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To respond or not to respond? That is the question.

by TheShearerComplex | July 04, 2018 | askTRP


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So I’m seeing this girl for about 2 months, we bang once or twice a week. I don’t believe in unicorns but she’s about as close you will get.

HB8, massively into fitness and keeping toned, educated at a top 5 university in the world, has a great career lined up, great parents, extremely feminine/ submissive, extremely caring, no loyalty red flags so far and has a great sense of humour/ doesn’t take herself to seriously.

So we are technically not in an LTR but she texts me everyday. Generally asking how’s my day going with flirting sprinkled in here and there. Do I reply everyday or some days just blank her?

She’s on holiday for 2 weeks so I’m tempted not to reply but again, she’s the one always initiating and I don’t mind sending 1-2 texts a day.

Would sending one to two texts a day make me look beta to her? She knows I have a high SMV job so I generally only reply when I’m grabbing lunch and then once again late at night.

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Title To respond or not to respond? That is the question.
Author TheShearerComplex
Upvotes 3
Comments 6
Date 04 July 2018 02:22 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/101803
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/8w1zro/to_respond_or_not_to_respond_that_is_the_question/
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[–]whiteboywithdreads3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

2/3. Tried and verified by me. If she starts conversation 3 times, you can start conversation 2 times and this won't affect you badly. I'm not telling wait until she writes for 3 times. Also im not telling that you should count how many times she started conv, and act perfectly statistically. Just have this in your mind and don't be afraid to lose her because you acting beta.

[–]jm511 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

<Do I reply everyday or some days just blank her?

You do you.

If you delay replying because some guy on the internet said to wait, you are not doing you.

If you reply straight away because she might get pissed if you don't, you are not doing you.

You do you. Respond when you want, ignore when you want. If she wants YOU then make sure that she gets YOU. If she does not want YOU then wish her well and move on.

[–]1redhawkes0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Text for logistics only, you can text her randomly but everyday texting not gonna do any good to you.

Hows your other options?

[–]boy_named_su0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'd avoid texting her while you're at work. otherwise listen to /u/whiteboywithdreads

[–]swampbarbarian 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

You're way overthinking this, and it shows where you're at in this process. You have oneitis. Underneath the context of your post, the theme is clear - you are afraid of losing this girl. Who cares if she thinks you're a beta. Do what you want to do. If you want to text her, text her. You better own it. I can tell you aren't ready for this girl. She's out of your league because of your mindset, and whatever you have won't last. She's going to sniff out your weakness sooner or later. But in the end, it's on you to own it and improve.

[–]TheShearerComplex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think your 100% right, I’ve become the dreaded outcome dependent.

I’m starting to realise even following redpill to the letter, these sort of situations can certainly sneak up on you. After doing this for 2 years and massively improving every aspect of my life, it’s easy to see yourself as a redpill god, spinning plates left, right and centre, laughing at all the “betas”. Then along comes a girl your former beta self could only dream of and it knocks you down to Earth with a bang.

I suppose it’s a good sign, as I’m now starting to get the quality of girls that I truly want. I need to get back on my journey and back to my to outcome independent self.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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