This has been a re-occurring theme in my life. And we all know what they say about re-occurring themes. Many times in my life I have had these situations where there is a socially-intelligent jerk type. Just has a way with words, can manipulate things to his liking. Knows just what to say and when to say it, especially when there is a woman or a few guys involved (words have more power where there is an audience). How do you handle these guys? I am in another one of these situations, this guy just has a lot of social-intelligence, charisma and I am left increasingly befuddled. I am more of an introverted type, I stay to myself and he is an extrovert whom I work with. It feels like he is leaps and bounds better than me in talking and winning group-approval. He has everybody on his side, because they either like him because he makes them laugh/feel warm or simply out of fear of what he'll spew if they don't, like being able to trash talk them/down them with words. Truly, having the ability to formulate thoughts and ideas into your words and being able to shame and humiliate people, that is A LOT OF POWER. He is always making people laugh while I just sort of lay back in the background. I fumble my words a lot and only say what is necessary of me. So basically he has a huge edge/advantage over me because he is a whiz with word-play/ad-libbing and just understands social settings quite well. He uses this to his advantage, those who are socially intelligent know that they have power and they exercise this power whenever they see fit. He knows what he can say and do and still get away with it, it's like an art-form. So he pushes my buttons just enough to where I cannot straight slap him. But then I don't exactly have a recourse of action with my words, because I am not particularly good with words and formulating sentences for him to leave me alone. I have purposely made this general because I think it's a common problem that a lot of people deal with.