Sometimes it’s hard and disappointing when you feel like you are dating men, but you are not finding any that you are actually attracted to.
Have you ever wondered how to find a good man when you feel like you are losing hope?
If you have, then maybe you will relate to this.
I have a question. Is it that you are not attracted to the men you meet and date? Or is it that you are too busy judging these men, and too busy looking for their flaws, to feel any attraction for them? When you judge men a lot, you can’t be authentic and feminine. When you’re not authentic, you aren’t the most attractive woman out there, that’s for sure. Because all your judgements are masking your true attractiveness. (Click here to get your “Goddess Report”)
And when you don’t feel attractive, you are never going to attract a good man.
“He laughed really weird.”
“He’s not tall enough.”
“I want someone like Channing Tatum.”
I’m not suggesting that you should settle for a less attractive man than you can have. Not at all.
Maybe your friends tell you that your standards are too high.
Rarely are people’s standards too high. That’s a lie. The truth is usually that they are just too scared. They have felt judged their whole life, maybe by men, so now they feel underlying resentment with men. And now they can’t be themselves and can’t stay in their feminine energy because they’re so uptight, looking for reasons why any man is not right, or not good enough.
It’s going to be hard because you won’t notice yourself doing it all the time, but stop judging men.
Even the short ones. Even the ones who don’t make over $100,000 a year. I have often noticed that the women who get the most from men are women who simply have no judgments and approach almost every interaction with men with a total innocence.Â
That’s right, a total innocence. What I mean by that is, you don’t look for FLAWS before you even start a conversation with him.
Think about children. Do children run around judging everybody? Or do they just want to have fun? Does the little girl in you who loves to play run around harbouring a bunch of unnecessary judgments about men? No, she doesn’t. You do.
Some men won’t be your type, that’s fine. But again, do you keep dating men and find that you’re not meeting the ones that you are attracted to? (Click here to take the quiz on “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”)
That’s because of 2 possible reasons:
1) you have too many judgments of men, so you are not showing up as your most attractive self, because you’re too busy judging and looking for flaws, which means of course, you won’t attract the kinds of men you really DO want. You’ll lose hope and start to get scared that you will never find the one for you. And then live in resentment of the women who do.
2) you want a man that would make you feel more worthy than you already feel on a day to day basis. And I’m sorry, but love does not thrive on that weak base.
To find love, and to find that fairy tale, just let go of the memories of being told you are not pretty enough, not tall enough, not short enough, not successful enough. (read my article about how to attract your ideal man)
Let go of the feeling that you’ve got to ACHIEVE something before a man will love you. Men don’t love you for achieving things. That’s a LIE. They love you for your feminine energy. They fall in love because you don’t act like a man and try to achieve everything just to be enough in this world.
Men want the real you. The authentic you that laughs and has fun even with the shortest, ugliest, dumbest man on the planet.
I’ve coached hundreds of women from many countries, and I think I’d have to be REALLY stupid not to notice common actions, feelings and patterns among women. Here’s one of the many things I’ve observed and helped women with:
More often than not, we don’t want a tall man. We think we do, but we don’t. And that thought is destroying your feminine energy and your attractiveness.
(What Is The One Specific Emotional Trigger Within Every Single Man in this World That Inspires Him to WANT to Commit to One Woman, Want to Take Care of Her, Worship Her and Only Her?Â Click here to find out right now…)
A tall man might be NICE, but…
What you TRULY want, is to feel deep attraction, passion, to feel safe, secure, loved AND excited. And I am just telling you what you already knew but you forget too often: to have passion, attraction and security, the man doesn’t have to be tall or rich. You just THINK he does.
Because you’ve seen too many men who are short, poor and unconfident be unattractive because THEY don’t feel like they are good enough for you. So you have developed this association with short, poor, unconfident men.
Not every man who isn’t rich or tall feels bad about himself.
If you constantly feel that you NEED to have a tall, good-looking man to compete with other women, to impress your family, and to do better than your sister did, you will never find the love that you are craving.
Because what you are looking for is NOT a relationship. What you’re really looking for, are reasons to feel worthy. Maybe a taller man will make you feel worthy. Maybe a stronger man will make you feel proud and worthy of your mother’s love or your sister’s love.
But if that’s what you keep looking for, all you will find is a deep, black hole of emptiness. You will find that you are lonely and still single.
Long-term relationships are a spiritual path. What this means is, you have to have the courage to love a man even when you’re scared that he is not good enough for you.
No man is going to be good enough for you in every single moment, because he is a human being. Just like you are.
He is going to stuff up, make you feel awkward, do things that scare you. That’s what you sign up for when you enter a long-term relationship.
If you want to be beautiful to men in an otherworldly way, stop judging men. And they will stop judging you. Be innocent in every interaction. Assume that almost all men have some worth, some value in this world. Because that’s who you really are. That’s what you WOULD do, if you weren’t feeling fearful of men. You are not the fearful bitch. You are a beautiful, authentic woman who knows how to use the fearful bitch on the rare occasion that it is needed, but you do not have to constantly LIVE in that place. (read my article about femininity)
(By the way, I’ve just published my brand new DVD titled “Becoming His One & Only!”… and right now it’s FREE for you to get a copy. Click HERE to find out more details and how you can get your man to fall deeper in love with you and beg you to be his one and only)
One last thing: no, you don’t have to settle for less of a man than you want. All you have to remember is:
1) Stop judging men and looking for flaws. Make innocence and acceptance of men your first reaction, rather than judgments. It’s hard, but it works.
2) By telling yourself Â that you want a man to be better looking or taller, you’re lying to yourself. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have and won’t have a tall man, it just means, if you keep looking for looks, status, and riches, that’s what you’ll get – you’ll get a man who thinks his only worth to you is looks, status and riches. And that is a s**t relationship if I may say so.
What you are really looking for is a feeling. A feeling of passion, excitement, that also comes with security and love. You need to know that all you ever want is a feeling. Not the perfect looking man, and not the man who acts perfectly. Learn the 17 Attraction Triggers and be single no more, clicking here.
We no longer live in a pre-historic age, where the SLIGHTEST bad move on a man’s part means he won’t be a good provider, or that he won’t be able to protect you. Although your instincts tell you that’s the truth.
Nowadays, hardly anything threatens your life. You are free to look for love and excitement. You no longer have to look for flaws first, and obsess critically over a man’s actions or pitfalls, like your female ancestors did.
Try it. Men won’t be able to pull themselves away from you. (read my article about making a man want you)
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|If You Keep Doing THIS You will Always Be Single
|August 30, 2012 7:35 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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