How do you let a plate know you like her when she thinks you don’t (and that’s the reason she’s starting to distance herself)?

MattyAnon · 2018-06-26T17:04:39+00:00

I think one of my plates is breaking because she doesn’t think I like her and mainly view her as a sex object.

This is NOT the reason. If she thinks you're hot and you fuck her, that's enough.

If she is saying "because you don't like me enough" it really means "you're a beta, do more for me, I don't find you hot enough for casual sex".

Actually like this girl a lot

She has detected this. And she wants to capitalise on it. The "view her as a sex object" gambit is what women say to beta men. They detect your interest level as being high enough, lose attraction, and play the "not your whore" card to get more attention/resources/commitment from you.

Could use some advice

Sure, here's some advice: lose the oneitis by fucking more women. Be prepared to walk away. Don't fall into her beta trap.

[deleted] · 2018-06-26T15:58:52+00:00

Treat her more like a friend, the problems TRP is defending you against is taking it too far.

Women do not like a push over that fawns and pouts over them. Be a casual friend and don't be afraid to publically be close with her.

She should feel like you enjoy being around her but still need plenty of space when you are apart.

When you are with her, focus on the interactions and be attentive. You can be affectionate, just make sure you hold strong boundaries.

Dont let it turn into a full blown LTR, it's too soon and you need to know each other better, but go ahead and give her a little more of your personality and be sure to know who she is, hopefully better than she knows herself.

redhawkes · 2018-06-26T14:53:50+00:00

Plate is for sex only, what you describe is gf. You got oneitis for this chick.

Plates break. That's it. Get abundance, she found better dick. Never initiate the talk.

CeremonyTree · 2018-06-26T14:22:15+00:00

I'm not sure, but curious to see what others will say. I have been in this situation in the past and I just decided to give her some validation post-sex. Pretty much backfired on me though!

360_no_scope_upvote · 2018-06-26T15:58:58+00:00

Why are you making the the relationship moves? She's slithering in your brain and planted the seed. If she wants more, she'll invest more, who gives a shit what she says. Look at her actions not what comes out of her mouth.

If she's breaking off it's because she found cock she wants more, not because of you treating her like a sex toy.

mindplaybyneo · 2018-06-26T16:27:06+00:00

You don’t. You next her and move to the next one

Title	How do you let a plate know you like her when she thinks you don’t (and that’s the reason she’s starting to distance herself)?
Author	bluefingerblue
Upvotes	3
Comments	25
Date	June 26, 2018 2:13 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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