3 things you should start to do if you want your ex girlfriend back:
1. Use the times when she visits her dog to re-attract her
Even though your ex girlfriend is currently saying that she doesnât want you back, it doesnât mean she will stick to that decision once youâve reactivated some of her sexual and romantic feelings for you.
Fortunately, unlike a lot of guys who get broken up with and who struggle to find a way to interact with their ex without being rejected by her, you have the perfect âexcuseâ that makes her accessible to you almost any time you want (i.e. youâre taking care of her dog).
This means, every time she calls to check up on her dog or comes to visit him/her, you have a chance to spark some of her feelings for you again.
How can you do that?
Some of the ways you can do that are byâ¦
Becoming more confident and self-assured about your attractiveness and value to her, rather than feeling insecure around her and worrying about her saying that she doesnât want you back.
Showing her that youâve added to your strengths and improved your weaknesses, rather than staying the same and expecting her to want you back just because you still care for her.
- Improving your ability to make her feel like a sexy, desirable woman in your presence, rather than treating her like a neutral friend.
- Being more manly in your attitude and in how you think, talk, behave, and interact with her, rather than allowing her to dominate you with her confident personality.
- Flirting with her to create sexual tension between you, rather than âplaying it safeâ by pretending youâre not interested in her and only talking about her dog with her.
- Making her smile and laugh and feel relaxed to be around you, rather than trying to turn every conversation with her into a discussion about the relationship and what it would take for her to give you another chance.
When you start making her feel sexually attracted to you again, it then gives you the confidence to not accept the scraps that she is giving you by letting you take care of her dog.
Not only will you feel more in control of the ex back process (rather than letting it be all up to your ex girlfriend), she also stops thinking of you as her good, old reliable ex boyfriend who is only there to take care of her dog.
As a result she starts to feel drawn to you again.
When that happens, her guard comes down and she opens herself up to kissing and sex to see where things go from there.
Another thing you should do isâ¦
2. Use the dog as a source of humor when you see her
It has been said that laughter is the best medicine.
So, what better way to ease the tension between you and your ex girlfriend and take the bite off any negative feelings she might still be holding onto about you than to make her laugh when sheâs with you.
For example: The next time she comes to visit her dog, you might say something like, âIâm sorry you came all this way for nothing, but your dog isnât here right now.â
She might then ask something along the lines of, âWhat? Where is he?â
You can then respond in a joking way, âWell⦠heâs been so happy since you left that when I told him you were coming to visit today, he decided to go out for a walk. He’ll be back later,â and have a laugh with her about that.
Note: That kind of thing is to be said to her in person with a smile and in a joking manner, not via text.
When you use humor and get your ex smiling and laughing, it becomes a lot more difficult for her to hold on to her decision not to get back together again.
As a result, she starts feeling respect and attraction for you again and she begins thinking things like, âThis is interesting. Heâs so funny and confident all of a sudden. I wonder what has gotten into him. Maybe heâs really changed after all. Maybe I should stop pushing him away and see what happens instead.â
You can then build on her feelings for you and make her want you back.
Another thing you should do isâ¦
3. When she is attracted to you again, use the dog to do something romantic
Romance is only enjoyable for a woman when the feelings are mutual.
So, you need to re-attract your ex girlfriend first before doing this.
Then, when you know that she is re-attracted based on how you have been interacting with her, you can use her visit to see the dog to melt her heart a little.
For example: Something you might do isâ¦
Hang a little sign from the dog’s collar or neck, saying, âWanna go for a walk?â and then walk the dog together.
On the walk, if she seems open (e.g. sheâs laughing and smiling a lot, playfully teasing you or touching you on the arm), you might try and hold her hand.
If she doesnât pull away, continue walking hand in hand for a while.
At the right moment (e.g. she turns to look at you and smiles, she moves closer to you), you can go ahead and give her a kiss on the lips.
From there, if sheâs open to it, go back to your place and hook up with her sexually.
Then, continue showing her during every interaction you have with her that youâve transformed yourself into the kind of man that she can now look up to, respect and feel attracted to (e.g. confident, more manly, emotionally mature, emotionally independent).
As you do that, she will naturally begin to fall back in love with you.
By the wayâ¦
Donât give up if she doesnât want to hold hands, kiss or have sex again.
The important thing is that you maintain your confidence with her and you continue building her feelings of respect, attraction and love for you over time.
The more she experiences the new you for herself, the more she will fall for you again, even if she initially didnât think it was possible.
You and her can then get back together in a relationship that is so much better than it was before.
4 Common Mistakes to Avoid When Taking Care of Your Ex Girlfriendâs Dog if You Want Her Back
When you spark your ex girlfriendâs feelings of respect and attraction for you, everything changes.
Her guard comes down and she opens herself up to getting back together again because being around you feels good to her.
On the other hand, if you keep saying and doing the kinds of things that make you appear unattractive in her eyes, sheâs just going to keep blocking you and saying things like, âLook, I really appreciate that youâre taking care of my dog, but we can only be friends from now on. I just donât have feelings for you anymore. Please accept that.â
She may then try to find herself a replacement man as quickly as possible as a way of convincing you that she doesnât want you back.
This is why, you need to focus on doing the right things, rather than making any of the following mistakes:
1. Taking extra good care of the dog in the hope that it impresses her and makes her take pity on you
Sometimes a guy might spend almost all of his time pampering his exâs dog (e.g. talking him for long walks, buying him new toys to play with, feeding him only the best and most expensive food).
Secretly heâs hoping that his ex will think something along the lines of, âWow, heâs really been spoiling my dog so much! Thatâs just so sweet and thoughtful of him. It makes me feel like such a bitch for refusing to give him another chance. Based on how amazing heâs been by taking care of my dog even though weâre broken up, I owe it to him to at least try to work things out.â
Yet, although a woman might appreciate that heâs being so kind and helpful, feeling sorry for him isnât the main thing that will change her feelings for him.
What will?
Reactivating her feelings of respect and attraction for you, so she feels drawn to you and becomes open to giving you another chance.
So, even though the guy might be a good guy and has good intentions, a woman usually wonât see it that way.
He wonât see what he is doing as needy and desperate, but she will.
So, donât bother trying to make your ex woman feel pity for you for being so nice to her dog, while sheâs being mean to you, because it will most-likely backfire.
Instead, just focus on reawakening her feelings of respect and attraction, so she naturally wants you back because it feels right to her.
Another mistake to avoid making isâ¦
2. Suggesting that the dog is depressed without her around
While this might be true, it’s not the sort of emotional blackmail that gets a woman back into a committed relationship.
Instead, she will likely think something like, âI canât believe that heâs trying to put me on a guilt trip. Does he really think Iâm going to get back with him just because my dog is depressed?â
She will then look at her ex as being manipulative, childish and emotionally immature, which are all traits that turn women off about men.
She will then be even more convinced that breaking up with him was the right decision.
This is why, itâs important that rather than looking for excuses to get her back, you instead quickly level up and become a more emotionally attractive man.
When you do that, she will have a really good reason to feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
It will be based on something solid and genuine (i.e. youâve transformed yourself into a better man), rather than on something superficial like her dog being depressed.
As a result, her guard will come down a little and you can then build on her feelings and get to a hug, kiss, sex and back into a relationship.
Another mistake to avoid making isâ¦
3. Not getting to the core reasons why she doesn’t want you back
In her mind, your ex has probably got some very good reasons for not wanting to give you another chance.
The important thing, is that you understand her reasons, so you can quickly change and improve some of those things.
When you do, all her excuses fall away and she then naturally and automatically starts to feel drawn to you again.
So, you really do need to figure it out.
Don’t ask her that though.
It’s not her job as an ex girlfriend to explain how you can get her back.
You have to understand that without her help.
By the wayâ¦
If you donât know what to look for, here are some questions to help you start figuring it all out:
- Are you the kind of man that she can look up to and respect, or does she feel like youâre not living up to your full potential as a man (e.g. because you donât have any big goals or dreams that youâre working towards achieving, youâre too childish and immature, you donât have a purpose in life, you tend to lose confidence and go into your shell in social situations)?
- Do you make her feel the way a woman wants to feel in a relationship with a man (e.g. feminine, girly and sexually desirable), or does she feel more masculine in contrast to you because youâre too insecure or emotionally wimpy?
- Does she feel lucky to be with you, or does she feel like she can do better?
- Do you believe in your attractiveness and value to her, or do you secretly believe that you got lucky and that you will never be able to get another woman who is as attractive as her?
By asking yourself questions like that, you can zone in on what is making her not want you back, and then change those things about yourself.
When she realizes that youâre no longer turning her off like you used to and are instead making her feel surges of respect and attraction for you, she will naturally start to change her mind about giving you another chance.
Another mistake to avoid making isâ¦
4. Potentially continuing to be way too generous and kind to her
If one of the reasons why your ex girlfriend broke up with you was because you let her walk all over you, she isn’t going to be impressed that youâre now dutifully taking care of her dog.
Instead, she will likely continue to use you for her convenience, while she secretly focuses in moving on behind your back.
Then one day, she may show up at your place and say something like, âIâm here to fetch my dog. Iâve met someone else and weâre moving in together and there will be lots of space for my dog at our new house, so I can take care of him now. Thanks for looking after him, youâve been a real sweetie.â
Hereâs the thingâ¦
A woman wants to be with a man that she can look up to and respect, not a guy that allows her to walk all over him, just so he can get to spend some time with her.
So, if you want your ex girlfriend to give you another chance, make sure you donât let her take advantage of you in the process.
Thereâs nothing wrong with looking after her dog if you said that you would, but that doesnât mean you should bend to her wishes every time (e.g. you make yourself available whenever she wants to visit the dog, you agree to look after him longer even though she said it would only take a few days/weeks/months before she was settled and could take him back).
Let her see that you are a good guy who is willing to be nice to her, but are also confident enough to say no to her when sheâs pushing the line.
Another mistake to avoid making isâ¦
5. Not giving her a compelling reason to want you back
The most compelling reason is when you reactivate your ex’s feelings and she suddenly feels a newfound respect and romantic attraction for you.
You can do that based on how you now interact with her.
For example: Some of the things you can do to spark her feelings for you areâ¦
- Maintain your confidence with her regardless of what she says or does to mess with your head.
- Make her smile and laugh and feel relaxed to be around you again.
- Flirt with her to create sexual tension between you and her.
- Show her that youâre a new and improved man that she can now truly look up to, respect, feel attracted to and love.
- Be a good man, but also be confident and assertive when talking to her, so that she doesnât take you for granted.
The more you make her feel good when sheâs interacting with you, the more she will want to be around you.
You can then progress to giving her a hug, a kiss and then hook up with her sexually and get her back.
