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The Five Stages of Learning Game: Part 5, Mastery

April 21, 2018

When you reach mastery, game becomes autotelic (enjoyable for its own sake). It’s no longer an external goal that drives you (getting laid, pulling a “perfect 10”), it’s an internal goal that drives you (self-improvement, expanding your comfort zone.)

You know the voice in your head that’s constantly analyzing what’s happening? When you’re out talking to girls this voice might say things like:

“That girl is too hot for you, don’t approach her.”

“Don’t go for the kiss, she’ll reject and humiliate you.”

“She doesn’t like you because you’re too short.”

For most guys, the voice in their head constantly tries to protect them from pain and rejection. But when you reach mastery, the voice in your head stops seeing risk and only sees opportunity. Instead of thinking about the reasons you’ll get rejected, you’ll start thinking about all the reasons why you should ask that girl out or lean in for the kiss.

We’ve all experienced mastery from time to time, but for most of us, it’s inconsistent. One night, we feel unstoppable, but the next night we feel negative and self-defeating.

When you’ve truly reached mastery, you’ll spend most of your time interacting with women in a positive state where your thoughts help you succeed (instead of hindering you).

Mastery comes when you dedicate yourself to the process of learning itself. Every time you go out to meet women, you must have goals that you’re working on (I.E.:  to be funnier, more assertive, or even to be a better wingman.)

Reaching mastery requires discipline and patience. There are going to be times where going out to meet women doesn’t feel good, and it’ll be so easy to give up and focus on something else instead (like getting in better shape, getting a better career, etc.).

If you want to reach mastery, you must fight against the current and persist even when your thoughts and emotions both want you to give up.

Mastery isn’t for everyone. But if the idea of mastery appeals to you, prepare for a marathon. It’s going to take years to master the game.

The closest thing I know to a ‘cheat code’ for getting to mastery is the power of momentum. Instead of working on a skill once or twice a week, you’ll reach mastery much faster if you practice most days (or even every single day).

The momentum of going out every day will make you learn considerably faster than you would otherwise. I don’t recommend this for people who are new to the game, but it is something you should build up to if you want to take this as far as it can go.

I’ve done several 30-day challenges in which I went out every single day. During those challenges, I made more progress in a month than I would normally make in half a year. The power of momentum is incredible, and if you’re hoping to mastery, you shouldn’t neglect it.


Conclusion: The Five stages of learning game


Why put so much effort into getting laid? Well, the game isn’t just about getting laid, it’s about becoming confident in yourself, overcoming your insecurities, and being able to choose the kind of women you want in your life (instead of settling).

Learning to succeed with women is a long-term process, but the rewards easily outweigh the frustrations.

Use this series of articles to identify which of the five stages most accurately describes you. Then, follow the guidelines for getting to the next stage. Once you’ve successfully done this, you can return to this article and repeat the process until you reach mastery.

Most people believe that success is impossible – this becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. You can be the exception, I know this because at 19 I was a virgin diagnosed with an anxiety disorder. And today, the women I date assume I’ve always been a “player”.

Change is always uncomfortable, and at times, stressful. The only thing that’s worse than the pain of change is the pain of stagnation and regret. I will always choose the months of frustration that comes from taking risks over years of frustration that comes from wondering what could have been.

What will you choose?


Read next:

How To Arouse A Girl – Before You’re Even In The Bedroom

How To Be An Attractive Man – 4 Key Tips


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