“A leader is one who knows the way, goes the way, and shows the way.” –John Maxwell
“Men especially like women who are receptive to their humor in sexual relationships. Women, in contrast, are attracted to men who produce humor, and that’s true for all types of relationships, from one-night stands to lifelong matings.” [Meston, Cindy M.; Buss, David Why Women Have Sex: Understanding Sexual Motivations from Adventure to Revenge (and Everything in Between) (pg 21.)] This dynamic is reflective of an important and pervasive element to male-female sexual dynamics: the man is (largely) the doer, the woman is the receiver.
This dynamic is apparent in many areas of an interaction: the man approaches the woman, the man generally must lead things forward physically (e.g. initiate the kiss), the man penetrates the woman in sex, and the man generally needs to lead the conversation.
There are exceptions, some women like to be the aggressor in an interaction. However, expecting this to happen, or waiting to meet women who prefer to take this role will severely limit your results. Most women expect the man to take the responsibility in sexual interactions, and this just is what it is.
Leading a conversation doesn’t mean you must be domineering, it just means that it’s your responsibility to make sure the conversation hits the notes you want it to hit.
You must give your conversations with women proper direction. Treat a conversation with a woman like a dance: if you don’t take the initiative and lead it effectively, it won’t go anywhere meaningful.
In interactions with women, it’s your responsibility to build a sense of comfort, to avoid boring topics, to create an emotional charge, and to lead the interaction deeper to create emotional vulnerability. Conversation is an incredibly powerful tool, and with it, you can change how a woman feels about you, you can make her feel a deep connection with you, and you can make her sexually desire you.
If you don’t take the conversational initiative, chances are, the conversation won’t go anywhere interesting or impactful. It will be a normal, surface-level exchange.
Because of this, it is important that you change the topic if she goes down a conversational thread that isn’t useful to your goals. For example, if she starts complaining about her job or her ex-boyfriends, cut her off, change the topic.
Generally, you can do this with a light touch and simply say something like, “Oh yeah, that’s cool. Anyway, (then switch the topic to something more useful).” Just change the topic and move on without paying it any mind.
If a girl is insistent on talking about something that offers no value to a conversation, you may need to be more assertive and say something along the lines of, “I’m sorry, I’m just not interested in talking about work drama. I’m hanging out with you to have fun, and that kind of stuff isn’t fun for me.”
Doing this is not only powerful because it helps set the tone of the interaction in a way that’s useful to you, but also because it’s attractive when a man sets boundaries. As long as you do this without being bitter, it adds to the sexual tension.
Sexual tension is created when people clash with and challenge each other; the sense of conflict adds a charge to an interaction whereas a purely nice and agreeable exchange is pleasant, but boring.
For more about creating sexual tension, you can read this article: https://redpilltheory.com/2017/08/12/how-to-make-her-want-you/
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|Title||How to Attract Women With Dominance Pt. 2- Conversational Leading|
|Date||September 20, 2017 1:20 AM UTC (5 years ago)|
|Blog||Red Pill Theory|
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