Here’s more grist for the mill. I’ll give myself 7/10 for technique. I post it here mainly as a compare-and-contrast with the previous post. It shows very clearly how different sets can be depending on how much the language barrier gets in the way.
0:11 – I pegged her for a girl likely to give the defensive “no speaky english” initial response so I went in soft and slow
0:26 – She’s not flightly at all despite the conversation having barely started. I’m starting to think she’s a high esteem girl. The situation helped – she was just ambling along the riverside with nothing better to do
0:28 – Realising she’s Japanese I know dropping some Jap language on her will hook really easily but I have to make sure I back out into English so she is competing in my sport. If I’d stayed in Japanese it would be too try-hard, would relax her too much, and would frame her as more competent than me.
0:46 – Mostly I’m working the energy levels here. Bringing them right down to lull her to sleep.
0:51 – An easy tease about her being a country bumpkin
1:09 – Nice head tilt and question from her. She’s warming to this.
1:12 – So I do a light compliance test. I don’t actually touch her because that subcommunicates try-hard. Instead I’m trying to lead her to do it herself upon my direction.
1:20 – Strong steady eye contact from her so soon. It’s not sexual yet, it’s simple high-esteem focus. She’s seeing what I have.
1:39 – I don’t need to speak so slow. It’s all about the subcommunication in vocal tone, speed and energy.
2:22 – When the language is difficult but the girl is hooked, it’s important to have the subcommunication of “we can still figure this out and talk” rather than “oh no! this is an insurmountable obstacle and it’ll never go anywhere”. You can fuck girls who can barely speak to you.
2:36 – Eye contact is starting to get flirty. Everything with high esteem girls is subtle.
3:24 – I’m getting her to open up about herself so I be quiet and let her talk
4:01 – Our energies are well matched. I took a gamble that she was chill and low energy and it paid off.
4:50 – Jump on the ninja theme to get the vibe more playful and away from the basic facts of her life. Do a little fantasy.
5:57 – I’m talking over her a little bit throughout the set. That’s a mistake. It was the first one of the day so I’m still warming up.
6:09 – Now that I’ve mentioned her hair in her face a few times, she’s holding her hand up to stop it happening again. She’s also staying talking despite it being pretty cold and windy. Girls will tolerate lots of discomfort in order to stay in a conversation with a man they like. This is an IOI.
6:51 – The language barrier is hobbling any chance of getting playful with nuance, puns and other verbal playing (unlike the video in the previous post – she was a native speaker so that whole world of verbal jousting was opened up). Thus I’m keeping this simple and working the non-verbals
7:05 – I’m pretty sure her character is such that these attempts at playful rapport would hit if she actually understood english better.
7:38 – Falling back onto non-verbal leading
8:00 – It seems like I always find a way to get my boyhood into sets
8:40 – Still holding her hair out from her face, and with such a cute look. I very much want to violate this girl.
8:44 – Demanding she does things for me.
9:00 – “I don’t believe you” is a great line to drop into a set. You are defiant. A challenge.
9:15 – Putting ourselves on the same team against the world as a rapport-builder. I stand next to her like we are a couple standing against the river of people flowing past.
9:53 – IOI
10:15 – So girly. She’s screened in
10:43 – This is funny in Japanese
11:10 – Reframe the instant-date fail as my business and go for the number.
11:36 – I get girls to hold my gloves while I numberclose. It helps subcommunicate that I don’t feel like I’m getting lucky and winning a number.
13:08 – I realise I haven’t verbally SOIed her in the approach so I give her an overt verbalisation of why I like her and want to take the number.