When on a date, the art (and it is an art) of conversation is supremely vital. To fail at conversation is to fail at Game.
While practicing the art of communication, the end goal is to maintain mystery and build attraction. Talking about yourself – or topics that only relate to you – excessively is the enemy of mystery and attraction.
I posted about this previously and it’s worth repeating:
My advice here is thus â when a man is dating, he should shut up and let the damsel do the talking. Please, keep quiet. Your daring stories of fiduciary acumen are not exciting. Your stories of relationship misery and woe are simply awful. Keep silent, look deeply into her eyes and let her speak.
I recommend this for the following reasons:
1. A quiet man resonates mystery. For all the words not spoken, the woman is forming an internal narrative with the man (you, hopefully) as a key performer. Realistic? Maybe, maybe not. This is the way of women.
2. For every word spoken by the man, the woman is interpreting, analyzing, and looking for a reason to reject him. If you are doing the online dating thing, this is important. While she might love your profile and your photos, the first date is crucial. If you havenât had sex yet, a woman is looking for reasons to reject you.
This advice also applies to online dating messages. Keep the words to a minimum. Every word is expensive. Every word is sacred, every word is pure (hat tip to Monty Python). No woman wants three hundred words on why you are the best man ever. Twenty words builds more mystery and women love, love, love mystery. If you can manage it, let her mind do the somersaults to fit you into her life. If you canât manage it, your words are turned into a knife that is slitting your own throat.
Want more on the subject of conversational narcissism? Read this.
You’re welcome.
Here’s a funny cartoon about conversation…
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Title | Conversational Narcissist – Don’t Be This |
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Author | The Private Man |
Date | May 10, 2011 3:38 AM UTC (12 years ago) |
Blog | The Private Man |
Archive Link |
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Original Link | https://theprivateman.wordpress.com/2011/05/09/conversational-narcissist-dont-be-this/ |
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