Here are 5 things you can do to make your ex call you more often:
1. Don’t ask for a relationship or give the impression that you want one when you talk to her on the phone
If every time a woman calls her ex on the phone he turns the conversation into a long discussion about the relationship, what he did wrong and how great it would be if they can work things out and get back together again, rather than make her want to call him more often, heâs more likely going to make her not want to call him at all.
Why?
To begin with, heâs making talking to him feel stressful.
So, rather than relax and enjoy the conversation, she ends up having to keep up her guard to stop him from pressuring her into a relationship that she may not be ready for yet.
She may then begin thinking things like, âEvery time I call him he wants to talk about us getting back together again. However, Iâm not interested in that right now and talking to him is becoming more frustrating and exhausting than fun.â
She then naturally stops calling him very often to avoid having to deal with him trying to get her back.
This is why, if you want to get your ex to call you more often, you have to make conversations with you feel relaxing, enjoyable and entertaining, rather than stressful, annoying or tense.
Essentially, if you’re attracting your ex on the phone (e.g. by making her laugh and smile and feel good to be talking to you, by flirting with her) and not pushing for a relationship, it creates the exciting feeling of sexual tension.
She actually wants to talk to you more often, because when she does, she feels good.
As a result, her guard starts to slip down and she then becomes open to seeing you in person too.
You can then meet up with her and continue to build up the tension between you and her and get her to the point where she wants you make a move to hug her, kiss her and then release that tension with sex.
When that happens, getting back into a relationship with her becomes easy, because she wants it too for her own reasons (e.g. she feels sexually and romantically attracted to you again, she can see youâre a new and improved man now).
Another thing you can do to get your ex to call you more often isâ¦
2. Let her see how fun your life is without her via social media
Sometimes a guy makes the mistake of thinking that if he just sits around and waits for his ex to call him, she will be impressed that heâsâ not moving on without her.
She will then realize that he really does love her and she will begin to call him more often, giving him the opportunity to convince her to give him another chance.
Yet, in most cases, when a woman realizes that her ex doesnât have a life without her, it only assures her that she made the right decision to break up with him.
Then, if sheâs been calling him to see how he is, she may begin making those calls less and less frequently, in the hope that she can slowly fade out of his life without him noticing.
Hereâs the thingâ¦
The majority of women are attracted to men who are confident, happy and forward moving in life with or without their woman.
So, when a woman sees that her ex man is content and getting on with his life without her, it actually makes her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for him.
This is why, if you want to make your ex feel open to talking to you on the phone more often, donât be afraid to let her see via social media that youâre actually getting on with and enjoying your life without her.
If she isnât currently following you on social media, just make sure that the photos are set to public so she can see them from the outside.
Why does this work?
When you post photos of yourself having fun with other people, it actually makes your ex feel curious and want to interact with you again.
All of a sudden, you seem more attractive, appealing and likeable to her and she may begin to think things like, âHe seems so happy and confident all of a sudden. I wonder what made him change so much.â
She then wants to call you more often, because she wants to be a part of your fun life again.
Another thing you can do to get your ex to call you more often isâ¦
3. Make her laugh and smile whenever she talks to you
Imagine youâre on a call with someone and they spend the entire time being serious and trying not to say anything wrong in case it upsets you.
Would you want to keep talking to this person, or would you want to hang up?
Yes, you would likely try to get off the call as quickly as possible, because talking to this person makes you feel tense and stressed out.
Now imagine that the person youâre talking to is light-hearted, relaxed and uses humor to make you laugh and smile.
How would you feel about talking them?
Chances are high, you would enjoy it very much and you would likely think something along the lines of, âThis is so much fun. I really like talking to him/her. It makes me want to interact with him/her more and more.â
With this in mind, when you make your ex laugh and smile every time sheâs on a call with you from now on, youâre almost guaranteeing that she will want to call you more often, because youâre making her feel good to be talking to you.
At the same time, by making every call between you and her happy and enjoyable, youâre actively sparking her feelings of respect and attraction for you and making the negatives of your relationship seem less important to her.
When that happens, she naturally feels drawn to you in a way that feels good to her.
So, donât be afraid of using humor to lighten the mood between you and your ex when youâre on a call with her.
Of course this doesnât mean you should be cracking jokes and acting like a clown with her, because that will actually have the opposite effect (e.g. annoy her and turn her off).
Instead, you need to be courageous enough to use ballsy humor to turn any awkwardness into smiling, laughter and love.
For example: If your ex asks you about your day, rather than respond in the usual way by saying something like, âFine,â or âBoring,â or âBusy,â you can use humor and make her think things like, âThis is so much fun. I donât want to hang up the phone.â
For instance you might say, âOh not much. I was craving noodles so I went out to get something to eat.â
She will most likely continue the conversation by asking something like, âOh, where did you go? Anywhere nice?â
You can then respond in a joking way, âTo your house of course! Youâre the only one who makes noodles just the way I like them. So, hurry up and open the door. Iâm hungry!â
She will likely be a bit shocked and she may say something along the lines of, âWhat? Are you serious? Are you really here?â
You can then laugh and say, âLol…of course not. Yet, I would like some of those noodles if you are in the mood to cook them. Up for some noodles? :)â
She will most likely have a laugh with you about it and as a result, she will feel surges of respect and attraction for you for having the confidence to make her laugh and smile, even though you and her are no longer a couple.
She then begins to feel drawn to you in a way that feels good to her and she wants to call you more often to experience those feelings even more.
Another thing you can do to get your ex to call you more often isâ¦
4. Attract her in new ways
If you donât make the attraction experience youâre giving your ex different and more interesting than what sheâs had with you before, sheâs not going to feel motivated to call you more often.
Instead, sheâs likely going to focus on finding herself a new man who can make her feel excited, attracted and turned on in ways that you canât.
So, donât bore your ex by saying and doing the same things youâve always done and expect her to want to spend more time on the phone (or in person) with you.
Instead, start attracting her in new and interesting ways so she wants to talk to you more often and also wants to meet up with you to experience the new you face-to-face.
Here are some examples of how you can do thatâ¦
- If you are always being nice and neutral with her, it’s now time to be more challenging and ballsy.
- If youâve only been pretending to want to be friends with her when talking on the phone, you now need to flirt with her to create some sexual tension and show her that what you really want is for her to be your girl again.
- If you feel nervous and unsure of yourself when talking to her, focus on being more confident and self-assured.
- If she tends to call the shots during conversation, laugh at her (in a loving way) and show her that she canât dominate you with her confident personality.
- If youâve been putting yourself down and thinking that sheâll never want to get back with you, itâs now time to realize and accept that you are good enough for her and that she will be lucky to have you as her man.
The more you begin to attract her in ways that she doesnât expect, the more she will want to interact with you on the phone and in person to experience it.
Itâs then pretty easy for you to fully reactivate her feelings of respect, attraction and love for you and get her back.
Another thing you can do to get your ex to call you more often isâ¦
5. End the conversation before she does
Many guys keep talking and talking when theyâre on a call with their ex until she eventually says, âOkay, I’d better get going,â just to end the call.
She may then say to herself, âPhew! He just kept going on and on. I didnât know if he was ever going to stop talking. In the end I was feeling so stressed out and overwhelmed. Maybe I should keep my calls to him to a minimum, because heâs just not fun to talk to.â
Then, instead of calling him more often, she instead calls him less and less.
So, to avoid that from happening to you, make sure that youâre the one who ends the conversation with her and usually the best time is right at the point where she seems to be enjoying herself the most.
For example: Imagine that youâre on a call with your ex and you focus on bringing down her guard by making her laugh, smile and feel happy to be talking to you.
The more she enjoys herself during the conversation, the more likely it is that she will begin thinking something along the lines of, âHeâs seems so different from the guy I broke up with. Iâm actually enjoying talking to him now. It makes me want to call him more often and even meet up with him in person. Iâm curious to see if heâll have the same effect on me when weâre face-to-face. I do hope so.â
Then, when you can sense that sheâs feeling relaxed and attracted and is really into the conversation with you, you can say something like, âWell, anywayâ¦itâs been really great talking to you again, but Iâve got to get going now, but letâs do this again soon, okay? Bye,â and then hang up the call when she acknowledges that the call is ending (e.g. she says, âOkay, byeâ¦talk to you laterâ).
Not only will that make her feel surges of respect and attraction for you, but it will also ensure that she wants to call you again soon.
From there, rather than stick to phone conversations with her, go ahead and get her to a meet up with you instead where you can fully reactivate her feelings for you (i.e. by showing her that you really are a new and improved man now) and guide her gently back into a relationship with you.
Where Guys Go Wrong When Trying to Get an Ex to Call Them More Often
Talking to an ex over the phone is a great way to start re-attracting her so that you can get her back.
However, some guys ruin their chances of that happening because they make the following mistakes:
1. Hoping that she guides him back into a relationship, so he doesn’t have to risk rejection
Sometimes a guy will think to himself, âWell at least my ex is calling me. That must mean she has some feelings left for me. I just need to play it cool and wait for her to give me a sign that sheâs open to us getting back together again. What I donât want to do is come on too strong too soon and cause her to feel turned off because she thinks Iâm being pushy and she then stops calling me altogether.â
He may then just stick to talking to her over the phone whenever she feels the urge to call him, without ever making a move himself.
Instead, he may secretly be hoping that if heâs patient with her she will eventually say something along the lines of, âIâm tired of talking over the phone. I miss you and I want to see you in person. Letâs meet up.â
Yet, that rarely happens.
Yes, some women will do that, but only if the feelings are mutual.
If the feelings aren’t mutual, a woman won’t feel motivated to guide her ex back into a relationship with her.
So, if you want to get your ex back, donât waste time waiting for her to make it happen.
Instead, be emotionally courageous enough to take the lead by calling her rather than waiting for her to call you and begin reawakening her sexual and romantic feelings for you.
Then, when sheâs feeling drawn to you again and likely wondering, âWhen is he going to make a move?â get her to a meet up with you so that you can fully re-attract her and get her back.
Donât wait for her to make it easy for you.
Women donât respect or feel attracted to guys who need women to guide them along and make things easy for them.
So, just be emotionally courageous and get her back.
Another mistake that guys make isâ¦
2. Playing too many mind games and ending up losing her in the process
Sometimes, a woman might decide to stay in contact with her ex to see if itâs possible for them to work things out before she makes up her mind about moving on without him.
Yet, if the guy then ends up playing mind games with her (e.g. he pretends that he only wants to be friends with her now and isnât interested in anything else, he plays a bit hard to get to make himself appear valuable in her eyes so she will give him another chance), she may decide that sheâs wasting her time and decide to cut her loses and move on.
Hereâs the thingâ¦
Even if a woman does still have some feelings for her ex and is hopeful about getting back with him, she will rarely chase after him.
Instead, she may give him an opening to get her back (e.g. she calls him on the phone) and then waits for him to make the next move.
However, if he just messes her around by playing mind games with her and doesnât take control of the ex back process, she will get fed up with him.
She will then likely close herself off from him and focus on getting over him and finding herself a new man.
So, if you truly want to work things out and get back together again with your ex, donât mess her around by playing unnecessary mind games.
Instead, just focus on doing what needs to be done to reawaken her feelings of respect and attraction, so you can bring down her defenses and get her back (i.e. call her, spark her feelings, meet up with her and get her back).
Another mistake that guys make isâ¦
3. Not following through on a simple ex back process and just getting her back for real
Regardless of how often your ex calls you, nothing will happen until you meet up with her in person and re-spark her sexual and romantic feelings for you for real.
A lot of guys remain stuck talking with their ex over the phone for weeks or even months, without ever plucking up the courage to get to a meet up with her.
Essentially, a guy like that is hoping that the more often they talk over the phone, the more likely it is that they will drift back into a relationship with each other.
Yet, in most cases, the woman gets bored of waiting for her ex to make a move and eventually her interest begins to fade; especially if she interacts with other guys and they make her feel more attracted than her ex does.
Then, by the time he builds up the courage to ask her to meet up, she will likely say something like, âSorry, but Iâve actually met someone else and I want to focus on building my relationship with him. I hope you understand and that we can still be friends. I promise I will still call you from time to time to say hi.â
Heâs then left feeling rejected and wondering what he did wrong.
The answer is that he waited too long.
He didnât follow through on the ex back process and get her back.
So, if you donât want that to happen to you, then make sure that you take control of the ex back process immediately.
Call you ex right away, get her to meet up with you, hook up with her and get her back for real.
