Is this attitude K or R selected? Provider or cad? Alpha fucks, or beta bucks?
The profane is the sacred. “Daddy loves you, you little fuck.”
It’s BOTH at the SAME TIME.
It doesn’t alternate back and forth, one microsecond at a time. It’s not two parallel streams.
It’s BOTH – all at once.
Think about that!
There need be NO dichotomy whatsoever between bad boy cad and father figure provider.
There is NO binary system AT ALL. Unless YOU make one.
The girl is fucking her bad daddy.
Which makes her a bad girl.
And yet they love and are deeply bonded to each other.
(Sometimes Daughter even likes to be raped by Daddy, and will scream “No Daddy No! Stop stop!” Many Daughters spontaneously played that game, deliberately loud so neighbors can hear, to heighten the voyeuristic drama pleasure, and they had perfectly normal childhoods with no molestation. It’s an archetypal role the same way playing the mommy or baby when children play house is archetypal. Quite the look of glowing satisfaction after they come playing that game. And boy will they be close and clingy in love afterwards. THAT is love. Love HER, ALL of her. Not just her Madona.)
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There is an old saying that is popular among beginner and coffee-shop Buddhists.
“If you see the Buddha in the road, kill him.”
It means that Enlightenment, or Buddha Nature, or the true nature of your mind, is not an attainment or something external or different than it’s opposite. Suchness, nowness. You can’t escape it, and if you think you can, you are insulting the very nature of what Buddha nature even means.
That idea is very analogous and appropriate for how to have a relationship, and how to love and share and be in love.
There is no Maddona/whore complex. There is no spectrum between beta provider and pump and dump cad.
All of those archetypes are currently present in both you and your girl, right now, currently.
You accept them. You let them talk whenever they need to. You don’t have to keep them in a closet. You USE them.
You watch all different types of hard core porn with your girl, while you fuck. You sometimes have sweet very romantic sex sessions. You might even have public or group sex. And you love and fall in love and bond as deeply as you want; and you will want.
It’s all fine; all the same thing; all different flavors of appreciation and fun.
There are no separate boxes or rooms.
There is no need WHATSOEVER to strategize while doing pick up if you need to play more to her need for a quick fuck or to a boyfriend.
Just see her and play. Whatever is appropriate will come out, if you are honest and open.
And you might be surprised at what comes out of even inexperienced virgins, if you are fully open and loving. There is an inner slut in EVERYONE.
And lots of inner femininity in yourself.
It’s all good.
It can all come out to play.
There are no boxes. No rules.
The woman will want to keep you. She will fall in love on the first date; right away.
She will be so aroused and comfortable and at home. So appreciated.
No boxes, no lines. It’s all completely seamless.
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If you think that you have a Madona/whore complex, you don’t have to change a thing. Just start by accepting how you feel. Never mind how you SHOULD feel. Lean in. The part of you that doesn’t want a slut wants to pair bond. Accept, embrace, and USE that part of your self. It’s real, and won’t shut up. Don’t make him shut up. He won’t, through any brute force.
And the part of yourself that likes sluts? Lean in. Sluts often have high libido, are VERY open to new experiences, and can fuck and fuck and fuck and come a lot, like world class top athletes. Great lusty hunger.
Ok, listen to and appreciate that part of yourself. Don’t be ashamed of it. Don’t put it into a room, and only let him come out to play when you are drunk.
Eventually the two parts of yourself will become close friends. One day they will be the SAME person. You.
You’ll just accept ALL of yourself.
Then, slowly, you’ll start to see that other people are also like you.
And forgive and accept them.
Girls don’t have a dual mating strategy. That’s bullshit. You don’t have a Madona/whore complex. That’s bullshit.
We all of us contain multitudes, AT THE SAME TIME. We don’t have to alternate, or have boxes and lines and rooms.
We can all just get along and unify our minds and love each other extremely proficiently, with humor and incredible top end top notch the best that we are physically capable of sex.
