Do You Really Want the 'Playboy' Lifestyle? v1.21

Do you really want this?

Playboy Lifestyle

Most guys think they do - but sometimes they ultimately don't.

It was sort of both for me actually- I was somewhere in between.

Let me tell you about it-

Everyone has the at least a some level of the same needs and desires.

Everyone wants at least a little bit of love, respect, money and sexual gratification. These are innate human needs, not just selfish 'wants'. As you get better with women, you will ultimately decide how much you WANT (not need) them to be a part of your life. You will also decide to what capacity they will be part of your life.

For guys just starting out or guys that have underachieved in their dating and sex life, the desire for emotional and sexual gratification is usually extremely high. Mine was pretty high, even though I had the average sex and dating life into my mid 20's. I knew I was underachieving in my sex life and I reminded myself of that everyday (not productive, unless I took action).

Everyone has different goals when it comes to dating.

I wasn't super big on having as many one-night stands as possible or knowing that I wouldn't see the girl again. But I damn well wanted to date/be sleeping with a handful of regular super hot girls on a weekly basis. I thought that would be one of the most rewarding things ever. It was for about 2.5 years.

After I achieved (and exceeded) all my "dating" goals, my career and other personal goals took priority. Thankfully, I had the skills and persona to attract high quality compatible women into my life and I picked the best one of them to be my girlfriend. I planned to live a "player" lifestyle until I was about 40 years old. I enjoyed it for a while (over 2 years) and met some amazingly cool and hot women while living in the most beautiful city in the country (Los Angeles). But I found that I wanted something different that was more congruent to my overall lifestyle. I had the power to make that happen. For once, I was in a healthy relationship because I wanted to be, not because I needed to be.

Ironically, this is what seems to be happening to the vast majority of guys I know that are in their late 20s or early 30s that are really good with women. Even to guys that may have banged even more girls than I have. I don't know if it's the stereotypical "settling down" or just a welcome change in priorities.

If you've never enjoyed a high level of success with women, you should. Then you can step back and take a look at your life and rearrange things if you want to. A lot of guys spend 20 years on their career, hoping that if they have enough status or money, they can attract high-quality women. This is completely unnecessary and ultimately does not attract quality women with integrity. Walking up to a chick and talking to her and taking her home is far easier.

You can't get good with women easily, but you can get good with women pretty quick.

I do suggest however - before you get into a relationship, you should meet and sleep with enough girls to satisfy your needs. It especially important to fulfill your standards. Knowing you can get it and have it is very rewarding. You won't be emotionally or sexually needy.

You'll know when it's time to look for a keeper. You need to have the ability to attract women, so you have the self-confidence to stand up for yourself in your relationship. It ultimately makes your chick respect you and makes your relationship better. One of the biggest, if not the biggest decision, you'll make in your life is who you marry (if you believe in that). Make sure it's your decision and not just someone that is safe and equally desperate.

Don't decide now "if you really want this," decide after you have banged 40 or 50 hot girls, maybe 75 or 100. Maybe sure you get experience with a fair amount of the SUPER HOT girls that were formerly 'out of your league'. You gotta experience it ALL to have a good perspective of what you really want. When your dating and sex life suck - the rest of your life suffers. When your dating and sex are going well - the rest of your life will fall into place. I'm talking from experience- I've been on both sides of that. It's not all about pussy, but it's a wonderful distraction if nothing else. :)

If you have any questions or comments, definitely don't hesitate to post below.