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How To Get Laid (even if you have no experience with women)

April 16, 2020

The following is a guest post by Joe Elvin:

If you have zero experience with women, it can be difficult to know where to start.

After all, there appears to be so much to learn…

Having coached a fair amount of newbies at this point, I’d suggest this five-step guide can help the majority of them. This will help you learn how to get laid as soon as possible.

1. Accept that it’s possible to improve at attracting women

Many newbies are stuck in the belief that women will only date good-looking or rich men.

The truth is: plenty of men attract women without money or traditional good looks. This is because women place far more importance on qualities like ambition, assertiveness, boldness, charisma, confidence, groundedness, a sense of humour, leadership skills, self-esteem, positivity and other masculine traits.

In order to accept this, you’ll have to admit that you’re lacking in some of these areas (or you’re not approaching women frequently enough).

2. Understand why you want to improve

Pick-up is hard, especially in the beginning!

Sometimes they’ll ignore you. Sometimes they’ll reject or insult you. If you don’t have thick skin, you’ll feel like giving up. You certainly won’t feel like going out 3-7 times per week.

That’s why it’s important to have a motive.

The most powerful motive – in my experience – is what your dating life will look like if you don’t improve at pick-up. Exactly how it looks like now. Forever.

If you struggle with women now, there is no ‘10’ waiting to accept as you are…

3. Work on yourself

The good news is that it’s possible to improve on all the traits listed in the first bullet.

Self-esteem is a great place to start. After all, if you don’t believe you’re a catch, why should she?

Of course, looks and money can be maximised too. Get to the gym. Improve your fashion. Make a plan to improve your career. These actions should all naturally improve your self-esteem.

Most importantly of all, begin building a life that you enjoy, regardless of whether there are women in it. Make cool friends. Have fun hobbies. Set goals to work towards. Try new adventures. This is perhaps the best self-esteem hack of all and will serve towards creating a life that women want to be a part of.

4. Start meeting women

If you suffer from approach anxiety, you might need to begin with baby steps. Perhaps you start making smalltalk with women you meet throughout the day, or having short conversations in bars or at events.

Sometimes, they won’t want to talk for as long as you wanted. Maybe they won’t acknowledge you at all. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re a loser or that all women are evil. Learn to see every conversation as a win, no matter how it goes.

A common mindset in the PUA community is: “The moment I said hi, I already won, because who else would have the balls to do that?”

MASSIVE ACTION is key at this stage. Without consistent repetition, your interactions won’t improve at a desirable speed.

Also, it’s key to develop an “abundance mindset” when you’re meeting women.

Most of the bad habits that make women run from the hills, such as:

  • falling for women too quickly;
  • texting too often;
  • supplicating;
  • clinginess…

…stem from the fact that she is the only women showing interest in you.

When you have multiple women on the scene, these errors tend to vanish naturally.

5. Keep pushing things further

Seddit is packed with advice for men who want to learn to push their interactions with women further. As you meet more women, make an effort to introduce flirting, asking for her contact details, organising dates, pulling her to your place etc.

The truth that most people won’t tell you is: each stage is likely to terrify you.

Still, the more you attempt to get to each stage, the more comfortable you’ll become, and the more likely that it’ll work.

The more you’re leaving your comfort zone, the faster you’ll master pick-up 😉

If you enjoyed learning how to get laid (even if you’re inexperienced with women) you can find more content by Joe Elvin on the Game Global YouTube channel and Subreddit.

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