Here are 3 examples of how to make that happen:
1. Reawaken her feelings of sexual and romantic attraction, on a phone call or when talking to her in person
One of the best ways to get your ex to admit her feelings for you is by making her feel so much respect and attraction for you during interactions (i.e. on phone calls or at meet ups), that she canât stop herself from saying something along the lines of, âIt feels nice to be talking to you like this again. Iâve really missed you.â
For example: Some of the things that will reawaken her feelings for you areâ¦
- Maintaining your confidence with her regardless of what she says or does to make you feel insecure, or unsure of yourself (e.g. she initially says something like, âMy feelings for you are dead,â or she acts cold and aloof and like sheâs not interested in talking to you).
- Using humor to take the awkwardness out of your interactions with her and make her smile and laugh and feel good around you again.
- Flirting with her to create some sexual tension between you, rather than being too nice and making her feel more emotionally powerful than you, or being neutral and making her feel like youâre not interested in her anymore.
- Showing her that even though you still have feelings for her, youâre not sitting around feeling lost and depressed without her. Instead, youâre happy, fulfilled and are getting on with your life (e.g. actively pursuing your goals and dreams, doing the things you gave up on doing to be with her, reconnecting with your old friends).
- Showing her via your actions, conversation and behavior that youâre a new and improved man (e.g. youâre more ballsy, more confident and sure of yourself and your attractiveness to her and to other women, more emotionally independent).
When you make your ex feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you, most or all of the negative, angry feelings she still has about you begin to fade away.
Her guard comes down and she begins to reconnect with her feelings of love, making it easier for her to admit her feelings for you, because it now feels like the right thing for her to do.
However, if you keep pushing her to tell you how she feels without first re-sparking some of her feelings for you, she will usually just keep pushing you away and saying things like, âYouâre so full of yourself. You have these wild ideas about my feelings for you, but the truth is, I donât feel anything. What we had is over. You need to accept that and leave me alone.â
Another example of how to get your ex to admit her feelings for you is toâ¦
2. Build up so much sexual tension that she just has to say something about how she feels
You can interact with your ex and act like a nice, neutral friend who isnât attracted to her anymore, but thatâs not going to make her open up and tell you how she feels.
Instead, sheâs likely going to be guarded and sheâs going to pretend that sheâs not interested in you.
This is why creating sexual tension between you and her is an absolute must.
The more sexually attracted to you she feels, the less she will be able to keep her walls up and pretend that youâre not having an effect on her.
So, how can you build up the sexual tension between you and your ex?
By flirting with her and making her laugh and smile during interactions, while at the same time not pushing her to admit her feelings for you.
Flirting makes a woman feel attracted to you and the fact that youâre not desperately trying to get her to spill her feelings to you so that you can get her back, creates a build up of desire from her side.
She then starts to wonder, âWhy am I feeling so drawn to him again? Why do I suddenly want to tell him that I still have feelings for him and that I miss him?â
Thatâs what you want.
So, donât be afraid to flirt with your ex and make her laugh when youâre talking to her over the phone or meeting up with her in person.
Another example of how to get your ex to admit her feelings for you is toâ¦
3. Playfully accuse her of missing you
By accusing your ex of missing you in a joking way, youâre giving her the chance to admit the truth to you, without coming across as being too easy or desperate.
Basically, she can laugh and say, âOh, okay. Fine, Iâll say it. I miss you!â and have a laugh with you about it.
You will then have your answer and you can build on that so that the next time she admits that she has feelings for you, it will be in a more serious way.
So, go ahead and playfully make her admit that she misses you.
By the wayâ¦
This is best done in person, not via text.
For example: Imagine youâre sitting in a coffee shop with your ex and youâve been chatting for a little while.
You: Hey, so have you been missing me?
Her: No.
You: Yeah, right. Yes, you have. I can see it written all over your face. You give yourself away so easily. You’d be horrible at playing poker. You have no poker face at all.
Her: [Laughing] No, I havenât been missing you!
You: Yeah, okay…I believe you [Said in a sarcastic, playful way]
At this point she is probably going to be smiling and thinking about you in a positive way because youâre just being a bit playful with her.
She may then say something like, âFine. I admit it. I missed you a little bit. Are you happy now?â
You can then laugh and respond with something along the lines of, âYeah, Iâm happy now.â
However, you canât stop there.
Remember: Her saying that she misses you in a joking way is not an admission that she wants you back.
For her to want that, you have to fully reactivate her feelings of respect, attraction and love during one or more interactions (depending on how bad your break up with her was).
Only then will she truly open back up to you and admit her real feelings for you.
Where Guys Go Wrong When Trying to Get an Ex to Admit Her Feelings Him
Sometimes a guy tries to make his ex admit how she feels about him by saying and doing certain things that he hopes will force her into it.
Yet that rarely, if ever works out and in most cases, the women becomes even more stubborn and closed off.
So donât let that happen to you.
Make sure that you donât make any of the following mistakes:
1. Telling her all about your feelings and hoping that she will reciprocate and talk about her feelings
According to social psychology, itâs normal for a person to respond to a positive action with another positive action in turn.
So, based on that belief, a guy will sometimes decide to tell his ex that he still cares for her, in the hope that she will feel obligated to reciprocate by admitting her feelings for him too.
However, although that may work under normal social situations (e.g. between friends or co-workers), the same rules donât apply in relationships.
Hereâs the thingâ¦
Although it would be nice if all you had to do was tell a woman how you feel and she would then pour her heart out to you, it just doesnât happen if the feelings aren’t mutual.
If a woman has disconnected from her feelings of respect, sexual attraction and love for a man, then him telling her about his feelings isnât going to make her suddenly feel the same way about him.
He has to properly re-attract her first.
So, if you want your ex to admit her feelings for you and want you back, donât waste time discussing your feelings with her.
Instead, focus on making her feel sexual and romantic feelings for you first, so that opening up to you happens because it feels like the right thing for her to do.
When you approach it that way, you donât have to try to force an answer out of her that she doesnât want to give.
Another mistake to avoid isâ¦
2. Asking her how she feels before youâve re-attracted her
Sometimes a guy might decide to go ahead and just ask his ex about her feelings for him.
This might be because heâs following the advice of a friend or relative who tells him, âWhy do you keep doing this to yourself? If you really want to know how your ex feels about you, just ask her. Itâs that simple. She will then tell you and you can stop obsessing about it all the time,â or it may be because he doesnât know what else to do.
Either way, if you donât re-spark your exâs feelings for you first, asking her how she feels about you is a bad move. Why?
After a break up, a woman will rarely be honest with a guy and come out and say exactly what sheâs feeling (e.g. because sheâs afraid of how heâll react if she tells him she doesnât care, she doesnât want to give him a chance to try and convince her to change her mind, she doesnât want to make it easy for him to get her back by telling him how she feels).
So, rather than be honest with you, your ex might actually lie to you by saying things like, âIâm not sure how I feel. I just needs some space to figure things out,â when what she actually means is, âIâm over you and I want some space so that I can fully move on and hook up with another guy.â
Alternatively, she might say something like, âI donât have any feelings for you anymore, so stop asking me. What we had is over, so accept it and leave me alone,â to test your confidence and see if youâre man enough to get her back without her helping you along.
So, rather than asking your ex how she feels about you, just focus on making her feel respect and attraction for the new you, every time you interact with her from now on.
When you reactivate her feelings for you, she naturally becomes more open to discussing her feelings with you.
Another mistake to avoid isâ¦
3. Trying to make her feel some pity for how lost and confused you are due to her not expressing her feelings
As tempting as it might be for you to want to say to your ex, âPlease stop being so stubborn and closed off. I just want to know where I stand with you. I need to know how you feel about me so that I can get on with my life, one way or another. Donât you care how youâre making me feel? Do you realize that I care about you and want you back and youâre just messing with my feelings when you refuse to admit your feelings for me? Please just be honest with me. Thatâs all Iâm asking!â itâs usually a bad idea.
Hereâs the thingâ¦
When you try to make your ex feel pity for you, she feels turned off by what she perceives as your emotional weakness.
She sees that sheâs emotionally stronger than you and it makes her want to move on from you even more.
So, donât bother trying to make your ex feel pity for how lost and confused sheâs making you feel by not admitting her feelings to you and focus instead on re-sparking her feelings of respect and attraction for you.
Another mistake to avoid making isâ¦
4. Apologizing over and over for his mistakes
Sometimes a guy might apologize to his ex over and over again for what happened and say things like, âIâm so sorry for stuffing things up between us. I really blew it and I regret hurting you so much. If I could take it all back, I would. I would do anything to not put your through all that.â
Essentially heâs hoping she will then say, âItâs okay. I forgive you. I care too much for you to hold a grudge. Letâs forget what happened and try again.â
Unfortunately, it rarely works out that way.
In most cases, a woman wonât admit her feelings for a guy just because heâs apologizing to her.
Why?
To begin with, he hasnât really done anything to spark her feelings for him and prove to her that heâs really changed.
Instead, all heâs done is apologize and hope she will fall for that.
So, rather than open up to him and tell him that she still cares, she might actually reject his apology by saying something like, âGood! Iâm glad you feel bad. You really hurt me.â
So, if you want your ex to admit her feelings for you, apologizing to her repeatedly isnât the way to go about it.
A better approach would be to give her one brief, sincere apology in a calm, confident and sincere manner and then focus in showing her via your actions, behavior and the way you respond to her from now on, that youâre a new and improved man.
When she can see for herself that you truly have changed in the ways that matter to her, she will naturally open back up to you and tell you that she cares.
Another mistake to avoid isâ¦
5. Trying to get her back by reminding her about all the good times they shared together
As nice as it would be to be able to make your ex have feelings for you by bringing up all the good times you and her shared together in the past, love just doesnât work that way.
The thing is, when a woman has disconnected with her sexual and romantic feelings for a guy, being reminded about how good things used to be between them will usually only highlight to her how bad things turned out.
So, if you want to get your ex to admit her feelings for you and get her back, you have to actively make her have feelings for you based on who you are right now.
Donât bother rehashing all the good times from the past.
How you make her feel right now and from now on is what really counts.
