - I suggest you continue forward and resist the urge to start doing "real" approaches at least until after Day 46. We still need to build some physicality in there and a few other things.
Don't worry, I got it all covered.
Just keep doing your part.
The other good news is- guys that FINISH this week and can do these drills are usually able to finish the job and kill most of their approach anxiety for good.
Congrats- the likelihood that you succeed is higher than not. You just have to beat this week. You have unlimited tries.
Some of our VERY BEST students found [the drills from] this week to be a turning point in their lives. I don't like throwing around the generic term "confidence" too much but- you will build real confidence this week. Across the board.
The 2 dominant attitudes I want you to have this week is-
"When I give a girl a compliment- it fucking matters because I MATTER."
"I wonder if this girl can even give herself an orgasm."
Last week I spoke briefly about how "you can give a girl a compliment it is counts for something" if you are cooler and/or better looking than her. It's true.
Now, not all the girls that you run drills on will you currently better looking/cooler than.
Remember- 19-23 year old girls are in their PRIME and dedicate their lives to looking hot, so don't get upset if you aren't where you want to be yet. That's what we are working on.
Just so you know- guys aren't usually in their prime until 28-33, when they look like men, are financially stable and hopefully act like men. If you are there or past those ages, not to worry- we just have to make you aren't carrying excess bodyfat or facial hair that will make you look older. More on "prime time" later.
More on the 2nd attitude soon.
This week, specifically Day 46, is a MILESTONE day. It's important to thoroughly complete it and you'll be encouraged to take on new challenges.
You've probably been hitting on girls online for about ~8-10 weeks now.
If you run out of a supply of seafood on Plenty of Fish -- hit up OkCupid, or vice-versa. I'm preferable to Plenty of Fish because I've slept with so many girls from there, but I've actually put together some pretty kinky sexual scenarios via OkCupid since they have a chat platform.
I used/still somewhat have a thing for really hot girls that smoke cigarettes- I told several that I'd take them out to eat (at an open-air restaurant since that's the only option) they'd turn me on by smoking and I'd take them home and make love to them (it was a detailed, graphic cut-and-paste story, that I would go through line-by-line to keep the drama/make her feel sexy thing going). Some were really intrigued and thought it was funny, totally willing to participate (others thought it was weird, numbers game).
I reenacted that with 6 girls total in about 1 month. 6 girls in a month, that's a lot of sex and more than I usually tag unless I'm looking for more. I even didn't mind paying for dinner because I knew I was getting laid, it was part of the foreplay anyway. One of the girls, Kaitlyn, I still hang out with today when she's in LA. She's dope.
It's harder to put together more erotic fetishes/scenarios though, you might want to try Adult Friend Finder for that. In smaller cities other than New York, Los Angeles, Chicago, Houston and Miami- you'll probably have to settle for average girls at best for the erotic/fetish stuff. The good news is- if you look REALLY good, an average girl would love to go out/meet up with a hot guy and play out his fantasy. It makes them feel sexy and their "fantasy" is to just be seen, adored and fucked by a hot guy. Of the 6 girls I tagged in my first month of doing "kinky" online screening, only 3 were above-average girls. Still a lot of fun though.
I encourage you to do one or two things-
(1) If you've been on a bunch of dates and feeling good about your approach anxiety progress, give yourself the green light to be more aggressive on your "dates," it will probably come naturally.
Toward the later stages of my approach anxiety, I got sick of losing girls or having to meet up 3-4 times to sleep with a girl. I was more confident and I got more aggressive and I was tagging girls in about 2-3 dates. That was actually a big step for me, it made me PLAY TO WIN and not just playing "not to lose". A few months later, after my approach anxiety was under control, I started doing the same in real life and start getting some quicker results.
(2) Also, consider hitting on hitting on girls online in a more aggressive/crude fashion.
If you are going to more aggressive online, you might want to take a look at my guide-
Hit on 50+ girls online this week.
I still suggest 50+ because if you are going to be more aggressive to get quicker results, you'll probably have to hit as many girls or more.
Audio Week 6: Quick Talk (46:00)
One of the best audios, I had gotten laid an hour before.
Audios for Day 38-47. mp3/iPod compatible (.zip file)- Week 6 Approach Anxiety Audios.zip
Approach Anxiety Day 38
(Genuine but Skeptical)
Getting Direct.
This week we are throwing more direct, more sexual comments at girls.
During the week we are going to work on the 'vulnerability' that comes with being direct.
You will also start to develop a "style" to giving these compliments.
I recommend something that incorporates-
"Genuine but a little skeptical."
That might not be something you are familiar with, let me explain.
When I walk I to girls, especially the hotter girls- I don't have problem with giving them a legitimate genuine compliment.
In fact, if I'm in a particularly good mood, I like to remind them (obviously in totally different words) that other girls wish they looked like them and other guys wouldn't mind sticking their tongues in their vagina even if they received nothing in return. I remind them that they are powerful.
At the same time, I come across as somewhat skeptical that they are as powerful or cool as I am. I come across slightly skeptical that I think spending a night with them would be worth my time or. I come across slightly skeptical that they even know how to give themselves an orgasm. I even think- strip away the makeup and I bet they are scared of me.
I usually do so with a little smirk on my face and unless I'm having a lousy day- I really believe this shit.
Most of the time- they pick up on this, even if I'm pretty polite and friendly. They are aware that they are talking to someone who is as cool or cooler than they are. If they don't, they are blind.
Now, obviously, it didn't always used to be this way.
It took me what seemed like forever to really believe this inside. The first step was trying though.
On the girls that get "screened out" for being "unavailable," I honestly believe just that 99% of the time.
They weren't actually available at that moment.
It wasn't because my looks, style, social freedom was lacking or that I "did something" wrong. This was made possible by fucking hotter girls for long periods of time. You tend to get a complex. You'll develop one too, it takes a while and getting there is fun. You can legitimately screen girls (or even "qualify" them because you legitimately selective, rather than as a technique).
Remember- IT MATTERS when YOU give a girl a compliment.
Or at least slowly try to feel that way, you might have to talk to some below-average girls to reinforce it.
Audio Day 38 (22:27)
If you were unable to do the drill or weren't happy with your performance (NOT the reactions you got) - feel free to repeat this day.
Approach Anxiety Day 39
(No More Mr. Nice Guy)
Do What You Want.
Yesterday we spoke about "Genuine but Skeptical," it's pretty easy to understand, somewhat harder to implement and certainly a work in progress to fully internalize.
Don't worry, it will come- you'll have your own version of it someday.
Today, however, I want to talk about another mentality that is easier to understand, easier to implement and certainly easier to fully internalize.
It's called-
"DO WHAT YOU WANT."
In general, in order to achieve an prosperous life full of 5-star meals, classy women, adoring fans, chocolate and gold coins- you need to make a habit of DOING WHAT YOU WANT.
If you always do that- you won't have mANY regrets even if the outcome isn't what you were shooting for.
It's the situations when you DON'T do what you want that you'll come to regret. It's also those situations that will remind you that you a pussy, unworthy of the life you desire (even if it's not true).
99% of the time it will be the RIGHT decision, simply because YOU picked it and it truly what you want to do.
1% of the time it will be the wrong decision, but you probably won't regret it since YOU picked it, it was what you wanted to do and it just didn't work out. This is infinitely better than than being influenced by others, not doing what you wanted and achieving the same result. That's regret. That's being a pussy.
<.1% of the time it will be the wrong decision and the worst-case scenario. While this is undesirable- planning or fearing a <.1% scenario or living in fear is more undesirable.
Remember- IT MATTERS when YOU give a girl a compliment.
Or at least slowly try to feel that way, you might have to talk to some below-average girls to reinforce it.
♥ Do What You Want Principle
You probably know that I consider "Doing What You Want," to be the key to living a highly rewarding life with no regrets. I want that to start now as well. Your only goal is to DO THE DRILL and LEAVE.
Beginning on these drills, however, if a girl is rude to you and you want to put them in their place- DO IT. Say whatever the fuck you want.
There is such an effort to teach guys to "not be reactive," that they end up becoming even bigger pussies. I'm not going to tell you "Don't be reactive," I'm going to tell you- DO WHAT YOU WANT.
If you get a bad response and you want to say nothing at all, do it.
If you want to say, "God Bless You," do it.
If you want to say, "My bad, didn't mean to talk to you, your tits are smaller than some 8th graders, how many guys have you lost to better-endowed girls?"
or
"Nevermind, probably nothing you can do about it but you're overweight, especially in your hips." do it.
Short of physical assault, I suggest doing what you want and certainly saying what you want. You'll feel better that you did and be able to move on faster.
What you DO NOT do is- wish you did/said something but backed out because you are a pussy.
If you do that, anytime this week, I encourage you to start the week over again.
You will finish the week and you not finish as a pussy.
Experience makes you build a thick skin, results make you indifferent- now and until forever, DO WHAT YOU WANT. SAY WHAT YOU WANT. Empower yourself and then use discretion.
It's your world, we're just living in it.
Women deserve to be treated with respect, until they give you, other guys or other girls reason to deny them that respect.
There are "experts" that will disagree with this. Some have even written entire eBooks about not being reactive. The reality is basically ZERO of those "experts" actually fuck hot women. They can eat our shit and it's high content of undigested kratom and amino acids.
With all that said- it's rare that you'll get a bad response. If you do- Handle it, don't fear it. :)
Audio Day 39 (23:30)
If you were unable to do the drill or weren't happy with your performance (NOT the reactions you got) - feel free to repeat this day.
Approach Anxiety Day 40
(Combining Drills)
1 Step Foward.
Today's 1st drill is the exact same as yesterday's 2nd drill.
Today's 2nd drill will bring in a brief 1-second physical dialogue, the first we've had on the more "real" interactions.
You've told a girl, "Hey, wait a second- you're cute."
You've also given a girl a high five.
Now- do them together.
Remember- IT MATTERS when YOU give a girl a compliment.
Or at least slowly try to feel that way, you might have to talk to some below-average girls to reinforce it.
Day 40 Drill (Level 5)
Do the drill, forget the responses.
Audio Day 40 (21:30)
If you were unable to do the drill or weren't happy with your performance (NOT the reactions you got) - feel free to repeat this day.
Approach Anxiety Day 41
(One Step Forward)
If you take today seriously, you will be a little better than yesterday.
You are used to either leaving or acting stupid after giving a compliment- you've got that down.
Today, you are going get used to the pressure of staying the interaction after dropping a compliment. It's actually a big step forward.
Remember- IT MATTERS when YOU give a girl a compliment.
Or at least slowly try to feel that way, you might have to talk to below-average girls to reinforce it.
Audio Day 41 (16:33)
If you were unable to do the drill or weren't happy with your performance (NOT the reactions you got) - feel free to repeat this day.
Approach Anxiety Day 42 (Real Stuff)
Closer to the real thing.
Day 42 marks the beginning of level 6.
Just a quick glance at the drill below will suggest that you are not far from having IMPACT interactions.
In fact, the first 10-15 seconds and the social tension thereafter is pretty much the thing, you are just leaving early.
A drill like this is the beginning of building the intermediate fundamentals to approach just like I do (if you are trying to mirror that style).
Congrats. This is one that 98% of guys cannot do.
You've come this far. Keep fucking going.
Remember- IT MATTERS when YOU give a girl a compliment.
Or at least slowly try to feel that way, you might have to talk to some below-average girls to reinforce it.
Just remember- this is like any other day.
Do the drill.
No thinking.
That's it.
Audio Day 42 (18:11)
If you were unable to do the drill or weren't happy with your performance (NOT the reactions you got) - feel free to repeat this day.
Approach Anxiety Day 43
(Putting it Together)
Even closer to the real thing.
Do Day 43 over if you didn't finish really well. You'll need too.
Day 44 is like Day 43- it's just harder.
The nice part is- while the drill is "harder," or has more steps, for most guys- it will go as smoothly as the first few drills of the week.
Why?
Because you are making progress.
You are gaining exposure therapy.
You are gaining experience. (I've done this before...)
It's real, it's not a mirage, welcome to the beginning stages of social freedom.
Soon you'll be getting blown at a pool party while a crowd gathers and the guys think "damn, there goes my chance to hook up with her... that's a big dick getting sucked..."
Until then- carry on.
Remember- IT MATTERS when YOU give a girl a compliment.
Or at least slowly try to feel that way, you might have to talk to some below-average girls to reinforce it.
Just remember- this is like any other day.
Do the drill.
No thinking.
That's it.
Audio Day 43 (18:37)
√ I say welcome to Day 44-- but it's Day 43. My Bad.
If you were unable to do the drill or weren't happy with your performance (NOT the reactions you got) - feel free to repeat this day.
Approach Anxiety Day 44
(Eye Contact)
Test your might.
This is the first day that we've brought eye contact into the equation.
My thoughts on eye contact are this-
"If you see a chick you are interested in, use 5 seconds to try and establish eye contact with her and smile- if that doesn't happen, walk up to her and talk to her."
Try for eye-contact and a smile but if it doesn't happen- walk up and hit on her.
Although your approaches may "go better" when you make eye-contact- the last thing I want you to do is WAIT for eye contact.
You don't need to be waiting for eye-contact anymore than you would wait for a girl to say, "okay it's cool if you remove my pants," or "okay, I'm ready for you to insert your penis in my anus," or "Would you like a blowjob? I saw your dick throbbing and felt you would appreciate a cocksucker for a release."
You'll be waiting around and missing opportunities.
With all that said, it helps to get comfortable with establishing eye-contact. If you are in a big city and seemingly have an unlimited amount of girls to hit on (especially in street where girls are usually going places and not sexually available), it is obviously beneficial to find out which girls like you.
Remember- IT MATTERS when YOU give a girl a compliment.
Or at least slowly try to feel that way, you might have to talk to some below-average girls to reinforce it.
Unlike when you are approaching (and contrary to what I what said above), for the purposes of this drill- we only want you doing the drill on girls that return eye contact.
This drill might take you a while since you need to make eye-contact to do it.
Audio Day 44 (22:37)
Here's me doing the drill-
If you were unable to do the drill or weren't happy with your performance (NOT the reactions you got) - feel free to repeat this day.
Approach Anxiety Day 45
(Quick Compliments on Groups)
Do these drills on groups of 2+ girls.
We're going to pull groups into the mix today. The actual drill is stuff that you have already done.
It's not that it's literally "harder" to go talk to 2+ girls instead of just 1, it that you feel more vulnerable in doing so. Most guys feel that the girl you are talking to has a friend(s) to laugh with afterward.
This is my take on approaching "groups" of girls-
There's only 2 scenarios in which I [usually] do it-
I don't usually hit on groups of girls during the day if I'm looking to Get Laid.
Girls usually won't ditch their friends to go have sex with you without knowing that the friend(s) 100% approve AND won't judge them. My time is better spent screening girls that have way better logistics. With that said, in certain situations (like when I lived at Santa Monica Beach) I've taken girls right off the beach while their friends waited patiently.
For the most part, however- you should be hitting on girls that are ALONE if you goal is get some action THAT DAY.
In today's audio, I'll discuss how to separate girls from their friends and how to win them over pretty easily.
Remember- IT MATTERS when YOU give a girl a compliment.
Or at least slowly try to feel that way, you might have to talk to some below-average girls to reinforce it.
Audio Day 45 (40:36)
If you were unable to do the drill or weren't happy with your performance (NOT the reactions you got) - feel free to repeat this day.
Approach Anxiety Day 46 (Milestone)
Today is the day.
All that you have done this week- will make today go well.
It should- if you've truly dedicated yourself to doing and completing the drills to a high-standard.
That's because yesterday's drill was noticeably harder.
For most guys- today will mark ~3 months in the program.
3 months is a about the time where guys "may be ready" to approach girls, I don't suggest you stop the program if you complete today successfully, but I suggest you start approaching girls for real (when you are NOT doing the drills).
Today's drill mirrors nearly EXACTLY what I do when I walk up to a girl, during the day, with the game plan of taking her number.
You should be able to approach girls in a reasonable confident manner if you are able to complete today fairly easily.
It's IN and OUT, with the same components that you'll be testing below.
Good luck to you.
Remember- IT MATTERS when YOU give a girl a compliment.
Or at least slowly try to feel that way, you might have to talk to some below-average girls to reinforce it.
Walk up to a girl and say-
Audio Day 46 (15:03)
Here's me doing the drill-
If you were unable to do the drill or weren't happy with your performance (NOT the reactions you got) - feel free to repeat this day.
DO NOT CONTINUE UNTIL YOU CAN REALLY DO THIS DRILL.
Approach Anxiety Day 47
(Sundown)
To be done at a bar or club. Alone.
Day or Night, It Shouldn't Matter.
If you think about it, there's way too much of a big deal made about "how to approach girls during the day" and "how to approach girls during the night."
Some people make it sound like you need two completely different languages.
It's true that you should get more physical with girls during the night. To command attention and simply BECAUSE YOU CAN.
But your actual approach and game plan (to take her number or take her home) should always be the same.
Guys psyche themselves out and literally forget they are talking to other humans. The exact same humans that they have spoke to the previous 46 days.
Don't forget. You've done this before.
Just because the sun was out and not the moon- doesn't make it much different.
Get the job done tonight, just like you did on Day 46.
Canada's own Gordon Lightfoot
Remember- IT MATTERS when YOU give a girl a compliment.
Or at least slowly try to feel that way, you might have to talk to some below-average girls to reinforce it.
Same shit. Nearly.
Ball so hard.
20 girls is a lot of girls, so it might take you 2 hours to finish.
Audio Day 47 (20:30)
If you were unable to do the drill or weren't happy with your performance (NOT the reactions you got) - feel free to repeat this day.
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| Title | Approach Anxiety Program - Week 6 |
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| Author | Good Looking Loser |
| Date | April 8, 2013 12:00 AM UTC (11 years ago) |
| Blog | Good Looking Loser |
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