The Story of My History with Women – Part 19 – The Old and The New

Since I had only been doing this for three years, this list of women was not very large (today itâs huge). I didnât think that statistically there would be enough ex-FBs and ex-MLTRs to guarantee that I would pull at least one or two of them back into regular rotation.  

So, I hopped back onto the dating sites, resurrected my profiles, and fired off about 200 openers across three or four different sites. I figured this plus my ex resurrection efforts would be more than enough to bring in at least one or two women. And I was right. 

This particular online dating blitz yielded two first dates. One was with a 32-year-old dark-haired Russian woman and the other was with a really cute 19–year-old with extremely long brown hair (not my favorite) and a very curvy but trim body (my favorite). 

Unsurprisingly, the Russian woman turned out to be a total bitch and the first date with her was an unpleasant experience. I describe what happened under âRussian Girl #1â here. This was several years before I would notice a near-consistent pattern of problems from Russian women that I never experienced with any other race or nationality of women (though I still noted what happened, as I always do, for my records). 

On the other hand, the 19–year-old, who Iâll call Courtney, turned out to be a huge victory. I did the standard Blackdragon one-hour first date, meeting up at a local Dennyâs (she was 19 so she didnât care) and just ordered soft drinks. We talked for the entire hour and we hit it off. She was extremely shy with a very quiet voice. At times I wasnât sure if she was interested in me at all (some women are like that). Regardless, when I hit her up the next day to come over to my place, she agreed, and we were having sex within about 40 minutes of her arriving at my house. 

One hour and forty minutes grand total meet-to-sex, with only $13 spent, with a very cute girl who was almost 20 years younger than me. This was standard stuff at this point.

Even better, Courtney turned out to be one of the most long-term and enjoyable relationships with a VYW I have ever had in my life. She was very smart, extremely low key (and thus low drama and low jealousy), she had the exact physical traits I like, and we were very sexually compatible. I made her a low-end MLTR and saw her for over a year, consistently. Moreover, during that entire time she never once brought up the topic of monogamy or exclusivity. This makes her a unique exception, since even the most sexually relaxed women will eventually bring this up after a few months, requiring The Talk.  

While this was all happening my fishing expedition for some returning exes also worked. Of all people, crazy Selina responded to my text and was enthusiastic to hang out again. I actually hesitated to do so, judging from my numerous crazy experiences with her before, but she was a very hot 20 year-old who I wouldnât have to redate, and I figured I already had my other solid women, so I said, âWhat the hell.â 

Lesson Thirty-Three

If you manage the relationship correctly while youâre having it, you can almost always bring an ex-FB or ex-MLTR back into your life as long as you keep many months of radio silence after she leaves and are very patient.  

This set off a story so crazy that I have never discussed it publicly before and purposely waited until it was at least ten years old to tell it. 

Selina asked if she could spend the night since she needed a place to stay for two nights. She had some kind of dispute with her mom who she was living with at the time before Selina moved into an apartment with her boyfriend (of course she had a boyfriend; Selina always had a boyfriend). I reluctantly agreed (I hadnât yet solidified the Cardinal Rules against having FBs spend the night) figuring it would only be two nights.  

I coordinated with both Selina and her mom to meet them and pick up Selina. I had met Selinaâs mom two years prior when I was playing around with Selina the first time. Mom was around my age (I was 38 at the time), fit, and very attractive. (Yeah. Now you know where this is going.) 

Selina came over, stayed at my place for three days, and left without incident. Then Selinaâs Mom started contacting me without me contacting her first, even to the point of sending me flirty messages. 

I canât give any detail about this next part, but to summarize, Selinaâs Mom apparently had a thing for me regardless (or perhaps because of?) the weirdness of me hooking up with her daughter. We eventually met up in a parking lot briefly and talked for just a bit. Two days later Selinaâs Mom was over at my place and⦠yeah, it happened. 

It was a one-time thing, which was probably for the best. Pretty damn fun though. I also didnât see Selina again for a while since she was more focused on her boyfriend. Again, for the best.  

But there would be more from those two and others in their sphere. A lot more. 

Around this time, Charlotte dropped a little bomb on me. One night, while in bed with each other, she asked me if she could be my official girlfriend. It had been over eight months, so I wasnât surprised. She assured me that I could still have sex with all the other women I wanted, and she meant it (her jealousy was almost zero, which is why she was so wonderful). She just wanted us to officially identify each other as girlfriend and boyfriend. 

So, as sweetly and as lovingly as I could, I told her no. She cried a little bit, gave me a hug, and told me she understood. Within a few weeks she was gone. Not a LSNFTE since there wasnât another man in the picture. She just wanted more. 

It was fine though. She came back a few years later. They always do. Plus, Courtney was essentially replacing her so I was still covered, and two more women would soon return. More on that in the next installment.