Here are 5 tips to help you get her back now that she’s found herself a guy with money:
1. Accept the truth that money is NOT what makes a relationship last for life
If money was the answer, no rich guy would ever get rejected, dumped or divorced.
Obviously, that’s not what happens out there.
Men with money do get rejected, dumped and divorced, even though they could probably offer a better ‘lifestyle’ to a woman than a guy who had little money.
Of course, itâs true that money makes it easier to buy things and go places.
However, just because your ex left you for a rich guy, it doesn’t mean that she will thoroughly enjoy herself with him, or will totally cherish the gifts he gives her.
If he causes her to lose respect and attraction for who he is as a person (i.e. by becoming insecure, controlling, emotionally selfish), then what he can offer her financially will quickly lose value and importance.
Hereâs the thingâ¦
Although a man with money can initially attract a womanâs attention (especially if she feels sheâs in a relationship with a guy who has no ambition and is going nowhere in his life), at the end of the day, what really attracts her and makes her want to stay with a guy is his ability to make her feel emotionally attracted as he talks to her and spends time with her.
In the same way, your ex will only stay with her new guy if he can make her feel attracted emotionally to him in other ways besides just buying her things or spoiling her with a luxury lifestyle.
This is why, itâs very important that you donât fade into the shadows and instead maintain contact with her, so that you can re-attract her and get her back, by making her feel attracted to you again (e.g. by making her laugh and smile when talking to you, flirting with her to create some sexual tension, showing her that you really are different now).
The more respect and attraction she feels for you again, the less impressed she will be by her new manâs money.
Suddenly, she will begin to notice his flaws more and more and when that happens, she becomes open to giving you another chance.
Another tip to help you get an ex back who left you for a rich guy isâ¦
2. Get clear on the reasons (other than money) why she left you
Right now, youâre likely feeling hurt and angry with your ex and you may even be thinking things like, âI canât believe sheâs so shallow! I never noticed this about her before, but sheâs clearly a gold digger!
However, by assuming that the only reason she left you is because you didnât have as much money as her new guy can be a big mistake. Why?
A woman will rarely break up with a guy for only one reason.
In most cases, a woman will have several, secret reasons why she no longer feels respect, attraction and love for her guy.
So, even though to you it might seem crystal clear that what your ex wanted was a guy who is richer than you, the reality might be that there are actually several other reasons why she picked him over you.
This is why, if you want to get her back, you first need to understand her other, more subtle reasons for breaking up with you.
If you donât, you will likely end up offering her things that she doesnât want (e.g. You might go out of your way to get a better job so that you can offer her more material things, but what she really felt turned off by was your lack of emotional masculinity when you and her were together. She never truly felt like a desirable woman with you and instead felt more like your friend).
This is why you need to know exactly why she broke up with you.
Of course, you canât just go and ask her to tell you her reasons.
If you do, you may end up turning her off even more, because you will look like a confused guy who still hasnât fully grown up and become a man.
As a result, she will automatically feel more attracted to her new guy and believe she made the right decision to leave you for him.
So, you do need to figure out your exâs reasons for leaving you without her help.
However, that doesnât mean youâre on your own.
If youâre unsure of where to begin, ask yourself the following questions:
- What aspects of my thinking and behavior attracted her to me initially (e.g. my confidence and emotional strength, my independent spirit, my great sense of humor, my emotional masculinity), and did I maintain those things throughout our relationship, or did I slowly slip into behaving in unattractive ways (e.g. needy, clingy, insecure, emotionally immature and unfocused, wimpy)?
- Did I always treat her well (i.e. with love and respect), or did I slip into a habit of taking her for granted, or even treating her badly (e.g. by being too jealous and controlling, being aggressive or moody, being selfish and putting her last in your life)?
- Did I keep my promises to her, or did I often go back on my word (e.g. forget to call, was unavailable when she needed me)?
- Was I the kind of man she could look up to, respect and feel proud of, or did I do things to make her feel embarrassed of me (e.g. behaved in childish and immature ways)?
- Did I have goals and a purpose for my life, or was I just drifting from one thing to the next?
- Did we want the same things in the relationship or did we want different things (e.g. to settle down, buy a house together, get married and start a family vs. being carefree, traveling around, partying, having fun and not being tied down)?
Depending on your answers, you will likely already have a clearer picture of why your ex left you for a rich guy.
Then, once you know where you went wrong, you can take action to change and improve some of the things that were turning her off.
When your ex experiences the new you (i.e. via your attitude, behavior, actions and conversation style), she wonât be able to stop herself from feeling drawn to you again.
Suddenly her new man doesnât seem as perfect to her anymore, because sheâs experiencing new, fascinating feelings of attraction for you.
Her guard will then naturally come down and she will open herself up to interacting with you more and more to see how she feels about you.
Another tip to help you get an ex back who left you for a rich guy isâ¦
3. Interact with her and make her feel rushes of attraction for the new you
The best way to make an ex woman begin seeing you as better than her new guy and want you back for real, is to interact with her and actively make her feel sparks of sexual attraction for you.
This will take you using some ballsy humor and stepping outside of your comfort zone.
For example: Imagine youâre on a phone call with your ex and she starts telling you how happy she is with her new guy.
The old you would likely get upset and start thinking negative things like, âI donât stand a chance with her,â or âItâs just too late. Sheâs crazy about this guy and thereâs nothing I can do. Besides, I have nothing to offer her compared to him.â
This would then cause you to feel unsure of yourself and possibly even make you stumble over your words.
As a result, your ex would feel turned off by what she perceives as your emotional weakness and she would feel even more convinced that she is now with the right man.
However, thatâs not how the new you reacts.
In fact, the new you uses what she says to spark her feelings and make her feel strong surges of attraction for you again.
For instance, you might respond to her by playfully saying (in person or on a phone call) something like, âThis is such excellent news! I was worried that no other guy would take you off my hands if he found out how bad your cooking/singing/snoring is, but now I can relax knowing some other guy has to put up with it instead of me. What a relief!â and then have a laugh with her about that.
She will most likely laugh because of the way that youâre playfully teasing her.
She may also be a bit shocked that youâre not getting upset, begging her to change her mind like she was expecting you to or feeling insecure that he has a lot of money.
Reacting like that makes her realize that youâre not the same guy she broke up with.
You have already leveled up as a man.
As a result, she starts to feel rushes of respect and attraction for you and she will then either be impressed with the new you and find it difficult to stop thinking about you, or she will test your newfound confidence by acting like it’s not having an effect on her.
Regardless of her reaction, itâs up to you to maintain your confidence with her and continue to say and do the kind of things that will build up her feelings of respect and attraction for you.
Note: Don’t try to do it all via text.
The majority of the ex back process has to be done on a phone call or in person.
If you try to do it all via text, she can simply ignore your texts or play hard to get or worse.
Additionally, she can easily misinterpret your texts as being needy, insecure or rude, even when youâre being confident, relaxed and easy-going.
This is why, if you really do want her back for real, you should aim to complete the majority of the ex back process on a phone call and then in person.
On a phone call, she can sense your confidence and in person, she can see it.
Yet, via text, she can mistakenly assume that youâre being insecure, needy or desperate.
The more she experiences the new you on a phone call or in person, the more confused she will begin to feel about her feelings for her new guy.
At that point, you just have to maintain your cool, make her feel even more attracted to you and then get a hug, a kiss and even sex.
After that, you and her will naturally get back together if you play your cards right.
Another tip to help you get an ex back who left you for a rich guy isâ¦
4. Use it as motivation to become a more ambitious guy
If you havenât been reaching your true potential financially (e.g. youâve been stuck at the same level in your job for ages and havenât been motivated to ask for a raise or look for something that pays better, youâve been delaying taking action on making your dreams of starting your own business a reality, youâve been avoiding improving your level of education/qualifications so that you can apply and get a promotion at work), now is the time to start.
You don’t have to make a lot of money immediately, or become hugely successful overnight.
Just use her reason for leaving you to start making progress in a more profitable direction in life.
This will make you feel better.
You obviously won’t be as rich as your exâs new boyfriend next week and you don’t need to be.
Women are very attracted to men with ambition who follow through on their goals.
So, when your ex sees that youâre making progress and are rising through the levels of your career or succeeding in your chosen business or profession, she will automatically begin to feel respect for you again for being man enough to take control of your financial life and make your goals and dreams a reality.
When she starts to respect you, she will naturally begin to see you in a more positive light and she may then begin to remember some of the other things about you that she found attractive (e.g. your sense of humor, your playfulness, the way you always came through for her when she needed you).
As a result, she will also start to feel attracted to you again (especially if her new man is lacking in those areas), without her even realizing that itâs happening to her.
She then becomes open to talking to you over the phone and even seeing you in person, which then gives you the opportunity to fully reawaken her feelings for you and get her back.
Important: Make sure that you don’t use your progress or newfound ambition as a way to sell yourself to her.
If you do, she will almost certainly see that as desperate and she will likely think things like, âWhy couldnât he be like that when we were together? Heâs just doing that because heâs jealous of my new guy and wants to show me that he can be successful too even though he wasnât before. Thatâs just so desperate and itâs actually so off putting to me.â
Thatâs not what you want.
So, just use it as motivation to accomplish great things for yourself and as a bonus, you may also re-attract your ex back too.
Another tip to help you get an ex back who left you for a rich guy isâ¦
5. Get her to meet up with you just as friends, so you can interrupt the process of her moving on
For example: You might call her on the phone and say something along the lines of, âHey, I accept that youâve moved on with someone else now. Iâm totally fine with that and I hope youâll be very happy. However, that doesnât mean we canât still be friends anymore, does it? Weâre both mature adults and thereâs nothing wrong with meeting up for a quick cup of coffee now and then to catch up and say hi as friends. So, letâs do that sometime this week and cement our new friendship with one of those cinnamon rolls you love so much. Iâm free on Wednesday or Thursday afternoon. Which day suits you best?â
She may either say âYes,â right away and you can arrange to meet up with her at a suitable place and time.
Alternatively and this is more likely, she may play a bit hard to get and say something along the lines of, âI donât think thatâs a good idea,â or âIâm not sure my boyfriend will approve of that.â
The important thing is that you donât give up at that point and lose your chance of re-attracting her.
So, in a confident, easy-going voice say, âOh, donât be like that. Itâs just a quick catch up between friends. We can do that. Itâs no big deal. Besides, if after we meet up you decide that you never want to see me again, Iâll respect your wishes and disappear out of your life forever. So, which day suits you best?â
She will then likely agree and say something like, âOkay, just this once,â or âIf you promise to back off afterwards.â
Then, just go ahead and make plans to meet up with her.
At the meet up, make sure that you build up the sexual tension between you and her (e.g. by using ballsy humor to make her feel attracted, flirting with her to create a spark between you).
If you can get her to cheat on her new guy with you, it can potentially ruin their relationship and make her come back to you.
However, even if she doesnât want to hook up with you sexually, donât worry about it.
The main thing that you need to focus on changing and improving and becoming a better man, while also using every interaction you have with her from now on to spark her sexual and romantic feelings for you over and over again.
The more you do that, the more doubts sheâll begin to have about her decision to leave you for a another guy and then you are in the process of breaking up her new relationship, whether she realizes it or not.
3 Mistakes to Avoid When Trying to Get an Ex Back Who Left You For a Rich Guy
Even when a woman has a new man, itâs not impossible to get her back if you approach it right (i.e. interact with her, reactivate her feelings, show her that youâve changed and improved and get her back).
On the other hand, if you approach it in the wrong way, you can easily turn her off even more and convince her that she made the right decision by leaving you for her new man.
This is why, you need to make sure you donât make the following mistakes:
1. Thinking that money is the only main reason she left
Itâs highly possible that your ex was attracted to her new man because he has more money than you, especially if you and her were struggling to make ends meet.
However, it would be a big mistake for you to assume that that was her only reason for leaving you.
The truth is, when a man builds on his womanâs feelings of love, respect and attraction in the relationship with him (e.g. by being confident and emotionally strong, making her feel like a sexy and desirable woman, being emotionally masculine, being ballsy and maintaining his power in the relationship with her), she will put up with not having all the material things she wants, because she has him.
However, if he continuously turns her off in other ways (e.g. heâs insecure and needy, he depends on her to take care of him and make all the decisions, heâs childish and immature), then the money problems theyâre experiencing will start to look huge to her.
If she then meets a man who can take care of her financially and also happens to fill in some of the other gaps that were missing in her relationship with her guy, she will quickly dump him and move on.
Hereâs the thingâ¦
If you want to get your ex back, you have to make sure youâre offering her what she really wants, not what you think she wants.
It would be a shame if you just focused on making more money, only to realize that that is not really what she wanted in the relationship with you after all.
So, make sure you understand her deeper, secret reasons for breaking up with you, so that you can offer her what she wants and win her back.
Another mistake to avoid isâ¦
2. Calling her a gold digger and hoping it will make her feel ashamed
When a guy is feeling betrayed and angry for being dumped by his woman for a rich guy, he may be tempted to say hurtful things like, âI never realized that youâre such a gold digger. It makes me sick to think that I trusted you, gave you all my love and imagined that you loved me back too, when in fact youâre nothing but a shallow, user who only cares about herself.â
Secretly he may be hoping that she will feel ashamed and possibly even think, âHeâs right. I really did act like a gold digger. However, thatâs not who I really am deep down inside. Iâm a good person and so is he and we belong together after all.â
She may then dump her new man and come running back to him.
Unfortunately, it doesnât work out that way.
Rather than make her feel ashamed, it usually has the opposite effect.
She sees his behavior as stemming from feeling inferior and like heâs not good enough for her.
Basically, heâs trying to make her feel guilty about something she doesnât need to feel guilty about.
As a result, she feels even more turned off by him and that pushes her deeper into the arms of her new man.
Another mistake to avoid isâ¦
3. Giving up because you assume the rich guy must be giving her everything she really needs
No one is perfect; not even your exâs new rich boyfriend.
So, even though she might seem really happy and content with him right now, chances are high that over time she will begin to notice things about him that are turning her off (e.g. he spoils her with gifts and romantic gestures but heâs emotionally closed off to her, or he looks down on her and belittles her).
She may then begin to see him in a new, more negative light and think things like, âI really thought what a I wanted was a rich guy to buy me all the things I desire and make me feel like a princess. However, now that I have all those things, I realize that what I got from my ex (i.e. love, attention, respect) was so much more valuable. I miss that. In fact, I miss him. I think I made a big mistake by breaking up with him.â
When that happens, she opens up to the idea of interacting with you more.
However, if youâve already given up and have stopped interacting with her because you thought it was a lost cause, you will likely miss out on getting her back.
She will try to get over you and either make things work with her new guy, or dump him and look for another man who is more like you to hook up with.
So, donât let that happen to you.
Stick around (even if only as her friend) and build on her feelings of respect and attraction for you.
The more you do that, the faster she will reconnect with her feelings of love for you and reconsider getting back together again.
