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Advice For The Virgins

laidnyc
February 10, 2014

An emailer writes:

Let’s say your’e a 25 year old virgin and you just have no game (I’ve played around, but I’ve never fucked a girl.). Where should a guy like me start? Any simple resources to use? I don’t drink or anything like that anymore, so I don’t enjoy clubs/loud bars.

I remember with crystal clarity the first time I had sex.  It was great for me and I can only assume it was transcendent for her, but it didn’t CHANGE me.  I still had the same problems, challenges, goals.  I had gotten my pencil wet and my rocks off, but I was still the same guy.

I won’t deny that getting that first slice of pie is important to a guy’s self-worth, but a panacea it ‘aint.  Thinking there is an answer or a pot of golden treasures inside your first vagina is a mistake.  Don’t go to a prostitute, or fuck a cougar or dumpster dive with a fat chick just to get your first lay.  That shit is depressing, and will likely harm your confidence in the long run.

The real answer is to stop focusing on how to get laid and start focusing on becoming a guy who gets laid.  If you’re a 25 year old virgin you have some serious issues to fix at your core.  There’s probably a major flaw, a problem.  You may have an idea what it is.  Maybe something you’ve been afraid to consciously acknowledge.  I don’t know what it is, but a vagina won’t fix it.

Consider turning your computer off.  I could link you a reading list a mile long but none of it will calibrate your social skills.

Go outside.
Dress Better.
Make new friends.
Reconnect with old friends.
Talk to girls every fucking day.
Work out.
Do fun things.  Jetski or something.
Take a leadership role.  Be a leader.
Get a better job. Make money, spend money.
Get interested in something and talk about what interests you.

Does this sound like truism feel-good bullshit? Possibly.  But how much of it do you actually do?  There is an endless list of fundamentals a guy needs to master before he gets to the “she said this, I say this” stage of game.  There is a wealth of knowledge out there for you, but start focusing on action, not information acquisition.  Not even the classic Roissy archive can make you a better man if you don’t first get off your couch.

How many girls have you had a longer than ten minute face to face conversation with in the last year?  Have you ever approached a girl you found attractive?  Do people invite you places because they enjoy your company?

Fuck blogs.  Fuck game.  Stop reading.  If you are a 25-year old virgin, you have likely spent too much time in front of screens in your life (TV, computer, phone).  So stop that.  There’s no magic lines to learn, but there are things you KNOW you need to do to get better.  So fucking do them.

Here’s the playbook, turn off the computer, go do what you think being a man is for at least a month.  Talk to some girls, have some fun, spend time with actual human beings in real life.  Then come back.  Read our blogs with the proper perspective.  Only after you have exhausted your own ideas of manhood would I advise you to start reading.  Start from the first Heartiste post and read onwards, click through Frost and Krauser and my archive.  But don’t click those links yet, you’re not ready.

Go forth and go for what you want unapologetically.  If you’re not willing to do that, nobody can help you.

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Title Advice For The Virgins
Author laidnyc
Date February 10, 2014 10:47 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Blog LaidNYC
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