This is a continuation of the previous post. I’d just logged off to go watch a movie and pretty much the moment I log back on, she’s opening me again. My reading is that she’s almost on the hook and is wanting to submit to me but her rationalisation hamster requires a few more spins before it’s satisfied.
Her: how was the movie?
Me: oh you….. heh! it was awesome! guns cars explosions sex fights [contrast game between the educated sophisticated guy and the retarded caveman]
Her: as i said..very YOU! [big IOI]
Me: I usually like Nicolas Cage movies we share the same brain [yet again, I yank the conversation off the usual well-worn treads and run with it]
Her: i think is time to change your brain you need a soft, polite, kind brain [an IOI because she is invested enough to want to modify my behaviour. But obviously also a shit test to beta-tise me]
Me: I can be soft, polite and kind occasionally
Her: how many girls did you approach in Oxford St today? haha [she knows I teach]
Me: None. Too many Brazilians. Crazy, brunette Brazilians (the annoying type) [agree and amplify, frame her as bratty]
Her: very funy :p the best ones you meant to say
Me: There’s one Brazilian I really like but he’s in Sao Paulo now [she’s met Suave, so she knows who I mean. I leave about thirty seconds between the sentences for comedic timing]
Her: i knew it 😦
Me: heh! [an all-purpose response when she doesn’t give you enough to work with]
Her: 😛 😛
Me: you can be my 2nd favourite Brazilian [never ever 1st. It’s a good game to rank a girl really low on some ridiculous list e.g. “you are my 25th favourite thing in the world. Above eggs, below elephants”]
Her: 😛
Me: actually, no my 2nd favourite is Pele you can be 3rd
Her: hahahahhahaha [she’s loving it. No-one talks to her like this]
Me: in fact this is my 3rd favourite
Her: hahahahaha you are boring but i have to say you amuse me [another IOI but as usual she won’t quite fold her cards]
Me: blah blah blah [another general purpose response. It’s important not to start preening myself in pride at the compliment she gave. She’s used to guys jumping on it]
Her: keep makes me laugh 😀
Me: laugh quietly don’t disturb your neighbours [order her around]
Her: I laughed loud the guy next to my room is studing now you see what you do is your fault
Me: I feel very bad now my conscience is hurting me he might fail his exams be thrown out of school be unemployed start taking drugs [again I yank the conversation away and go off on a tangent]
Her: i hope so….i dont like him! hehe [do NOT co-sign bad behaviour, even though its clearly playful. It’s a great chance to show I don’t pander to her whims.]
Me: that’s very mean. -5 points for you be nice be super nice
Her: laugh loud againn hahaha you are so nice…+10 points for you now i have to go… [she’s rapport-seeking by mirroring my points scale, but it’s also a subtle frame steal]
Me: cool, I’m on 3,423,978 points [link] [agree and amplify]
Her: dislike
Me: boo [she didn’t give me much, so I don’t give much]
Her: ghost?
Me: similar, but more scary it’ll give you nightmares
Her: -20 points be nice! [rapport-seeking and frame-stealing. This girl is sharp]
Me: ok Sleep well, have sweet dreams [she’s not giving enough value to hold my attention so I politely dismiss her, even though I’m just reframing her need to go as my need to go]
Her: tks you too
Me: 😉
Her: 🙂 bye
