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How to Get A Girlfriend In College (4 Simple Steps)

August 16, 2018

How to Get A Girlfriend In College (4 Simple Steps)

Getting a girlfriend in college should be easy. There are thousands of beautiful women who want to meet a cool guy on campus. Hypothetically, you could approach a few women, get their numbers, and meet a high-quality girlfriend.

Sounds easy, but for most guys, getting a girlfriend in college is a daunting task. I know this because I didn’t get a girlfriend until my Junior year.

I didn’t realize it, but I was making a huge mistake – a mistake that prevents most men from getting the girlfriend they want.

The moment I understood the mistake I was making, my life completely changed (and I was able to easily find a girlfriend).

What was my mistake?

I didn’t create a specific plan for getting a girlfriend.

Create a Specific Plan

I knew I wanted a girlfriend. I knew I had to meet women to get a girlfriend. But I didn’t create a specific, actionable plan.

If you want to succeed in any area of life, you need to take the time to create a blueprint for your success.

For example, if you want to lose weight, you could use an online calculator to discover how many calories you’d need to eat to maintain your current weight.

Then, you could download a calorie tracking application like “Myfitnesspal” – and make sure to eat 300 calories less than your maintenance number.

Follow this plan, and weight loss would be guaranteed (in fact, that’s the strategy I used to lose 20 pounds in the last 2 months).

The same is true for dating: if you create a good plan, you can reliably get the result you want (i.e. dates or a girlfriend). But if you don’t create a plan, your results are unlikely to change.

The first step to creating a plan for your dating life is deciding how you want to meet women.

There are three realistic options:

  • You can meet women through your classes/job (social circle).
  • You can meet women online (Tinder).
  • You can meet women through cold approach (on campus/bars).

Social Circle

In most cases, social circle is the worst of the three options for meeting women. Despite this, it’s the strategy most men rely on (because it’s the easiest). It’s not hard to talk to a girl who sits next to you in class every day.

It might be easy to meet a girl in class. But what are the chances that the girl you sit next to is single, is attracted to you, and is also the kind of girl you want to date?

Very low. You’re only going to be compatible with a small percentage of the women you meet. Because there’s only a few girls you interact with in your social circle regularly (classmates/coworkers), it’s unlikely you’re going to find a high-quality girlfriend that way.

Social circle is probably the strategy you’ve relied on to meet women up to this point (it was the strategy I relied on, too). Obviously, if you’re reading this article, it hasn’t worked. So, it’s time for a better strategy.

Online Dating

Dating apps like Tinder have one major advantage: it’s easy. It takes a lot less courage to message a girl online than it does to approach a girl in person.

Plus, if a woman on Tinder agrees to meet you for a date, you already know she’s single and that she’s attracted to you. It’s not hard to move things forward from there.

However, Tinder has a serious problem: the competition puts men at an inherent disadvantage.

The average girl on Tinder has infinite matches and countless offers for dates. To get a girl on Tinder, you have to stand out from the droves of guys hitting her up. That’s not easy.

This is even worse when it comes to meeting particularly beautiful women online. There’s so much competition that it’s unlikely she’ll even see your profile. Tinder can be a great way to meet girls, but very, very few guys end up dating the highest quality women via Tinder.

Tinder is good for quantity, but not quality. That said, you can use Tinder to go on some dates and get experience. But it’s not a good platform for finding a girlfriend (unless you have low standards).

Now, if you can make an outstanding profile (95% of this is having professional quality pictures), you may be able to find a great girl on Tinder. But the odds are against this happening.

Cold Approach

Approaching a girl on the street and getting her number isn’t easy. Whether or not we like to admit it, we all fear rejection. And the act of cold approach is facing that fear head on.

The first time I walked around my college campus to meet women, my approach anxiety was so bad I couldn’t do a single approach in 4 hours.

It sucked. But not having a girlfriend sucked more. So, I learned to deal with approach anxiety – I had no other choice.

Guys often think, “How can I get rid of approach anxiety.” But a better question to ask yourself is, “What’s worse, approach anxiety, or not having high quality women in my life?”

Most universities have between 20,000 and 50,000 students. You could approach 10 women every day for an entire semester, and you would probably never approach the same girl twice. There’s so many people on campus that you can approach regularly without getting a bad reputation (unless you’re weirdly aggressive or something).

Cold approach is a numbers game. No matter who you are, most of your approaches aren’t going to lead to sex or a relationship.

At the same time, even if you’re below average looking and don’t have the best social skills, some of the women you approach will like you.

(A higher ratio of women will be attracted to you as you become more attractive).

For most guys, cold approach is the best strategy for getting a girlfriend in college. Because, with it, you can make a plan that will guarantee you date the kind of women you want to.

(In The Trial, there’s a step-by-step plan you can follow that will get you a girlfriend in eight weeks).

Creating Your Plan

I recommend you approach women at least twice a week (you can do more if you have the time), and each time you go out, you approach at least 5 women.

As you get comfortable with going out and approaching, you should make a point to start asking girls for their phone number or taking them on instant dates.

Of course, the exact steps in your plan depend on what you’re capable of at this point in your life. But, no matter your experience level, your plan should include approaching women at your school on a weekly basis.

I keep track of my plan using a word document. For example, if I had a goal to meet women on campus 3 times per week, I would write it out like this:

September Goals:

Week 1:

-Approach 5 women

-Approach 5 women

-Approach 5 women

Week 2:

-Approach 5 women

-Approach 5 women

-Approach 5 women

Week 3:

-Approach 5 women

-Approach 5 women

-Approach 5 women

Week 4:

-Approach 5 women

-Approach 5 women

-Approach 5 women

Once I finish the goal, I use a strikethrough to mark it as complete. Keeping track of my goals this way helps me stay on course over a long period of time (otherwise, it’s easy to forget my plan and ultimately, ignore it).

The Four Steps Your Plan Should Include

Roughly speaking, the first step to getting a girlfriend is approaching women. The second step is getting phone numbers. The third step is going on dates with the girls whose numbers you have. And the fourth is bringing a girl home from a date (once you’ve had sex, it’s usually easy to make her your girlfriend. Unless you’re not very good at it, in which case I recommend you read this article).

Create a plan with all these four elements. Take 30 minutes to write this plan out on a document that you can keep track of. Writing your plan down really makes a world of difference.

The four steps:

1. Approach women

2. Get girls’ numbers

3. Go on dates

4. Take a girl home with you

Wrapping Up How To Get A Girlfriend In College

Anyone can get a girlfriend in college if they create an actionable plan.

I know most guys who read this article won’t actually create a plan. But making a plan marks a turning point: now you don’t just want a girlfriend, now you’re on the path to getting one.

Making that shift can be scary, but it can also change your life.


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