indication of interest
Indication of Interest (IOI)
Can be active or passive IOIs.
She re-initiates conversations when you stop talking (So….) She giggles and/or laughs at your jokes, even if they’re not funny She touches you She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you If eye contact happens from a distance, she holds it for a second She holds eye contact for longer periods of time when she speaks with you She smiles at you While walking by, she turns her body toward you or brushes against you She uses a functional opener on you or in any way initiates a conversation She interrupts your conversation from nearby or laughs at something you said She asks for personal details about you (name, age, job) She compliments you She is playful and tries to challenge you She's punching your arm but laughing She plays with her hair while talking to you She mentions your girlfriend without knowing if you actually have one When she has to go to the bathroom, she comes back She avoids mentioning her boyfriend When she says or does something, she looks at you to see your reaction She looks at you from the side, to hide the fact that she's looking She introduces you to friends She buys you a drink She calls you a player or a heart-breaker On her way out, she re-approaches you to tell you that she is leaving (Get her #) On your way out, she asks you where you are going (Invite her) She invents reasons to be near you, interact with you, or have Isolation with you She pushes up her breasts (sexual escalation) Passive examples: She stands nearby (proximity) Her friends leave and she stays She moves to see you and hangs with you for extended periods If you move she follows you or waits for you She doesn't flinch or pull back if you get close When your bodies touch in some way she doesn’t break the contact She doesn't resist when you escalate physically (or she gives token resistance to avoid feeling like a slut)
The most important IOIs are:
She giggles She touches you She re-initiates conversation when you stop talking
A special kind of
, which is simply a cue to approach. The most typical approach invitation is a smile with some coy looking away followed by more smiling. However, there are other more subtle Approach Invitations women may give you.