Relationship and Oneitis (Part 2)
(by: Rooster, Good Looking Loser Contributor/Livestock)
continued from-
Here's some strategies and thoughts that Rooster complied from his own journey-
For the best guide EVER WRITTEN on managing uncommitted relationships, see- "Retention by Good Looking Loser"
What's most important to not act on them and take it as a sign that you need to bring other chicks on board. Be aware that it’s not a part of a healthy relationship, why it happens, and how to fix it.
GLL says:
In my early 20's, I used to stare at my phone for hours, calculating the time in between calls (there wasn't texting back then) and brainstorming/daydreaming about what the girl was doing. Now, I don't even remember if I called the girl or if I even thought she was cool. I literally don't care about the girl until she impresses me. So turning obsession to authentic 'indifference' is COMPLETELY possible, you just need to get some action.
GLL says:
I'll talk about this in detail later.
The ONE MANDATORY REQUIREMENT for being in a relationship is- YOU CAN GET LAID and the girl knows it.
You'll both know that you are in the relationship because you WANT to be and not because you NEED to be.
What it comes down to though is...
Fucking more than one girl at a time is the best solution to avoid and destroy oneitis, but if you don’t know how to have girls stay around in your life, you’ll likely have a lot of difficulty.
Learning how to do so can be the result of girls chasing you, instead of the other way around.
Simple things like you not labeling a relationship, seeing her just once a week and fucking her very well can make all the difference.
If you are really starting making significant progress and sleeping with a couple of women a month, be aware of all that we've discussed.
If you are pretty inexperienced, be even more aware, you are at the highest risk.
If you want a monogamous girlfriend, the same still definitely applies, if not more.
Being able to control your emotions will only make your relationships better.
An end to any relationship can suck, but how much it sucks can really varies on how you can deal with it, and your lifestyle.
Your reaction could be-
“Oh well, on to the next one!!”
Or
“That’s okay; I’m excited to meet more women.”
Instead of the usual-
“Oh no... this is going to drastically affect my mood for the next weeks or months...”
Or
“I’m never going to find another like her...”
I’m not saying to try and block out love or anything like that.
It’s definitely possible you could date a lot of these girls long-term, but the issues are becoming overly emotionally invested quickly before spending significant time with her.
It’s like having a governor on your long-term happiness.
Be aware of these negative powerful emotions, and stop them from controlling you.
Go Get Some!
Love, XOXO,
~ Rooster
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Title | The Emotions You Can Control to Avoid Oneitis (Rooster) |
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Author | Good Looking Loser |
Date | November 3, 2013 12:00 AM UTC (10 years ago) |
Blog | Good Looking Loser |
Archive Link |
https://theredarchive.com/blog/Good-Looking-Loser/the-emotions-you-can-control-to-avoid-oneitis.35192 https://theredarchive.com/blog/35192 |
Original Link | https://www.goodlookingloser.com/laid/index/oneitis-part-2 |
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