... she called me to tell me that another guy kissed her...

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June 22, 2018

My fiancé traveled back to her hometown about 2 weeks ago. Prior to leaving, I noticed that she was acting distant. Today she called and told me that another guy kissed her.

I'm not one to believe these things 'just happen' or 'it was an accident.' Obviously there was shit leading up to the moment.

What would you do?

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Title ... she called me to tell me that another guy kissed her...
Author -TheChosenDuck-
Upvotes 70
Comments 121
Date 22 June 2018 12:01 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/100684
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/8swtyt/she_called_me_to_tell_me_that_another_guy_kissed/
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[–]Quantum_Jiraiya 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

Meet up with her in person. Hold her hands in yours. Looks her in the eyes and whisper softly, “Begone thot,” as you slide the ring off her finger never to see her again.

[–]-TheChosenDuck-112 points113 points  (3 children) | Copy

This is the first time I laughed all day 😂. Thank you.

[–][deleted] 32 points33 points  (2 children) | Copy

My buddy did this a while ago. We were driving to some bars, in traffic with the windows down smoking cigs and some drunk HB 3 comes over and asks for one. He rolled up the windows so fast and shouted "BEGONE THOT" and sped off.

[–]Bruchibre16 points17 points  (1 child) | Copy

Do girls understand the word THOT ?

[–]empatheticapathetic18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy

They’re flattered

[–]Casd1241 points42 points  (1 child) | Copy

People see this as a joke but it's solid advice

[–]Fun2badult16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

That’s some funny shit. I was expecting something else

[–]kendallb1832 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I started reading this with dread, to end with laughter

[–]infamous3238147 points148 points  (23 children) | Copy

No, it didn’t happen by accident. She also probably fucked him. Girls usually don’t confess the entire truth.

She’s acting distant because she has feelings for the guy she kissed, if she didn’t she wouldn’t have brought it up. Who is the guy? An ex she still has feelings for?

I would end the engagement, but only you have the data points to make that decision. I don’t know anything else about your fiancé.

[–]NeverPullSumo74 points75 points  (6 children) | Copy

Posts like this always hurt.

[–]-TheChosenDuck-41 points42 points  (5 children) | Copy

I think the worst part is that I don't feel anything right now.

[–]friendandadvisor72 points73 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's the best part.

You found out that she's a whore, and not the one to whom you should be married. You can now remove her, clinically.

[–]rebuildingMyself9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

I call that emotional shock. I dumped my ex for cheating. She was crying, desperately trying to manipulate and talk me out of it, but I pushed forward. Once that was over I blocked her on everything. However, I wasn't upset or sad at the time. I was surprisingly numb.

I was actually fine for about two days. Went out more, worked a bit harder at work, went on a few dates, etc. Then i felt like shit for about a week. I didn't cry in my pillow all night or anything stupid but it felt like a withdrawal phase. However it passes and you're better off for it. Never forgive a cheater

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

The numbness may turn to pain. I hope you make the right decision here and keep it professional-ie write a letter to wedding guest recipients and her parents if you are close just saying the wedding has been cancelled, thank you for your support. Don't go mudslinging or anything-but expect it to be slung at you. I mean this truthfully, the fact that it happened is cancer. It will eat away at you-did they just kiss, is she really just at the store, getting coffee? Is really doing makeup before walking down aisle? I don't know if I could move past it, maybe you can.

I'd try and get the ring back-maybe just say we need to talk, or whatever.

If you truly feel nothing, demote to plate and run the game (you can even have the wedding with all the fun) and then just ghost and start a new life

[–]BusterVadge2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You will. It's going to suck for a while too. Let yourself feel the pain when it comes up and channel that into other things like PRing in the gym.

[–]-TheChosenDuck-41 points42 points  (14 children) | Copy

I have no idea who the guy is but I agree with you 100%. She had always been fully loyal.

I do not know who the guy is, I didn't ask. All I said was, "Don't call me. I'll contact you when I want to talk."

She keeps blowing up my phone as we speak.

[–][deleted] 63 points64 points  (0 children) | Copy

Wow dude. You dodged a bullet. Thank her for doing this and telling you about it before the wedding!

[–]friendandadvisor41 points42 points  (2 children) | Copy

You did well. Cancel any arrangements that will cost you money. Do not speak to her unless one of you has valuables that need to be collected.

You are free from a Cuck's life! Rejoice!

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy


[–]umnikos_bots1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]redd_reality34 points35 points  (1 child) | Copy

Think about it this way, if you forgive her and continue on with her and marry her, what will her respect level be for you in the future?

Women let you in on little tid bits of their slutty behaviour because they want to see how valuable your self respect is to you.

Every time you accept some form of whorey, you're self respect dimishes in both your eyes.

Get that ring off her finger and ice that bitch out of your heart. It's time bro, there's no going back.

[–]Kensei910 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

well said! Bullseye!

[–]IamJonSnow2210 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good for you man on maintaining your masculinity and showing respect for yourself by not talking to her. I think you know the answer as to whether you should keep the engagement on or not...

[–]QuagOnGin7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

You’re blessed man, this is SUCH an easy next. The disappointment will be there, but this is you dodging a damn bullet.... better yet a damn train wreck. This is one of the ideal infidelity outcomes and the power remains in your hands. Just think about all this time you have now to find your next upgrade.

[–]mountainbiker1785 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just walk away. Don't "talk" any more than to say "good bye"

[–]OracleofFl2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

A couple of points: Firstly, she was probably already chatting with Chad, that is why she was being distant. Secondly, if you do decide to take her back, you can use this an a "wedge" to get her to sign a pre-nup. "Honey, you violated my trust and it is going to take a long time for you to earn it back. The only was I can consider marrying you is if you sign a pre-nup."

[–]Kensei911 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

DUDE, i love it when they frame it as being the victim who has given no consent at all! Dude. If she told you, SHE kissed HIM and wanted it.

Demote her to plate to bang at best case (after you've cancelled anything that would cost you money)

[–]willowhawk1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Better now than after marriage with a kid

[–]sky_fallen1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Some women never own up to any of it. Count yourself lucky. Next.

[–]ramfex210 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I don't even think he needs all the data points.. She told him that she cheated, but blamed the man who 'kissed her'. OP needs to call off the engagement and leave immediately.

[–]Wrath_of_Trump93 points94 points  (4 children) | Copy

Tell her to marry the other guy and let this one go buddy.

[–]-TheChosenDuck-41 points42 points  (3 children) | Copy

I like this idea.

[–]redd_reality44 points45 points  (1 child) | Copy

You frame it as a sad event or frame it as a massive bullet dodged. Think of all the time, energy, headaches, obligations, money etc SHE SAVED YOU, by fucking up. You win huge on this one.

Now go fuck younger, hotter broads🤘

[–]xtpattx6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

You got the right idea!

[–]rhinoglue80 points81 points  (4 children) | Copy

You dodged two bullets here. One, she told you this upfront so now you know to jump ship, and Two, you're not married. I know it hurts, but thank your lucky stars this happened now and not while you were married.

[–]Fun2badult28 points29 points  (3 children) | Copy

And no kids. I’ve seen too many postings of stories like this with the guy and kids. Fucked up

[–]-TheChosenDuck-18 points19 points  (2 children) | Copy

I didn't even think about that. God bless anyone who would have kids in the mix of this mess... it makes my problems seem smaller.

[–]Fun2badult4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Also depends on how old you are

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Problems? You just dropped them.

[–][deleted] 98 points99 points  (7 children) | Copy

Trickle truth incoming. Her pussy got pounded.

Guys don't just randomly make out with whores with out signals from the women first. She was sending the signals.

[–]-TheChosenDuck-55 points56 points  (5 children) | Copy

I enjoyed single life for quite some time. This is the first thing I thought.

[–]KamiNoTsurugi 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

The other dude must've known she's engaged.

[–][deleted] 26 points27 points  (3 children) | Copy

Brah engaged gals want to get in “one last fling” before settling down. shooting fish in a barrel.

[–]KamiNoTsurugi 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

Yes, that's true. However, I'm saying the guy that kissed her knew what he was doing, so "by accident" is bullshit.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your reading skills need brushed up. Nobody said otherguy accidentally smashed exfiance.

OP knows otherguy and exfiance banged in his gut. He came here for tough love from people that have zero emotional investment in the situation. He knows what to do simply needs some support and reaffirmation cuz he’s in a shit place.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She knew what she was doing.

[–]Batmanforreal20 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This right here

[–]creating_my_life33 points34 points  (3 children) | Copy

Prior to leaving, I noticed that she was acting distant.

I'm surprised nobody else has picked up on this. She had already made plans to "accidentally" run into her ex-Chad while she was there.

Maybe she has cold feet. Maybe she's just a THOT. In either case, it's not your problem any more.

another guy kissed her.

well, if this guy tried to kiss her, and her immediate and only reaction was to punch him hard and leave, that's cool. Anything less than that, and she's just a whore.

[–]BurnieSlander8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

This exactly. She had a plan. Also, trickle truth. She banged him.

All of this was her cowardly way of communicating to OP that she isn’t ready to be married.

[–]creating_my_life6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Or she knows that if OP knows this and STILL marries her, that he has no self-respect and she can disrespect him their entire marriage and she can do whatever the fuck (and whoever) she wants.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

you know that's a semi psycho thought-i'll try if i can get away with this to make sure I trample over someone before I get this committed. I wonder if it was subconcious on her end or pre meditatated

[–]nomorepartiesinsd28 points29 points  (1 child) | Copy

Call it off, she’s probably having second thoughts.

[–]friendandadvisor11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]resnine27 points28 points  (0 children) | Copy

Translation: She fucked another guy.

[–]usernameishardtomake20 points21 points  (10 children) | Copy

Can you give us an update on this story later please?

[–]-TheChosenDuck-31 points32 points  (9 children) | Copy

I will shoot an update out in a week.

[–]ThatKassiusGuy4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Looking forward to an update as well.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Looking forward to it.

[–]matrixtospartanatLV0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, the update thing...

[–]Zen-ArtOfShitposting0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

How's it going?

[–]nofilmynofucky0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Oi you liar

[–]nicholson-19 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy

I've found that when girls "accidentally" do things like this, they were going to do it somehow regardless, they had already been lowering attraction to you beforehand. It doesn't just happen, the distance speaks volumes more than her just coming out with it

[–]KamiNoTsurugi 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

Adding to everything else said, you'll never forget this and it'll ruin the vibe in your married life. You'll be questioning her everyday whenever she's out without you, wondering what she might be doing with someone else.

Trust issues before marriage turn into trust issues after marriage.

Break it off. Go free, my lad.

[–]matrixtospartanatLV5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

I came to post this.

“Trust issues before marriage turn into DIVORCE.”


[–]KamiNoTsurugi 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

Not necessarily divorce. Many people still shy away from the label of divorcee, especially in Asia and the middle East, or other conservative communities. You can stay married but be in a miserable relationship, not only ruining your lives but your childrens' as well.

[–]matrixtospartanatLV0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

You are probably right.

The scourge of 3rd wave feminism, as it spreads throughout the world from Western civilization, continues to fuck up cultures and traditions that have existed for millennia.

I grew up at ground zero, and tend to write from that perspective.

[–]2comment16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

My ex-fiancé


[–]boy_named_su11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

She ain't marriage material buddy. Sorry. Ghost her

[–]zboo1h9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy

I'm sorry my dude, your relationship is over and probably has been for longer than you'd like to admit to yourself. She's probably been sending all sorts of gay little covert communications like women like to do, and you've probably been brushing them off.

Will you know for sure what exactly happened with her? No. You'll never know if she "just kissed" a guy or was the center of attention in an impromptu bukkake - that's not the point. The point is you've got to detach yourself right now and go through whatever steps you need to in order to get that person out of your inner circle. You don't necessarily need to bleach them entirely out, but you absolutely must go through the painful and necessary steps of cutting all close ties to that person right now, pronto, to save yourself needless suffering.

If she asks why, or asks to talk, or somehow tries to impede you from separating entirely from her, give her nothing - nada - zilch, she doesn't need anything from you or she wouldn't be fucking other dudes, obviously. She's shown you how much she cares, you don't owe her shit.

Once the dust settles and you've resumed your life without her, you can then assess your situation and decide if she's worth having around for any reason at all, even sexually.

[–]-TheChosenDuck-6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Thank you so much for your thoughts and input. I feel off the tracks. I'll definitely keep myself distant to reduce any needless suffering.

[–]AtlasCuckd0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Key is Separate Entirely. Use the D.E.N.N.I.S. system

All jokes aside, there's a lot of great information coming your way. OP, you must recognize that random kissing doesn't happen. There were either signs, conversations, flirting etc that preempted this. Come to terms that for certain, it was on her. She decided to do this 100%. How does that make you feel about a partner that you'd like to GIFT your finite time on this planet with?

The other thing is, she was being distant right before she left and this happened. That's guilt seeping through, and her way of coping or feeling less guilty is by distancing. This was setup and there is more to the story. Definitely someone she has spoken to before and perhaps for an extended period of time. The kissing was probably also trickle truth.

Please update us with the story. If there's a confrontation, read up here, TRP, or MRP regarding how to handle it the RIGHT WAY before it occurs. Arm yourself with knowledge and stay vigilant. You're responsible for your own rescue, though we're here cheering for you brother

[–]11-Eleven-118 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Is she still there? Is she living with you?

If so, pack your shit or pack her shit. Facing her will be really hard and it will be better to do it only once. There will be begging and tears and she will try to manipulate you. It won't work obviously because you're smart and she's dumb but it is annoying.

[–]friendandadvisor7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

Demote to plate or Ghost.

Edit: I also liked the "He kissed me", not, "We kissed! (Then I blew, fucked, rimmed and had a threesome with him.)"

[–]BusterVadge6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

I advise against demoting a fiancee to plate. Too much baggage. Plates are for fun only (i.e.: booty calls).

[–]friendandadvisor1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good point.

[–]Aralant7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

I was engaged to a girl once when something similar to this happened except instead of a kiss he grabbed her boobs. And I was standing right there. Well I knew not to mate guard but then again I also knew I loved to fight and I could claim I was defending a woman from sexual assault. Well I beat the breaks off this guy and damn I felt good afterwards. This whole time she's crying begging me to stop. Well after I stop she says "it was a test he's gay I just wanted to see if you loved me"

Now I think I could have lived with the tit grabbing, I'd have hamstered it away by saying she didn't ask for it. But her testing me was unforgivable, so be aware your girl may be testing your reaction.

[–]smirk_addict3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

I’m assuming being with a woman as fucked up as that is what led you here?

[–]Aralant3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

That wasn't actually the straw that broke the camel's back but it was a big ass pile to get things started, she was middle school and highscool sweetheart.

The straw that broke the camel's back was when I was big into the bar scene and got plenty of iois and looks but always propelled my way into beta orbiter status as I tried to use my money to get into pussy. Driving nice cars and trucks and buying drinks for the whole bar.

I learned money only works on women who didn't have it growing up. The high class girls who never even seen a trailer park don't think twice about cash lol

[–]matrixtospartanatLV6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

Yeah, the distance thing before she left.

It was already on her mind and being planned.

Cancel everything.

Make sure you both are in possession of your own shit.


It’s not that simple, though.

She will come back and do everything within her considerable power to have this marriage go forward for her pride and ego.

It will start with a Tsunami of emotion, followed by begging/pleading, followed by hysterical bonding, followed by shaming, and then anger and threats.

Or, it really could be just this simple;

Cancel everything

Own your shit


Choose wisely

[–]creating_my_life8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

It will start with a Tsunami of emotion, followed by begging/pleading, followed by hysterical bonding, followed by shaming, and then anger and threats.

OP, listen to this. He's absolutely right. Remember, ALL THOSE EMOTIONS are her just negotiating and trying to save her ego in front of all her friends.

The sex will be fantastic. BUT YOU CANNOT FUCK HER ANY MORE. Otherwise you'll be a daddy! She'll get pregnant to keep the deal. Do not let this happen.

And when she realizes that you're gone, she will do EVERYTHING she can to paint you the bad guy, her as the victim, and she'll start slandering you to all her friend group.

[–]crg10173 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sooo much truth here

[–]tikitheman 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

Run brother trust me. This happened to me and I took her back then married her and its been about a year the relationship has been good but its eating at me. I do not think that anything she does will make up for what she did. She has been trying but I can only see the slut she is and how much I paid for what she was giving away for free.

[–]Supersubie2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Out of curiosity why do you stay in the marriage then? The longer you wait the worse the divorce rape is going to be by my understanding. You mental well being is worth a lot more than that marriage

[–]Narcissist45611 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

She has bestowed this truth bomb upon you as a giant nuclear shit test and there’s only one way to pass it... RUN MOTHERFUCKER, RUN!

[–]Herdsengineers5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm 43. I've been married before to a woman that turned out to be a cheater. One confirmed affair, more suspected but she never admitted (the never admit the full truth, only partial to allay the guilt the hamster dredges up, or just what you can prove). I can confirm divorce rape is real. My case wasn't nearly as bad as others because my now ex-wife pissed off the judge at the hearing, but having to pay that bitch still in the name of "child support" is still a sore spot. He's almost 14, so almost 4 more years to go.

All that said - while I do believe in the value that marriage and coupling up with a woman that is right for you, to the disagreement of 99.9% of this sub, your fiance in particular has just shown you that she is not the right woman for you. I highly suggest you break off the engagement and get that ring back.

One way or another, this is either a sign that she can't control herself, gives in to the whims of her AWALT too easy, etc., or she set this up as a massive shit test. Women that test men like this aren't worthy of being wifed up. It means she has no respect for you no matter how you slice it. Do not marry a woman that doesn't respect you. And now, the only way she will respect you is if you next her. If you don't, she will only see that she can fuck around and nothing will happen, and she'll only grow to disrespect you more, which will eventually escalate to despising you. Literally, your only option at this point is to end things with her.

I get wanting to marry. I am remarried. I know the risks. But I will say this - marrying the right woman for you requires you to leave space open in your life to accept her into it when she comes along. Being with the wrong woman will prevent you from getting with the right woman. The wrong woman will be a cock block. Even if you leave a woman for another woman, if you're married, have kids, etc. when you leave - the divorce, child support, potential alimony - the prior marriage will be a drag on your new marriage forever.

So next this bitch and wait for someone better. Save yourself the rest of the trouble. And a year from now, when you look in the mirror, how much self respect do you want to feel? The amount that a guy that accepts what this bitch did? Or the amount that a guy that doesn't tolerate this shit would feel?

[–]fashfront7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

I had a similar experience with a previous LTR. What I found worked very well was to have a very minimal response (texted: "Great") and then ghost her for a couple days. Whatever you do, your goal should be to make her certain you could drop her at any moment with no remorse. Showing any emotion at all displays that you're emotionally invested in her, which feeds her ego and makes her ponder that she might be better than you

[–]69odin4203 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

The very fact that you posted about it means she definitely cheated on you. Gut feelings are real. You subconsciously or consciously have noticed her lessening attraction for you. This has happened to me. I wasn't sure, but was done with the girl because I had a gut feeling and would never be able to trust her again because of that.

[–]cptgoatsack3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Is her mom hot?

[–]mrHappyPotatoe3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Her being distant before the trip.

Experienced it myself and heard of it ao many times. It literally means she is going to fuck another guy. I dont want to say 100% cause sometimes its just blowjob. Yes happened to me.

[–]abudun792 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

So, tell us, who did you give a blowjob to and did you swallow? :-)

[–]mrHappyPotatoe1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ha ha. Ladidaaa

[–]ChasingLetters2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lucky that this happened before marriage. Dread and frame could probably prevent this in the future.

[–]TheStumblingWolf2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Trickle truth. She's hoping to have nibbed this in the bud with this action. I'm sure if you press her on it she will eventually spill more and more.

[–]MarlboroMan622 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

this is actually a standard classic case, read Rollo Tomassi's "please break up with me"

[–]purplefidgetmidget0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Interesting read. Not sure I agree with it though completely. I feel women just float along on the tide of their emotions and they'll all cheat even if you're alpha, because awalt. And they'll cry and beg when their emotions change afterwards upon realising how much they've fucked up a great relationship. Although it won't be from a place of guilt as he says, just from a place of mitigating any damage their actions might have caused with a solipsistic obliviousness to their own nature.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Today she called and told me that another guy kissed her.

Trickle truth, there's more to come.

Obviously there was shit leading up to the moment.

You're notice that "he kissed her" as if she was a passive bystander.

She's cheating, behave accordingly.

[–]BurnieSlander1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If your post is accurate and she literally said “another guy kissed her” as if she couldn’t stop it, that is a massive red flag. Something more happened and you should just call her and tell her you know there was more.

Once she admits to fucking him it’ll be much easier to move on

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

She's a good girl: at least she did that BEFORE the wedding.

She might be worthy enough to be a plate.

[–]Tousen711 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Call the engagement off. If you take her back it’s poor precedent. And the fact that she “got kissed” shows immaturity and a failure to keep it honest and accept responsibility—which means there’s something deeper there and it could happen again.

Dump her. She’s only calling you because SHES afraid of being single. Give it a month or two and if she BEGSSSS you to come back (sucks your dick, eats your ass, whatever you want) THEN consider taking her back.

Until then cest la vie

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I once fucked a girl who called her boyfriend and said the exact same thing.

[–]Corvus_Uraneus1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just a kiss? Right.... Get ready for some trickle truth.

[–]PhaedrusHunt1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ever tried to kiss a girl that didn't want to be kissed? It's impossible. She HAS to kiss back.

She's a whore.

Go out to a club with the hottest women. Cold approach a group of them, two or three. Just tell this story to the leader of the group-- actually embellish it to say you know she cheated (of course she cheated, but women may make excuses). Say you're gonna dump her but you want to fuck with her first.

Anyway, proceeded to have your photo taken these hotties hanging on you. They'll do it. Women LOVE to fuck with other women. Buy them a round of drinks as a thank you.

Send her the picture, tell her these girls kissed YOU, and go cold. Never speak to her again (also I personally wouldn't block her at least for a while because I'd like to see the Deluge of texts as her hamster goes insane).

And to be honest come to think of it, this might actually be a pretty damn good cold approach for women. Demonstrates two things, one that some other hotty liked you, and two that you're alpha enough to not be messed with with zero consequences.

Good luck, brother.

[–]Bcano1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

There is a line out of Shakespeare If you marry, I’ll give you this curse as your wedding present—be as clean as ice, as pure as the driven snow, and you’ll still get a bad reputation. Get yourself to a convent, at once. Good-bye. Or if you have to get married, marry a fool, since wise men know far too well that you’ll cheat on them. Good-bye.

the thing i got out of this is, They will Marry let them marry a fool beta that will suffer that shit, cause wise men like us will never tolerate that shit

[–]redlittleboot1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're fucked buddy

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Trickle truth, obvious symptoms of incoming infidelity.

She was probably fucked by him and you will learn the truth in a "more appropriate moment", right now she's prepping you for the next bit.

Women don't just get kissed, trust your gut and don't get married. Especially to her.

If you accept this she will see you as a willing cuck and will lose all respect for you.

Do not give her closure, plan your escape so that you won't ever have to see her ever again, execute plan, don't give her closure and it's not to be mean! It's so that she won't be able to lay the groundwork to gaslight you into guilt marriage.

[–]Bruchibre3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy

He kissed her so she didn’t do anything wrong it was his fault not hers. You should just thank her for being honest and live her even more.

[–]-TheChosenDuck-2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

I disagree. You don't accidentally end up in a situation like that. Both people involved know what is going on, whether that be verbal or nonverbal. I started with a text or a touch.

[–]Bruchibre9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy

No worries bro i was actually trolling by projecting women logic. I would next her. First she did it, second she told you. Weird. No more trust.

[–]-TheChosenDuck-2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

You made me second guess for myself for a fraction of a second lol.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

He's preparing you for the gaslighting to come, look up the term. Her, her family and you family and friends will probably try to gaslight you into marrying this whore.

[–]kjlh91 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

YOURE SO LUCKY! This shit happened before you got married, which happens to be the equivalent of chopping your nuts off and giving them to her along with 50% of your assets guaranteed (would you like fries with that?). Go read the side bar, tell her this makes you uncomfortable and call off the engagement. Did someone say dread game? If this was me I wouldnt promote her past plate, maybe ltr.

[–]Black_m0ngoose1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

She did you a favor.

Now you are free.

Get your ring returned, and never look back.

[–]justtenofusinhere1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is trickle truth. You must veiw trickle truth just like you view an iceburg--only a small portion of the whole is being revealed.

She said "Another guy kissed me."

That's true, but the whole statement is "Another guy [french] kissed me in my cervix while a choked his cock down my throat right before he railed me."

Do you see how that works? Good!

[–]kyzen1420 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Dhv dhv dhv dhv dhv and then kick her out of your life stone cold. Then she will come back begging for you and at that moment it will be easier to tell kick her out of ur life for good.

[–]michaelmindset0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Dodged a bullet brother. Don’t forget your super power as a man....the ability to walk away. If you don’t walk away you are showing no respect for yourself....and she will resent you for that. So it’s a no win situation if you stick around. I feel for you bro, hang in there...the men in these types of situations always come out happier and more successful than the women...ALWAYS.

[–]dulkemaru510 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Unless she can somehow prove beyond reasonable doubt that some douche just grabbed her face and kissed her and that she pushed him away in disgust, next.

Several people on here have said that she strategically called to tell you about it to gage your reaction, but that she in fact fucked him.

Take it as a given that she had agency in the act, whether that act was kissing or ass fucking. She probably made out with a dude and hamstered it as him kissing her so hard that she now believes it herself.

[–]wkndatbernardus0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

My question is, how did you not vett her harder before the engagement? Gotta up your awareness, g because, you got off easy this time. Your oneitis is blinding you to the truth of whoreism.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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