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The Two Greatest Pickup Concepts Of All Time

January 26, 2018

The pickup community has spawned some ridiculous ideas: peacocking, the apocalypse opener, and DHV storytelling, to name a few. If anything, many of the concepts pickup coaches have taught do more harm than good.

He totally got her by using the apocalypse opener.

However, the community has also brought us some brilliant, life-changing ideas. Some of these concepts are so powerful that if you truly let them sink in – and embody them – they can completely alter the course of your dating life.

I’ve read all the books and watched all the videos within my 10-year tenure in the PUA community. Here are, in my opinion, the top 2 best pickup concepts of all time.


Attraction Is Not a Choice (David DeAngelo)-

This simple phrase has so much power in it. Once you really understand it’s implications, it can change how you think about attraction.

First, this phrase flies in the face of the strategy most men use to attract women. Guys usually try to win a girl over by logically convincing her she should like him. These guys are friendly, agreeable, and always available.

But what girls logically should like is not what they emotionally respond to. Girls don’t choose to be attracted to a guy because he’s a nice guy– the kind of guy she’s been told she should date.

No, a woman experiences attraction when a guy displays certain qualities. She can’t help it, she doesn’t want to feel attraction, she just feels it. If you can make a girl feel attraction for you, the rest of the game gets a whole lot easier.

Unfortunately, most guys just don’t get this concept, and they fail to learn how to turn women on.

There’s a deeper implication of attraction is not a choice, though. It means that no matter what you look like, you can make women feel sexually attracted to you.

Of course, being good looking greases the wheels, but even if you’re a relatively unattractive guy, certain things you do can trigger attraction in women, whether she wants to feel attracted to you or not.

If you make strong eye-contact, are self-confident, charismatic, funny, etc. women will get attracted to you, even if you’re not her “type.”

Although some causes of sexual attraction are outside of your control, many of them are within your control, and you can use that to your advantage.

Deep down, most guys in the PUA community don’t believe they could make a hot girl want them sexually. They have bought in to negative self-beliefs and elaborate rationalizations about what women want.

It’s too bad, because if they understood that attraction isn’t a choice, and many of the causes of attraction are under their control, they would be able to change their lives.


Offer Value(RSD)

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The importance of offering value can’t be underestimated. Especially since most guys are so absorbed in what they want from a girl, that they don’t consider that her wants might be worth considering as well.

If you can offer women value, you will stand out from all the thirsty guys who just want to “get” sex from girls.

Value is anything that makes your life better. As a man, there are many ways you can make a woman’s life better. Sure, sexual pleasure is one form of value, but simply making her laugh is value, making her feel validated is value, and having an interesting conversation is value.

Once you offer a girl value, she will want to offer value you back- it’s human nature (this is called reciprocation in psychology). Think about it, if someone makes you feel good when you’re around them, you’re going to want to make them feel good, too.

This is a very basic principle of human psychology, but it’s something most of us pay no attention to. If you focus on how you can offer value to the women you interact with: how you can make their day better for having met you, it will make your dating life so much easier.

Offering value isn’t really about sexual attraction, it’s about getting women to like you (you know, as a person). And believe it or not, if you can make women like you, it’s going to be much easier to attract them sexually.

It’s so easy to think about what we can take from others, but as soon as we make the shift to think about what we can give them first, then we stack the deck in our favor to ultimately get whatever it is we want.




When I was sixteen, I read the Mystery Method and learned a bunch of elaborate techniques to “trick” women into liking me*. Big shock: it didn’t work. What I really needed to learn wasn’t PUA tactics, I needed to learn empowering concepts like attraction is not a choice and how to offer value.

When you truly believe that attraction isn’t a choice, nothing can stop you anymore. All your excuses and limiting beliefs stop mattering, and you can take responsibility for the dating life you want to have.

Similarly, when you understand the profound power in offering value (with women and people in general), you will make your interactions so much more positive and enjoyable- and of course, it will be much easier to get your desired result.


*I’m not saying the Mystery Method is bad or wrong, it has some interesting ideas that can be fun to play with if you’re already highly confident with women.

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Title The Two Greatest Pickup Concepts Of All Time
Author Avery
Date January 26, 2018 11:12 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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