My audience on this blog is not uniform by any means:
Some readers are good looking, others are not.
Some readers are interesting, others are not.
Some readers are confident, others are not.
Some readers know how to dress, others do not.
The advice that I give is similarly varied. Depending which of these groups (and others) you fall into, different pieces of advice (from this blog or other sources) may or may not apply to you. A girl who already knows how to dress well and look her best should not be scrutinizing every aspect of her appearance, even if I post about it frequently
. Those posts are not intended for her. If a girl like this gets rejected
it would be an exercise in futility for her to fret about the fact that she wore one top instead of another, or wore heels instead of flats, or put on too much make-up, when the real problem is that she is boring, or is always trying to identify with men
, or is a slob
. Perfecting some single part of her look is not going to have anywhere near as much of an effect as trying to improve her personality.
The fact of the matter is that improvements in appearance follow a law of diminishing returns. Added efforts produce less and less results. And there comes a point at which it makes more sense to shift focus to the areas of your life that will have a larger effect:
Many women will lie somewhere between the states represented by the two plots, depending on how they have invested their time and effort
. But when you read advice from this blog - or elsewhere - first understand what type of girl you are and where on each plot you lie before you decide whether or not it applies to you, or to what degree.
(By the way, the 50-odd % location of the dividing line in the charts above is fairly arbitrary, and the shape of the curve will probably be different for every girl anyway. Don't pay much attention to it.)