Self-amusement is the art of making yourself feel good without relying on external stimulus. Instead of trying to make the women you meet feel good, you make yourself feel good.

If you can make yourself feel positive emotions while youâre interacting with a woman, she will feel those emotions, too. Feelings spread like a virus. In psychology, this principle is called emotional contagion.  

If youâve ever been yelled at, you know how easy it is to get caught up in someone elseâs emotions. Their anger quickly becomes your anger.

The same principle applies to positive emotions. Learn how to make yourself feel good, and through emotional contagion, anyone you interact with will feel good, too.

In this article, youâre going to learn two strategies to magnetically attract women with self-amusement.

But before you can harness the power of self-amusement in your own life, you must understand why it’s so hard for most guys to ‘self-amuse’.

Why Women Love Risk Takers

When talking to an attractive woman, most men avoid taking conversational risks. On the surface, this makes sense â why would you say things that might offend a girl?

Itâs true that if you keep your conversations safe, you wonât offend women. But you also wonât attract them.

Why do women gravitate towards âbad boysâ? Itâs not because these guys are mean, itâs because âbad boys’ are unpredictable. A âbad boyâ wonât hesitate to tell a girl something that might offend her. This doesnât mean heâs unkind, it simply means heâs unfiltered.

The difference between a âbad boyâ and a nice guy is the difference between a wild stallion and a house pet. Like it or not, women find men with a hint of dangerousness extremely attractive.

Self-amusement will allow you to have the same effect on women that âbad boysâ do because self-amusement is inherently risky and unpredictable. And yes, this means that your first few attempts at using the techniques in this article might be a bit awkward – but if you persist through the initial rockiness, self-amusement will enable you to magnetically attract women.

Self-Amusement Technique 1:

Exaggeration

You can self-amuse through exaggeration. For example, you could say, âAre you intimidated talking to a guy whoâs 6â4?â (even though youâre actually only 5â11).

Saying something like this is fun because itâs unexpected and extremely arrogant. This works best if the girl canât quite tell whether youâre joking (the uncertainty creates tension that gets released as laughter).

To be clear, when you exaggerate by saying something braggadocious, your goal should not be to impress her.

Imagine telling a girl, âI have 3 Rolexes, my job pays pretty well.â Saying that makes you sound like a douchebag.

Bragging about something true isnât self-amusing, itâs stroking your ego. Bragging about something that clearly isnât true, however, can be hilarious.

You can also self-amuse with negative exaggerations.

For example, you could tell a girl, âIâm actually a virgin. My mom says if I donât get a girlfriend in 2-weeks, sheâs going to have another kid so she can raise a winner.â

Paradoxically, telling a girl youâre a loser implies that youâre cool. An actual virgin would be extremely afraid to tell girls about his âconditionâ. The fact that youâre openly talking about being a virgin implies that youâre sexually confident.

A word of caution: donât use negative exaggeration with things youâre genuinely insecure about. If youâre fat and you make a joke about how fat you are, you risk coming across as depressing.

Hereâs a few examples of using exaggeration to self-amuse (you can use these in your own life, or use them as inspiration to come up with your own):

âI used to be a supermodel, but I decided to get a job at Wal Mart to spend more time with the little people.â

âIâm actually 37. I know I look young for my age, but I aged slowly because I didnât leave my momâs basement between the ages of 13 and 32.â

âIâm deeply, irrevocably in love with you. Iâm going to marry you someday and have your babies.â (has to be said convincingly to work).

Self-Amusement Technique 2:

Misinterpretation

This technique allows you to say incredibly offensive things⦠and get away with it.

When a girl says something benign like, âIâm a waitress.â You can misinterpret what she said by asking, âYouâre a drug dealer? Thatâs interesting. What drugs do you deal?â

Secretly, you know she didnât say she was a drug dealer. But by misinterpreting her, youâre turning a logical discussion into something emotionally impactful. Secondly, misinterpretation allows you to push your own buttons (self-amuse) because you know that youâre doing something mischievous.

You can misinterpret anything a girl says. If a girl says sheâs from Korea, you could say, âYouâre from North Korea? Iâve heard good things, whyâd you downgrade to America?â

You can also misinterpret what a girl says as a compliment towards you. For example:

Girl: Youâre pretty funny.

Guy: Whatâs that? You think Iâm sexy? I donât know about that, but thanks for the flattery.

As long as you sound like you genuinely think she said youâre sexy, this line works because it shows a charming type of arrogance that women (secretly) love.

Thereâs no limit to the ways you can use misinterpretation to spice up a conversation. Below, Iâve listed a couple more ideas that you can take inspiration from.

Keep in mind that for misinterpretation to work, you must speak with certainty. If you sound unsure of what youâre saying, the misinterpretation can come across as awkward rather than fun.

Example 1:

Girl: I love reading.

Guy: Oh, youâre a big fan of 50 Shades of Grey, aren’t you? That’s cool.Those books reveal a lot about the secret desires some women have.

Example 2:

Girl: What do you do for fun?

Guy: You think doing me would be fun? We just met.â

 

Conclusion: Make Your Personality Addictive To Women (With The Power Of Self-Amusement)

Self-amusement is nothing less than a social superpower. Anyone who can make themselves feel good will attract people to them like a magnet.

Most men think theyâll feel better once they get the girl. These men have it backwards.

If you think youâll be happier once you get a girl, youâre going to come across as needy â girls will sense that you want something from them.

But if you get can get yourself into positive state using self-amusement, the dynamic will flip, and women will want something from you.