Andy from KYIL and the Inner Winner Podcast has a great quote on one of his shows–don’t think it’s his originally, but whatever: “The best time to plant a tree was ten years ago. The second best time is today.”
There’s also a parable in the New Testament, where Jesus says: “A farmer went out to sow his seed. As he was scattering the seed, some fell along the path, and the birds came and ate it up. Some fell on rocky places, where it did not have much soil. It sprang up quickly, because the soil was shallow. But when the sun came up, the plants were scorched, and they withered because they had no root. Other seed fell among thorns, which grew up and choked the plants. Still other seed fell on good soil, where it produced a crop—a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown. Whoever has ears, let them hear.”
I wanted to begin with both of these, because fact is, the SMP isn’t great for guys right now. A lot of girls are still with QBFs. A lot of girls aren’t coming out because they’re scared of COVID. A lot of newly single girls have been with a guy for a while, but now that they’re free, aren’t quite ready to jump into bed with a new guy or a bunch of new guys…not just yet. And likewise, whatever their situation was during COVID, now that we can actually go out and do stuff, a lot of chicks are just out to get attention–they haven’t gotten their heads around actually going on dates or fucking, etc. Indeed, a lot of girls right now are saying, “I’m not dating right now” when me and other players go for the number close; ordinarily, I’d say that means she’s rejecting the guy politely, but when you hear guys from the EU, NYC, the West Coast, and everywhere in between all hearing the same excuse, something’s up.
But eventually all that shit is going to break.
Because girls want to fuck. They want male attention. That’s a biological fact that no system of beliefs will ever break. And at some point the COVID panic is going to end, it will become like the flu where we accept that sometimes people get it but most recover and there’s vaccines if you want them (it’s not like the flu now, results are worse, but eventually that’s what it’s going to become), and people will to return to their normal patterns of life. For women younger than 27-30, that means going on lots of dates, going out, and fucking a lot of guys and/or serial monogamizing their way to epiphany. Like, what else are young women really supposed to do anyway? Modern society has told them not to be moms, not to get married, to travel and have fun and get as much attention as possible and go to college, have a career, etc., which leads to what exactly?
Before COVID hit in 2020, it meant a lot of serial relationships and a lot of casual sex with a lot of partners. And even if the quarantine meant some number of girls in their mid 20s figured out they actually like being in an LTR more than that, LTRs get old and boring for most girls at some point after a year or two, and an entire generation of girls 17-23 have been robbed of a year and a half or more of running around and getting attention and sex from HQ men. That’s a point worth underscoring: right now, the SMP is slack because of a lack of volume in terms of available women–but at some point those women are going to come back into the market, and when they do, the ones who are waffling around right now will be forced to compete with them for a limited number of HQ guys/players.
So the real question is: are you going to be one of those guys, or are you going to lose out because you’re not ready when the market turns?
If you plan on being one of those guys, there are a few things you need to be doing:
Lifting and getting below 15%
Such a huge advantage to be in tip-top shape. One change I think we will see in the SMP of the 2020s is that it is more black pill–meaning that looks and style will become more important. But don’t misunderstand: that doesn’t mean you need to be a jacked, six foot five white guy. What it does mean is that if you’re fat and/or don’t have big muscles, plus a recognizable archetype and polarizing style, having great game isn’t going to matter as much as it used to.
Cold Approach and Dating Escalation
That said, just being really good looking isn’t enough either–many of my clients are very good looking guys who are quite fit, but until they learn game, both cold approach and escalating on the date, it’s tough sledding.
This is where, even if you don’t want, or think, you need long term coaching, doing my intake call is a massive leveling up, because we cover all the basics of where you’re at, what you need to do, and how to improve that stuff. Plus, my PDFs cover so many aspects of game–I’m close to having a book’s worth of material at this point, and I’m continually creating more to fit client needs.
Am I tooting my own horn here? Sure, but I also know it makes a huge difference. My guys GET LAID, and there’s a reason for that: because they understand their weaknesses and are able to start correcting for them.
Photos for OLD
If you’re going to use Tinder or any other online platform, you need to get great photos. Go on photofeeler and see what you’ve got. If your photos aren’t highly rated, hire a professional and get good ones–tell them what you want. It just makes such a massive difference I can’t stress this enough.
Look guys, it’s no secret: I’m not a fan of dating apps. I think they’re shit. But the fact is, they are the way a lot of people meet these days, and you may as well have them running in the background. Mostly, guys are going to get 6s from dating apps, so the quality isn’t great, but it’s better to be banging 6s and going for 7s and 8s through day or night game than it is to be barren sexually.
Make friends! Have parties!
Something I’m still working on–not that I don’t have friends: I actually have lots–but in terms of a fun social circle with cute, interesting single girls, that’s definitely a work in progress. My wings and I are slowly building into this, however, with possibilities for sex parties and social connections in the future. But don’t be the lone wolf! Find guys and people who are doing fun and interesting things!