... she called me to tell me that another guy kissed her...

Quantum_Jiraiya · 2018-06-22T00:46:18+00:00

Meet up with her in person. Hold her hands in yours. Looks her in the eyes and whisper softly, “Begone thot,” as you slide the ring off her finger never to see her again.

infamous3238 · 2018-06-22T00:05:42+00:00

No, it didn’t happen by accident. She also probably fucked him. Girls usually don’t confess the entire truth.

She’s acting distant because she has feelings for the guy she kissed, if she didn’t she wouldn’t have brought it up. Who is the guy? An ex she still has feelings for?

I would end the engagement, but only you have the data points to make that decision. I don’t know anything else about your fiancé.

Wrath_of_Trump · 2018-06-22T00:16:36+00:00

Tell her to marry the other guy and let this one go buddy.

rhinoglue · 2018-06-22T00:37:35+00:00

You dodged two bullets here. One, she told you this upfront so now you know to jump ship, and Two, you're not married. I know it hurts, but thank your lucky stars this happened now and not while you were married.

-TheChosenDuck- · 2018-06-22T00:08:51+00:00

Trickle truth incoming. Her pussy got pounded.

Guys don't just randomly make out with whores with out signals from the women first. She was sending the signals.

creating_my_life · 2018-06-22T01:18:09+00:00

Prior to leaving, I noticed that she was acting distant.

I'm surprised nobody else has picked up on this. She had already made plans to "accidentally" run into her ex-Chad while she was there.

Maybe she has cold feet. Maybe she's just a THOT. In either case, it's not your problem any more.

another guy kissed her.

well, if this guy tried to kiss her, and her immediate and only reaction was to punch him hard and leave, that's cool. Anything less than that, and she's just a whore.

nomorepartiesinsd · 2018-06-22T00:32:42+00:00

Call it off, she’s probably having second thoughts.

resnine · 2018-06-22T01:59:17+00:00

Translation: She fucked another guy.

usernameishardtomake · 2018-06-22T02:24:41+00:00

Can you give us an update on this story later please?

nicholson- · 2018-06-22T01:00:12+00:00

I've found that when girls "accidentally" do things like this, they were going to do it somehow regardless, they had already been lowering attraction to you beforehand. It doesn't just happen, the distance speaks volumes more than her just coming out with it

KamiNoTsurugi · 2018-06-22T03:06:51+00:00

Adding to everything else said, you'll never forget this and it'll ruin the vibe in your married life. You'll be questioning her everyday whenever she's out without you, wondering what she might be doing with someone else.

Trust issues before marriage turn into trust issues after marriage.

Break it off. Go free, my lad.

2comment · 2018-06-22T01:38:55+00:00

My ex-fiancé

FTFY.

boy_named_su · 2018-06-22T01:32:18+00:00

She ain't marriage material buddy. Sorry. Ghost her

zboo1h · 2018-06-22T01:56:43+00:00

I'm sorry my dude, your relationship is over and probably has been for longer than you'd like to admit to yourself. She's probably been sending all sorts of gay little covert communications like women like to do, and you've probably been brushing them off.

Will you know for sure what exactly happened with her? No. You'll never know if she "just kissed" a guy or was the center of attention in an impromptu bukkake - that's not the point. The point is you've got to detach yourself right now and go through whatever steps you need to in order to get that person out of your inner circle. You don't necessarily need to bleach them entirely out, but you absolutely must go through the painful and necessary steps of cutting all close ties to that person right now, pronto, to save yourself needless suffering.

If she asks why, or asks to talk, or somehow tries to impede you from separating entirely from her, give her nothing - nada - zilch, she doesn't need anything from you or she wouldn't be fucking other dudes, obviously. She's shown you how much she cares, you don't owe her shit.

Once the dust settles and you've resumed your life without her, you can then assess your situation and decide if she's worth having around for any reason at all, even sexually.

11-Eleven-11 · 2018-06-22T01:14:46+00:00

Is she still there? Is she living with you?

If so, pack your shit or pack her shit. Facing her will be really hard and it will be better to do it only once. There will be begging and tears and she will try to manipulate you. It won't work obviously because you're smart and she's dumb but it is annoying.

friendandadvisor · 2018-06-22T01:28:13+00:00

Demote to plate or Ghost.

Edit: I also liked the "He kissed me", not, "We kissed! (Then I blew, fucked, rimmed and had a threesome with him.)"

Aralant · 2018-06-22T04:46:45+00:00

I was engaged to a girl once when something similar to this happened except instead of a kiss he grabbed her boobs. And I was standing right there. Well I knew not to mate guard but then again I also knew I loved to fight and I could claim I was defending a woman from sexual assault. Well I beat the breaks off this guy and damn I felt good afterwards. This whole time she's crying begging me to stop. Well after I stop she says "it was a test he's gay I just wanted to see if you loved me"

Now I think I could have lived with the tit grabbing, I'd have hamstered it away by saying she didn't ask for it. But her testing me was unforgivable, so be aware your girl may be testing your reaction.

matrixtospartanatLV · 2018-06-22T03:14:18+00:00

Yeah, the distance thing before she left.

It was already on her mind and being planned.

Cancel everything.

Make sure you both are in possession of your own shit.

Ghost.

It’s not that simple, though.

She will come back and do everything within her considerable power to have this marriage go forward for her pride and ego.

It will start with a Tsunami of emotion, followed by begging/pleading, followed by hysterical bonding, followed by shaming, and then anger and threats.

Or, it really could be just this simple;

Cancel everything

Own your shit

Ghost

Choose wisely

tikitheman · 2018-06-22T12:41:40+00:00

Run brother trust me. This happened to me and I took her back then married her and its been about a year the relationship has been good but its eating at me. I do not think that anything she does will make up for what she did. She has been trying but I can only see the slut she is and how much I paid for what she was giving away for free.

Narcissist456 · 2018-06-22T01:03:01+00:00

She has bestowed this truth bomb upon you as a giant nuclear shit test and there’s only one way to pass it... RUN MOTHERFUCKER, RUN!

Herdsengineers · 2018-06-22T12:57:55+00:00

I'm 43. I've been married before to a woman that turned out to be a cheater. One confirmed affair, more suspected but she never admitted (the never admit the full truth, only partial to allay the guilt the hamster dredges up, or just what you can prove). I can confirm divorce rape is real. My case wasn't nearly as bad as others because my now ex-wife pissed off the judge at the hearing, but having to pay that bitch still in the name of "child support" is still a sore spot. He's almost 14, so almost 4 more years to go.

All that said - while I do believe in the value that marriage and coupling up with a woman that is right for you, to the disagreement of 99.9% of this sub, your fiance in particular has just shown you that she is not the right woman for you. I highly suggest you break off the engagement and get that ring back.

One way or another, this is either a sign that she can't control herself, gives in to the whims of her AWALT too easy, etc., or she set this up as a massive shit test. Women that test men like this aren't worthy of being wifed up. It means she has no respect for you no matter how you slice it. Do not marry a woman that doesn't respect you. And now, the only way she will respect you is if you next her. If you don't, she will only see that she can fuck around and nothing will happen, and she'll only grow to disrespect you more, which will eventually escalate to despising you. Literally, your only option at this point is to end things with her.

I get wanting to marry. I am remarried. I know the risks. But I will say this - marrying the right woman for you requires you to leave space open in your life to accept her into it when she comes along. Being with the wrong woman will prevent you from getting with the right woman. The wrong woman will be a cock block. Even if you leave a woman for another woman, if you're married, have kids, etc. when you leave - the divorce, child support, potential alimony - the prior marriage will be a drag on your new marriage forever.

So next this bitch and wait for someone better. Save yourself the rest of the trouble. And a year from now, when you look in the mirror, how much self respect do you want to feel? The amount that a guy that accepts what this bitch did? Or the amount that a guy that doesn't tolerate this shit would feel?

fashfront · 2018-06-22T00:58:45+00:00

I had a similar experience with a previous LTR. What I found worked very well was to have a very minimal response (texted: "Great") and then ghost her for a couple days. Whatever you do, your goal should be to make her certain you could drop her at any moment with no remorse. Showing any emotion at all displays that you're emotionally invested in her, which feeds her ego and makes her ponder that she might be better than you

69odin420 · 2018-06-22T06:37:09+00:00

The very fact that you posted about it means she definitely cheated on you. Gut feelings are real. You subconsciously or consciously have noticed her lessening attraction for you. This has happened to me. I wasn't sure, but was done with the girl because I had a gut feeling and would never be able to trust her again because of that.

cptgoatsack · 2018-06-22T08:59:08+00:00

Is her mom hot?

mrHappyPotatoe · 2018-06-22T10:34:28+00:00

Her being distant before the trip.

Experienced it myself and heard of it ao many times. It literally means she is going to fuck another guy. I dont want to say 100% cause sometimes its just blowjob. Yes happened to me.

ChasingLetters · 2018-06-22T02:33:46+00:00

Lucky that this happened before marriage. Dread and frame could probably prevent this in the future.

TheStumblingWolf · 2018-06-22T04:46:53+00:00

Trickle truth. She's hoping to have nibbed this in the bud with this action. I'm sure if you press her on it she will eventually spill more and more.

MarlboroMan62 · 2018-06-22T13:23:37+00:00

this is actually a standard classic case, read Rollo Tomassi's "please break up with me"

MattyAnon · 2018-06-22T18:08:07+00:00

Today she called and told me that another guy kissed her.

Trickle truth, there's more to come.

Obviously there was shit leading up to the moment.

You're notice that "he kissed her" as if she was a passive bystander.

She's cheating, behave accordingly.

BurnieSlander · 2018-06-22T03:58:23+00:00

If your post is accurate and she literally said “another guy kissed her” as if she couldn’t stop it, that is a massive red flag. Something more happened and you should just call her and tell her you know there was more.

Once she admits to fucking him it’ll be much easier to move on

[deleted] · 2018-06-22T04:27:53+00:00

She's a good girl: at least she did that BEFORE the wedding.

She might be worthy enough to be a plate.

Tousen71 · 2018-06-22T13:17:30+00:00

Call the engagement off. If you take her back it’s poor precedent. And the fact that she “got kissed” shows immaturity and a failure to keep it honest and accept responsibility—which means there’s something deeper there and it could happen again.

Dump her. She’s only calling you because SHES afraid of being single. Give it a month or two and if she BEGSSSS you to come back (sucks your dick, eats your ass, whatever you want) THEN consider taking her back.

Until then cest la vie

[deleted] · 2018-06-22T13:43:02+00:00

I once fucked a girl who called her boyfriend and said the exact same thing.

Corvus_Uraneus · 2018-06-22T14:43:33+00:00

Just a kiss? Right.... Get ready for some trickle truth.

PhaedrusHunt · 2018-06-22T17:25:28+00:00

Ever tried to kiss a girl that didn't want to be kissed? It's impossible. She HAS to kiss back.

She's a whore.

Go out to a club with the hottest women. Cold approach a group of them, two or three. Just tell this story to the leader of the group-- actually embellish it to say you know she cheated (of course she cheated, but women may make excuses). Say you're gonna dump her but you want to fuck with her first.

Anyway, proceeded to have your photo taken these hotties hanging on you. They'll do it. Women LOVE to fuck with other women. Buy them a round of drinks as a thank you.

Send her the picture, tell her these girls kissed YOU, and go cold. Never speak to her again (also I personally wouldn't block her at least for a while because I'd like to see the Deluge of texts as her hamster goes insane).

And to be honest come to think of it, this might actually be a pretty damn good cold approach for women. Demonstrates two things, one that some other hotty liked you, and two that you're alpha enough to not be messed with with zero consequences.

Good luck, brother.

Bcano · 2018-06-22T17:27:18+00:00

There is a line out of Shakespeare If you marry, I’ll give you this curse as your wedding present—be as clean as ice, as pure as the driven snow, and you’ll still get a bad reputation. Get yourself to a convent, at once. Good-bye. Or if you have to get married, marry a fool, since wise men know far too well that you’ll cheat on them. Good-bye.

the thing i got out of this is, They will Marry let them marry a fool beta that will suffer that shit, cause wise men like us will never tolerate that shit

redlittleboot · 2018-06-22T20:34:19+00:00

You're fucked buddy

[deleted] · 2018-06-22T20:35:14+00:00

Trickle truth, obvious symptoms of incoming infidelity.

She was probably fucked by him and you will learn the truth in a "more appropriate moment", right now she's prepping you for the next bit.

Women don't just get kissed, trust your gut and don't get married. Especially to her.

If you accept this she will see you as a willing cuck and will lose all respect for you.

Do not give her closure, plan your escape so that you won't ever have to see her ever again, execute plan, don't give her closure and it's not to be mean! It's so that she won't be able to lay the groundwork to gaslight you into guilt marriage.

Bruchibre · 2018-06-22T04:15:05+00:00

He kissed her so she didn’t do anything wrong it was his fault not hers. You should just thank her for being honest and live her even more.

kjlh9 · 2018-06-22T02:49:36+00:00

YOURE SO LUCKY! This shit happened before you got married, which happens to be the equivalent of chopping your nuts off and giving them to her along with 50% of your assets guaranteed (would you like fries with that?). Go read the side bar, tell her this makes you uncomfortable and call off the engagement. Did someone say dread game? If this was me I wouldnt promote her past plate, maybe ltr.

Black_m0ngoose · 2018-06-22T03:53:42+00:00

She did you a favor.

Now you are free.

Get your ring returned, and never look back.

justtenofusinhere · 2018-06-22T04:28:15+00:00

This is trickle truth. You must veiw trickle truth just like you view an iceburg--only a small portion of the whole is being revealed.

She said "Another guy kissed me."

That's true, but the whole statement is "Another guy [french] kissed me in my cervix while a choked his cock down my throat right before he railed me."

Do you see how that works? Good!

kyzen142 · 2018-06-23T00:08:46+00:00

Dhv dhv dhv dhv dhv and then kick her out of your life stone cold. Then she will come back begging for you and at that moment it will be easier to tell kick her out of ur life for good.

michaelmindset · 2018-06-23T01:38:56+00:00

Dodged a bullet brother. Don’t forget your super power as a man....the ability to walk away. If you don’t walk away you are showing no respect for yourself....and she will resent you for that. So it’s a no win situation if you stick around. I feel for you bro, hang in there...the men in these types of situations always come out happier and more successful than the women...ALWAYS.

dulkemaru51 · 2018-06-23T18:21:06+00:00

Unless she can somehow prove beyond reasonable doubt that some douche just grabbed her face and kissed her and that she pushed him away in disgust, next.

Several people on here have said that she strategically called to tell you about it to gage your reaction, but that she in fact fucked him.

Take it as a given that she had agency in the act, whether that act was kissing or ass fucking. She probably made out with a dude and hamstered it as him kissing her so hard that she now believes it herself.

wkndatbernardus · 2018-06-22T03:17:55+00:00

My question is, how did you not vett her harder before the engagement? Gotta up your awareness, g because, you got off easy this time. Your oneitis is blinding you to the truth of whoreism.

Title	... she called me to tell me that another guy kissed her...
Author	-TheChosenDuck-
Upvotes	70
Comments	121
Date	22 June 2018 12:01 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	askTRP
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