titlegore, I know.

So there's this girl I run into every once in a while - absolutely gorgeous. I've known her for a few months and I see her maybe once a month because we run into each other at the same social events. We always talk a bit and as far as I can tell she was at least somewhat into me. She's usually sweet and bubbly but reserved in one of those "you need to make a move on me or else nothing will happen" kind of ways. You know the type of girl I'm talking about.

Skip to last week. We see each other again at some event. We don't talk for the first hour or so. I've got my people, she's got hers. Eventually everyone breaks up and everyone is mingling and she makes her way over to me while I'm standing alone and starts chatting me up. Just general stuff at first - job, life, favorite shit etc. then suddenly she starts bringing up sex and kinky stuff and whatever else comes up. This goes on for like 2+ hours and all the while she's following me around the room from table to table and up to the bar with me. I didn't buy her a drink so her flirting for drinks isn't the reason.

Eventually everything is dying down and people are leaving. We end up in a group of 4ish people by the end and all of a sudden she calls an Uber and leaves with a wave and I'm left sitting there dumbfounded as to what just happened.

Maybe I didn't indulge her enough when we talked about sex. Maybe I should have kissed her. But a part of me was thinking maybe she was just being nice because both her and I are really close friends with our only mutual friend at the party. Then again she could have left my company at any moment and gone to talk to someone else but she didn't. It could be any number of things but I'm confused.

Anyway I messaged her on Fb messenger because the few times we have talked online it's been that, and I ask her if she wants to get a drink sometime. She didn't even look at the message even though she immediately responded to her when I said hey like 5 minutes beforehand.

So I guess I got rejected, but I'm still confused as to why.

  • Where did I go wrong?

  • Next time I see her, what do I even do?

And please before you comment about abundance mentality and going to find someone else to fuck, know that I posted this for advice on this specific situation and interpreting it the right way and treating it as a learning experience.