U-Game Mantra 2: Always demonstrate pre-selection and value when interacting with women–long-term strategy w/ working girls.

Iâm still unsure how things will turn out with Yoga girl, but on my end, Iâm kinda over it.

We were supposed to meet up last night but I had to work so I cancelled. I probably should try to meet with her tonight and get it over with, but I just donât care that much. Once a girl shows me some level of disinterest or plays too many games or gets aloof, itâs a major turnoff.


Which leaves me at square one (more on this in the next post)⦠kind of.

Iâm have a date tonight with a chick I met a long time ago, and I number closed a smoking hot 9 the other day, but thatâs a precarious situation.

I brought it up so I guess I should explain: thereâs a great dive bar near my apartmentâ2 blocks away, lots of little places and alcoves to escalate kino, pool tables, a patio, etc. Also, many of the waitresses who work there are super hot.

But I donât hit on them.

Why? Because you donât shit where you eat. This bar has been the final step in banging at least 6-7 girls in the past 6 months, and I donât want to spoil that by gaming the staff, banging one, pissing her off, and then having issues later on.

The irony is that by doing this Iâve made myself very attractive to these waitressesâtheyâve seen me in the bar with other hot women, and yet, I donât hit on them for a reason they donât understand. Basically the perfect combination of pre-selection and abundance/DGAF.

So last Sunday I go to a different bar to watch a ball game, grab a beer, get some food. On the way in, one of the waitresses from the other place is sitting outside and calls me over. BTW, sheâs the hottest of the girlsâactually one of the hotter girls youâll see period. Like, if you see this girl on any given day, youâd remember where and when for a couple weeks. A true 9 in terms of looks/body. Weâll call her Carolina since sheâs from NC.

So Carolina calls me over to her and her friends (oneâs a dude), we chat a bit and Iâm flirty and teasing as always, but then I say, hey I want to catch the game Iâm going inside for a drink, and leave. Again, always tempted to game this girl, but I want to keep my bounce bar as pristine as possible.

About a half hour later, however, Carolina comes in and makes a beeline for me at the bar. She was paying her tab but then we get into it about her old roommate (a girl I had plated not long ago, before she dropped off the map), and I bait her with the fact she talked shit about Carolina all the time (true, and not a surpriseâgirls can be surprisingly mean).

This intrigues her, and we get into it a bit more and she says she can prove to me the other girl is crazy because she has screen shots of texts from her. And I say, great, hereâs my phone, call yours and then youâll have my number. She does and then her friends are motioning from her outside not to talk to me, which will only ever play into my favor.

Iâm deliberately waiting to text her for two reasons:

  1. Sheâs hot to the point where if she senses any neediness or even eagerness on my part, sheâll flake, and texting her right away would send the message that I have no abundance.
  2. Beyond this, however, I debate whether to do so at all. You see, she didnât text me the screen shots, so maybe sheâs not really interested (sort of snake seduction on my part, but oh well), but even putting that aside, suppose the best case scenario happens, I get her out, bang her, and then what?

Iâm shitting where I eat.

If the relationship goes south (which at some point it willâthis chick is pretty volatile from what I know), she could say any number of things to the other girls (AND STAFF) at the bar, and then who knows? Maybe itâs fine, maybe itâs awkward, maybe Iâm 86ed, but itâs definitely a risk.

Problem is, sheâs so hot it might be worth it. As RedQuest said recently, true 8âs and 9âs are tough to game and rare (most girls I’ve banged, like him, are 7’s). By comparison, Yoga girl is a solid 8, but Carolina is a clear step up: 24 years old and again, a true 9. She’d be the hottest girl Iâve ever been with if I can pull it off.

Anyway, the takeaway here is just how powerful pre-selection and DGAF is when it comes to game. When girls see/know you have other women, itâs like chick crack.

And I think I see how this folds into U-GameâIâve always wondered how to get a number from a barista whoâs working, or a clerk at a store, or a waitress/hot bartender (aka girls who are working), and I may have stumbled onto the answer: pre-selection and the long game.

If you can show up where she works with women OR game women where she works, her attraction to you will increase. That doesnât mean sheâll chase like Carolina did and basically give me every excuse to get her number, but it means that you have a better chance asking for contact information later on down the line.

This is something thatâs key for U-Game: targeting girls who work in places you frequent, but rather than a one time cold approach, running a longer model. You should still be in game mode all the time (rule 1: always be opening/always be on), but it probably means like at least 2-3 interactions (maybe more) where youâre demonstrating value through pre-selection before you have your best chance at gaming a girl whoâs working.

The reason is that you know the interaction is going to be short: you probably have only 1-2 minutes to exchange information (cause sheâs working), and as anyone whoâs done much cold approach knows, the shorter the exchange the more likely sheâll flake. However, if youâve demonstrated value and built some comfort by showing up every now and again, youâve made the set a lot more solid and thereâs a better chance of something happening.

Itâs funny because tons of guys could run this model, but the mistake is that they arenât employing any game when they go to a bar, restaurant, or coffee shop; instead, theyâre super nice to the waitresses/help to the point of fawning and thereby display low value, beta behavior, and if they ever do ask her out it’s as if she’s doing them a huge favor. Instead, what they should be doing is treating it like a cold approach, only thereâs no attempt to close. At least not initially.

But what I’ve decided to do is make a list of all the girls I meet in ordinary situations (grocery store, coffee shop, bar/restaurant, etc.) with the intention of knowing the next time I go there that I need to be demonstrating pre-selection and value.

I’m not going to stop running day game or bar/night game, but there’s no reason I can’t simultaneously try this long game approach at the same time.