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My BDSM Tinder Profile

Andy
December 22, 2019

I’ve gotten laid well over 100 times from Tinder/Hinge/other apps using this BDSM Tinder profile (proof of my lays here, including pics, videos and lay reports), so these pics absolutely work, and work well.

I started out having NO idea what the hell I was doing, but figured it out as I went along. Read my full transformation story here.

I’m going to keep this updated regularly with my current online dating pics/bio. Your online dating profiles should be in a constant process of being improved over time, regularly updating it with better pics that show off your improving physique, your more interesting hobbies, etc. Over time you’ll figure out what works & what doesn’t work. Don’t let your profile (or anything in your life) stagnate.

Each time my online dating profile goes through a major improvement, I’ll post the new profile on here and move the old one to the bottom of this page.

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Current Profile (as of 2020):

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  1. Body photo: A professional photoshoot of my body in the most perfect lighting I could manage. Screens very hard for girls who want something sexual/casual – it’s very clear I’m not “looking for a nice girlfriend.”
  2. BDSM photo (holding a whip): Again, shows what I’m all about. It’s classy, it shows girls if they meet me we’ll be having sex, sex, and more sex.
  3. Me with a cute girl: My previous set of pics didn’t have anyone else in them (I was all alone in all of the pics), so I grabbed one of my girls for a quick photoshoot. Having a cute girl in your pics telegraphs that you’re a guy who’s comfortable with chicks (and probably gets laid).
  4. BDSM Photo: Shows what I’m all about – girls are under no illusions that I’ll be “Mr Boyfriend”. Note: I’ve had my account banned from using this photo a couple times (I’ve just made a new account each time). I’ve had others message me to say they tried it and had their account banned as well – so be prepared to have to make another account if you eventually get banned.
  5. Another BDSM photo: This time me in a suit holding up handcuffs. Chicks seem to dig the suit; I’ve had positive comments on it.
  6. Gym: Me way overdressed for the gym – in sneakers, jeans, a beanie, gold watch etc picking up some heavy-ass weight. It shows I go to the gym, and coupled with my first BDSM photo shows I’ll be able to easily physically dominate the girls I sleep with. And it’s also a little more lighthearted/silly than your average gym selfie. Eventually I’ll replace this with an even sillier one – eg maybe me wearing a full suit while deadlifting or something similar.
  7. Cat Selfie: Chicks love cats.
  8. Newspaper “weirdo” photo: A silly photoshoot I did, shows my creative side. Girls tell me they like it.
  9. Pink wig: Same thing; silly photoshoot showing off my humour.

There’s clearly a lot of improvements to be made; my photos, my looks and my body aren’t elite yet (though still pretty fucking good). As I’ll go into detail further below, you should be constantly looking for ways to improve your photos to get more (and hotter) matches over time.

My profile is obviosuly extremely sexual. You do NOT need to be this sexual – in fact, if you’re new, maybe it’ll be too much for you. Just follow my comprehensive Tinder guide that goes into detail of the photos you should take, how to improve your looks, etc.

The reason I’m so sexual in my photos is I got to a point where I was getting friendzoned a bit, and I’d go on dates wondering if this girl was actually going to sleep with me or not. I got sick of spending an hour or two on a date, only to have her say, “No thanks, I don’t want to come back to your apartment tonight.” I decided to start screening with the BDSM/sexual photos you see above, and boy did it work.

I got far less matches from being so sexual, but the girls that did match with me, were really into me. Since I make it so abundantly clear with my pictures and my texts that I’m looking for casual BDSM sex, girls know what they’re signing up for – so there’s less hassle, girls never play games with me, and sex is guaranteed if I meet a girl in person.



Bio:

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If you’re a tall guy, it’s worth putting your height in your bio somewhere; a tonne of girls will only match with tall guys, especially if they’re tall themselves. If you’re 5ft10/5ft11, buy height-increasing shoes (or inserts). Many of them can make you 3 inches taller. Then put your height as 6ft in your bio. If you’re shorter than 5ft10, just leave your height out.

The line about blindfolds tells girls what I’m looking for (sex), so I never match with any girls who are hunting for boyfriends or “nice guys”.



Hinge:

My Hinge profile uses the first 6 pics from my Tinder profile. Everything is pretty much the same as on Tinder.

The “Prompts” I use are:

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I pay for a “Preferred Membership” and then spam 100-200 girls a day with the same copy-paste line as I’ll show you below.



Marketing Yourself:

Your tinder profile is basically a sales pitch. You’re selling not only yourself, but THE BEST VERSION of yourself.

So no matter who you are in real life, Tinder/other dating apps offer you a chance to market yourself as something more. If you’re a bit of a loner in real life, it doesn’t even remotely matter when it comes to getting laid online. Just give the appearance of being a cool, chilled guy and that’s what people will assume you are.

Remember, girls spend hundreds/thousands of hours practicing putting on makeup, dressing themselves to show off their best assets, taking thousands (millions?) of selfies until they get the perfect angle/lighting/pose/etc. Girls are natural experts at marketing, so you should be too. Put as much time and effort into marketing yourself on Tinder/other apps as you can.

In late 2017/early 2018, I looked like absolutely shit (skinny-fat, you couldn’t see what little muscle I had). Here’s a photo I took back then:

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I looked pretty shit, right? (Thank god I look better now – these days I look like the photo on the right). But even though I used to look shit, I had good Tinder photos at the time – I had to do a lot to market myself as a whole lot sexier than the crappy picture above. In my pics, I looked great. That’s all that really matters. And I’ve gotten laid a tonne (proof). You need to do the same – market yourself in the best possible light. Sell yourself.

Another thing you need to think about is how you’re marketing your intentions. I’m purely going for sex/friends with benefits. In no way shape or form and I advertising myself as a boyfriend. I’m selling “Fuckboy Andy”.

It’s a combination of things – my cheeky bio about a firm hand. My not-so-subtle BDSM pictures. The fact I don’t look like a “nice guy” in any of my pics. My confident/masculine body language in every pic. And of course the very-sexual opening line I send to girls (more on that below).

If you don’t feel confident enough to be super sexual, I’d still recommend being as sexy/confident/masculine as you possibly can (and making it something you try very hard to improve over time). Just because you want a girlfriend doesn’t mean you should advertise yourself as “Mr Safe” or “Boyfriend Material”. In fact, you’ll do much better at finding a girlfriend if you’re as masculine and sexual as possible (see: Aggressive Game Only Gets Sluts?)

Remember, all of this is a gradual gradual process of improving. You improve your pics, improve how aggressive/ruthless you are, improve your standards for girls you bang, improve how quickly you ask for a number, improve what you say to girls, improve your confidence, etc. You don’t have to be perfect at the start.



Distance and Age Settings:

I have my age on Tinder set to 25 and then I use Tinder Gold to hide my age so it doesn’t show up (I’m actually in my 30’s as of writing this). Setting it to 25 or younger means you’ll match with far more 18-25 year olds (I don’t generally like girls older than 25). If a girl is 25 or under, when she signs up to Tinder the default search range for her will only show 18-25yo guys. Most girls don’t even think to change it, so if your age is over 25 you simply won’t be shown to younger girls.

Set your age to 25 (you may have to make a new Facebook account with age set to 25), then pay for Tinder Gold and hide your age:

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If any girls ask your age, tell them your real age – don’t lie. Honesty is always the best policy; we’re not here to deceive or manipulate anyone.

I have my distance set quite close (10km radius) as I’ve found girls who live further away are harder to meet up with.

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Tinder Gold/Boosts/Superlikes:

Tinder Gold: You should absolutely pay for Tinder Gold. Unfortunately as a man you won’t have any sort of success on Tinder without it (unless you’re a celeb/really really really good looking), so it’s a given. The ability to see which girls have liked you is mandatory. You’ll get 5 free superlikes a day, and if you have a decent profile, at least 1 of those superlikes will result in a match each day. You get a free boost each month as a nice extra bonus.

Boosts: Buy 1 or 2 a week and use them strategically, they’re bloody brilliant. I usually use 2 a week – late on a Friday and Saturday night. I’ve found the best time to boost is between 10pm and 2am Friday/Saturday. Sunday during the morning/afternoon is decent too.

Bare in mind I have a very sexual Tinder profile, especially with the BDSM pic as my main pic. So I have massive success on a Friday/Sat night, when girls are tipsy/lonely/horny. Use a boost and you’ll get at least 5 phone numbers per night within the space of 30 minutes (assuming you have good/sexual pics). This is why I advocate all guys have a sexual profile – you don’t want to be Mr Safe and Boring when all the girls are tipsy and horny late at night.

Superlikes: I don’t buy any extra ones; the 5 free each day are more than enough. Each day at least 1 of the 5 superlikes will result in a match, and these girls tend to be more likely to meet up.



What I Say:

I screen very hard for girls who are DTF and into trying BDSM. I copy-paste the same message to every girl:

Me: “Hey, you’re sexy. I’m Andy. I’m looking for something very specific on here.”
Her: “What’s that?”
Me: “Have experience with being submissive/BDSM, or is it something you’d like to explore?”
[If she’s down, I immediately say]: “Cool, we should grab a drink. What’s your number?”
[If she hesitates, or says “I want to talk for a bit first”, or says “I do want to explore it, but only with the right person” I immediately unmatch her. I’m aiming for efficiency with no games/no bullshit.]

Once I have her number:

Me: “Hey sexy, sup.”
Her: [Whatever she says]
Me: “When you think of BDSM, what comes to mind for you?”
Her: [Whatever she says]
Me: “Cool. Here’s a few BDSM examples from photoshoots I’ve done recently.” [I send her a few of my artsy BDSM photos.]
Me: “Free tomorrow night at 6pm? Let’s grab that drink.”

Note: If you’re not into BDSM or haven’t ever tried it, don’t just start immediately yanking girls’ hair and going crazy. Start slow with something like this.


The Type of Sex I Have

On my dates I usually do whatever I want, and that carries through to the bedroom as well. Sometimes we’ll hangout on my couch and talk for a while, especially if I find her interesting or we’re deep in the middle of an interesting conversation. (I’m not always in a rush to bang these days; I’m usually more laid-back and relaxed, because I’ve already had my fill of sex).

During those more-relaxed dates, I like to have fun teasing girls. While we’re just having a normal conversation on my couch, I’ll start playing with her tits over her clothes, or rubbing her pussy through her shorts, making her moan. I’ll carry on the conversation, even as she closes her eyes and moans, and then I’ll tease her by saying, “What’s going on? I’m trying to have a conversation here but for some weird reason you just seem to be unable to talk properly? Is something distracting you?” She’ll moan and be unable to really talk, my fingers on her pussy distracting her too much, leaving her only able to let out a weak, “You’re touching my pussy…”

I’ll keep teasing her and mocking her (in a friendly way), “I’m barely touching you at all though, and you seem so horny and desperate already? I’m just trying to talk to you but you girls are all the same, you have a one-track-mind and can’t think about anything other than sex.” I always say this with a big smile on my face.

She’ll get more and more turned on, less and less able to talk, until finally I’ll say, “Do you want me to stop talking and just fuck you?” All girls say yes & even beg at this point, but I’ll give them a cheeky smile and whisper in their ear, “No. I’m going to keep teasing you for a while. This is too much fun.” I love that shit, and they love it too.

In case it’s not clear, I am a bit of a horny mo’fucka. I like rough sex, gentle sex, kinky sex, vanilla sex, toys, massage oil, fetishes and fantasies, roleplays and “scenes” (where you act out a particular sex act or roleplay you’ve discussed with a girl beforehand). I love me dominating the girl, as well as getting her to take the lead (you’ll still have to direct her & teach her how to take the lead – it doesn’t come naturally to 99% of girls). I’ve had sex in public, sex in my apartment, sex on the balcony and sex on the kitchen bench. Read my Sexual Bucketlist article – I’m into basically every single thing on that list (and a whole lot more).

I’m also a big fan of toys, blindfolds, restraints and vibrators (especially this massive vibrator) – I really like to mix it up. There’s nothing more fun (for you, and the girl) than blindfolding her and spending ages teasing her, touching her all over, whispering dirty stuff in her ear as you play with her body. Girls love not knowing what’s about to happen, and a blindfold is a shortcut to that. If you don’t have a blindfold, just grab a suit tie, or a tea towel – anything that’ll cover her eyes.

I talk more about the type of sex I have here.


I’ve got a tonne of toys, but you can get started for barely any money with just these two (both are affiliate links):

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BDSM Starter Kit (everything you need to get started with BDSM/kinky sex).

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Magic Wand Vibrator (to give her mind-blowing orgasms; literally just hold it against her pussy and she’ll be screaming in pleasure).


Other Dating Apps

I use pretty much the same profile/technique for all the other dating apps too. These days I use Tinder, Hinge and Bumble – but back in the day I got laid quite a bit on OkCupid/POF (something like 30+ times, roughly).

Lately, Hinge has been kicking ass – I’m getting laid more on Hinge than Tinder.

On Bumble, I can’t use any BDSM pictures (they get deleted within 5 minutes) – so I use normal pictures but still use my BDSM copy-paste line.


Want an Even More Comprehensive Guide to Getting Laid on Tinder?

Read my (free) comprehensive Tinder/online dating guide here:

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I go into much more detail than I do in this article – it’s longer than most books, and covers absolutely everything you’ll ever need to know about improving your looks, taking the best photos for Tinder/Hinge/other dating apps, getting matches, messaging girls, getting laid and retaining them afterwards. It’s completely free, with no “enter your email first before you can read this” bullshit.



Old Profiles:

Profile I used up until May 2020:

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  1. Body photo: A professional photoshoot of my body in the most perfect lighting I could manage. Screens very hard for girls who want something sexual/casual – it’s very clear I’m not “looking for a nice girlfriend.”
  2. BDSM Photoshoot with Girl: Again, shows what I’m all about. It’s classy, it shows girls if they meet me I’ll be somewhat professional and know what I’m doing.
  3. Cat Selfie: Chicks love cats.
  4. BDSM Photo: Shows what I’m all about – girls are under no illusions that I’ll be “Mr Boyfriend”. Note: I’ve had my account banned from using this photo multiple times (I’ve just made a new account each time). I’ve had others message me to say they tried it and had their account banned as well – so be prepared to have to make another account if you eventually get banned.
  5. Gym: Me way overdressed for the gym – in sneakers, jeans, a beanie, gold watch etc picking up some heavy-ass weight. It shows I go to the gym, and coupled with my first BDSM photo shows I’ll be able to easily physically dominate the girls I sleep with. And it’s also a little more lighthearted/silly than your average gym selfie. Eventually I’ll replace this with an even sillier one – eg maybe me wearing a full suit while deadlifting or something similar.
  6. Green Tanktop: Shows off my tatts and a bit of my body. I’m in the process of losing weight; will reshoot this when I’m lean.
  7. Plushies Having Sex: Completely silly and sexual at the same time. That’s me in a nutshell.
  8. Newspaper “weirdo” photo: Another silly photoshoot I did, shows my creative side. Girls tell me they like it.


Profile I used up until Feb 2020

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  1. BDSM Photo: Shows what I’m all about – girls are under no illusions that I’ll be “Mr Boyfriend”. Note: I’ve had my account banned from using this photo multiple times (I’ve just made a new account each time). I’ve had others message me to say they tried it and had their account banned as well – so be prepared to have to make another account if you eventually get banned.
  2. Selfie: Looking cocky. Most of the time I don’t recommend selfies (it’s hard to look good in them), but if you can pull it off, use it.
  3. Gym: Me way overdressed for the gym – in sneakers, jeans, a beanie, gold watch etc picking up some heavy-ass weight. It shows I go to the gym, and coupled with my first BDSM photo shows I’ll be able to easily physically dominate the girls I sleep with. And it’s also a little more lighthearted/silly than your average gym selfie. Eventually I’ll replace this with an even sillier one – eg maybe me wearing a full suit while deadlifting or something similar.
  4. Green Tanktop: Shows off my tatts and a bit of my body. I’m in the process of losing weight; will reshoot this when I’m lean.
  5. BDSM Photoshoot with Girl: Again, shows what I’m all about. It’s classy, it shows girls if they meet me I’ll be somewhat professional and know what I’m doing.
  6. Me with a Cute Girl: My previous set of pics didn’t have anyone else in them (I was all alone in all of the pics), so I grabbed one of my girls for a quick photoshoot. Having a cute girl in your pics telegraphs that you’re a guy who’s comfortable with chicks (and probably gets laid).
  7. Plushies Having Sex: Completely silly and sexual at the same time. That’s me in a nutshell.
  8. Cat Selfie: About time I have an animal photo in my profile.
  9. Pink wig: Girls love this one. It’s a crazy photoshoot I did a few years back, with teddy bears having a tea party and plenty of confetti flying around. Shows off a silly side of me, which is a nice counterbalance to the first two photos. I plan to keep this one.

 

Profile I used up until August 2019

  1. Brown jacket: Fairly casual shot showing off my chilled, relaxed side. I’ve lost recently and my face looks a lot better in this pic than all the rest (need to re-shoot all the other pics/use new ones where I look lean).
  2. Green tanktop: Shows off my tatts and a bit of my body. I’m in the process of losing weight; will reshoot this when I’m lean.
  3. Gym: A somewhat-goofy photo of me in sneakers, jeans, a beanie, gold watch etc picking up some heavy-ass weight. It shows I go to the gym, and coupled with my first BDSM photo shows I’ll be able to easily physically dominate the girls I sleep with. And it’s also a little more lighthearted/silly than your average gym selfie. At some point I’ll replace this with an even sillier one – eg maybe me wearing a full suit while deadlifting or something similar.
  4. Me with a cute girl: My previous set of pics didn’t have anyone else in them (I was all alone in all of the pics), so I grabbed one of my girls for a quick photoshoot. Having a cute girl in your pics telegraphs that you’re a guy who’s comfortable with chicks (and probably gets laid).
  5. Camera around my neck: Decent outdoors photo showing I’m a photographer. Plan on replacing this soon, as it was taken years ago before I started going to the gym.
  6. Bar: Girls occasionally comment on this because I’m in a bar wearing headphones – they ask if I’m a DJ (I’m not). Definitely replacing this; it’s not a great photo (bad lighting, nobody else in the picture with me, etc).
  7. Pink wig: Girls love this one. It’s a crazy photoshoot I did a few years back, with teddy bears having a tea party and plenty of confetti flying around. Shows off a silly side of me, which is a nice counterbalance to the first two photos. I plan to keep this one.
  8. Modelling photoshoot: Showing off my photography hobby, girls love this one. I plan to keep this one.f
  9. BDSM photo: Shows what I’m all about – girls are under no illusions that I’ll be “Mr Boyfriend”. Note: I’ve had my account banned from using this photo multiple times (I’ve just made a new account each time). I’ve had others message me to say they tried it and had their account banned as well – so be prepared to have to make another account if you get banned.

Photos I plan on adding: I’ll get my second tatt then take better photos. I’m currently cutting (losing weight), so I’ll redo quite a few of these photos when I’m lean.

Remember: Constant process of improving/upgrading over time.

Profile I used up before that

  1. BDSM photo: My main photo. This catches the eye of a lot of girls, especially late at night on a Thursday/Friday/Saturday night when they’re drunk and a little horny. It also instantly telegraphs what I’m about, so there’s absolutely no doubt. There’s a tonne of girls who sit around daydreaming about 50 Shades of Grey, being tied up and spanked, being roughed up, etc. I can’t tell you how many girls I bang who say, “As soon as I saw your BDSM picture I knew I had to finally explore this side of myself.” I plan to always keep this as my main photo. Update: A few people have tried using this same BDSM photo and had their account banned. I’ve never had an issue with it, but be warned you may want to forgo the BDSM pic if you’re worried about being banned.
  2. Gym: A somewhat-goofy photo of me in sneakers, jeans, a beanie, gold watch etc picking up some heavy-ass weight. It shows I go to the gym, and coupled with my first BDSM photo shows I’ll be able to easily physically dominate the girls I sleep with. And it’s also a little more lighthearted/silly than your average gym selfie. At some point I’ll replace this with an even sillier one – eg maybe me wearing a full suit while deadlifting or something similar.
  3. Modelling photo: A decent street shot of me trying to look cool. I’ll definitely replace this with a better one.
  4. Pink wig: Girls love this one. It’s a crazy photoshoot I did a few years back, with teddy bears having a tea party and plenty of confetti flying around. Shows off a silly side of me, which is a nice counterbalance to the first two photos. I plan to keep this one.
  5. Douchebag bathroom selfie: Again, showing I have a body and can dominate girls. I’ll replace this with a better photo soon, especially as I’m now leaner and have a tattoo (girls love tatts).
  6. Outdoors with camera: Decent outdoors photo showing I’m a photographer. Plan on replacing this soon, as it was taken years ago before I started going to the gym.
  7. Bar: Girls occasionally comment on this because I’m in a bar wearing headphones – they ask if I’m a DJ (I’m not). Definitely replacing this; it’s not a great photo.
  8. Newspaper “weirdo” photo: Another silly photoshoot I did, shows my creative side just like the pink wig photo. Girls dig it. I’ll keep this one.

There’s clearly a lot of improvements to be made; my photos aren’t even remotely perfect. As I’ll go into detail further below, you should be constantly looking for ways to improve your photos to get more (and hotter) matches over time.

Photos I plan on adding: I’m getting a second tattoo in the next few months and want to show off my two tattoos in some way. A tonne of girls love tatts. I’ll take a better gym photo. I’ll steal somebody’s dog and take a photo with it (for some reason girls have this obsession with dogs on Tinder/other apps). I’ll take a photo with mates or girls – every single one of my photos shows only me, so I sorta look like a bit of a loner. I’ll take a photo of me rockclimbing, as it’s an interesting hobby and will show off my physique.

Remember: Constant process of improving/upgrading over time.


And the profile before that:

Here were my thoughts behind the photos/bio, from a conversation I had with a few friends:

I look like a cool, interesting guy with a tonne of different hobbies. Each photo shows off a different hobby. The pink wig one is random as fuck. I have one showing me with a camera. One of me modelling. One of bdsm. One of me in a bar, girls ask “are you a DJ?” One of me weightlifting. I have “crime fighter” in my job description which a tonne of girls ask about (I tell them I’m batman, and they have to promise not to tell anyone). My bio is also really cheeky with the hair pulling thing.


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Date December 22, 2019 7:54 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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