Older guy at my gym recently "casually" brought up in brief conversation to me that he pays $2300 a month child support. What the fuck is this serious?

MNCPA · 2018-07-26T07:58:06+00:00

I'm not an older guy but I pay 70% of my income to the whore that stole our kids from me.

Family court is fucked, if you are a dad.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2018-07-26T09:10:29+00:00

Dunno about the laws in Aus, but in the States you can pay 40% of your gross to a woman basically to bang other guys and teach your kids to hate you.

And yet, guys still get married.

There's a documentary called "Divorce Corp" on youtube that goes into how fucked divorce is in the states. Should be required watching for anyone considering marriage here.

KaptainKorea84 · 2018-07-26T07:07:53+00:00

Jesus fuck man. That's terrifying. Gotta wrap up.

Jacked1703 · 2018-07-26T08:56:25+00:00

I have 2 kids. I left my marriage due to infidelity by my ex wife.

I work a regular job making slightly over 50K a year while she remained voluntarily unemployed.

According to the calculations offered by the court (Virginia, USA) I would’ve been expected to pay $900 per child per month, and $400 per month in spousal support.

I work 4 days on 4 days off and have my kids all 4 of my days off.

So ultimately, according to court calculations I’d pay $2200 for two kids despite having them half the time.

All this on top of having to keep her and both the kids on my health insurance.

ForeverNandrolone · 2018-07-26T15:53:41+00:00

This is in New York.

My ex was a bit of a bum and only worked about half the time we were married. I made about $150k a year working a shit ton of overtime to make up for the fact that she didn’t bring in much money. She made $30k a year when we divorced. I pay $2500 a month for 3 years and then $2000 a month for 6 years. $234000 over 9 years. Here’s the kicker, we never had kids! This is just me paying her because she was a fucking bum. Don’t get married.

NEVER HAD KIDS!

bf1bro18 · 2018-07-26T15:21:00+00:00

My dad was making 100k a year in California in the mid 90's. Mom didn't work. Dad got hit with an order for $2300 a month in child support and alimony for one child (me). Mom decided she didn't have to work anymore at that point. I lost a TON of respect for my mother at that point. It went on for about a year until my dad decided "F&ck it, if she doesn't work, neither will I" and it got reduced to a reasonable $600/mo child support and no alimony. Mom got a job, and some of my respect back. Dad got to live in a house without wheels again.

I decided I wouldn't marry a woman that didn't make close to what I did for exactly this reason. I don't mind paying for my child, but I'm not going to be private welfare for some lazy woman with a vendetta. Its 2018, we're equals.....get your ass to work.

BPasFuck · 2018-07-26T09:45:19+00:00

Why do you dummies think we continually preach 'Don't get married!' here?

Jesus Christ.

If someone really could break down how much of the 'child support' actually goes to paying for mom's make up, and clothes so she can snare a new man, instead of 'the kids,' well... it'd be some shameful shit.

Worse, how much of the money goes to pay for her and her new man's entertainment?

defkon01 · 2018-07-26T07:30:56+00:00

Triple condoms + vasectomy for me! Will only make love with my hands from now on.

redpillbanana · 2018-07-26T10:09:05+00:00

Relevant video (for US and especially California residents): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EW_S5KBX-Xo

leftajar · 2018-07-26T15:27:24+00:00

And that's in AFTER-TAX DOLLARS. And she doesn't have to pay taxes on it. Ponder on that one!

somebullshitrp · 2018-07-26T14:51:31+00:00

I pay my ex $1,750 a month in alimony. The payments will go on for three years until they're done. This was after a TWO year marriage. After that I can look forward to another 15 years of partying $1,000 a month in child support.

Never marry.

obonaven · 2018-07-26T15:22:23+00:00

I pay just over 50% of my take home pay to my Ex for Alimony and Child support. Just under $3k.

clockwise1256 · 2018-07-26T12:19:15+00:00

In Australia, child support is based on the percentage of care that each parent has per week or fortnight. If OP had care of the kids for even 1 day a week then his payments would drop by like 15%

johnnight · 2018-07-26T10:33:13+00:00

It would be much better if the state regulated this on a true cost basis.

chachaChad · 2018-07-26T12:59:55+00:00

You have no idea how much this guy makes a month. I would gladly pay $2300 a month and not even notice it.

I don't think there is a max number here in the US. It's based of what you make and what she makes. If she hasn't had a job and isn't going to be getting one, you're on the hook for the entire thing. On the other had, if she has a job or is capable of getting one, the judge may take that into account.

FemtoG · 2018-07-26T14:44:25+00:00

I've thought a lot about how I would deal with such a situation. My only plan is as follows really:

Try to hide as much as possible in crypto.
Move to a foreign country.
Write a book for my kid(s) to read to explain my side of the story
Just pray that they haven't been completely brainwashed to hate their father.

Ruby_Red_Pill_Maker · 2018-07-26T14:13:44+00:00

2300 is low and it's probably low because of the court case being 8 years ago. I see new guys getting out with 5-7k/month.

atticusfinch1973 · 2018-07-26T15:14:10+00:00

As much as I love my kids if there was some kind of BS settlement like that which would require me to be in the poorhouse I would leave the country. I’d do my best to let my kids know I loved them as much as I could and exactly why I couldn’t be there with them. Hopefully when they got older they would understand.

0FO6 · 2018-07-26T15:04:45+00:00

Yes I am sure that is more than possible. Also, doesn’t have to even be your own kid either. I am paying child support for a kid that isn’t mine. While I have 2 of the kids that are mine.

francie-brady · 2018-07-26T16:23:19+00:00

My life seems so much better now after reading this.

nordicpolarbear · 2018-07-26T14:41:05+00:00

That’s why it’s just cheaper to keep her if you can. Make sure she works full time too.

gothgar · 2018-07-26T16:32:24+00:00

I pay $ 2,000

319Skew · 2018-07-26T17:13:04+00:00

Yea, it's messed up. You have zero control on where the money goes. If she buys your kids food or uses it to buy a new perfume for her date. You have zero say on it. Only thing you can do is not think about it.

whoareyou31 · 2018-07-26T19:29:07+00:00

I really hope all these testimonies in this thread are real and truthful because after reading this shit, it’s really making me not want to get married.

mrHappyPotatoe · 2018-07-26T20:05:53+00:00

Australia is fucked. And my friend wants to go to live there. Lol. Good luck.

WolfofAllStreetz · 2018-07-26T20:40:09+00:00

Yea, marriage and kids is no joke my friend.

Being married is Red Pill on Nightmare Mode.

Make sure you find the right one, do not settle. Marriage isn't for everyone.

Original_Dankster · 2018-07-26T13:54:16+00:00

Vasectomy. Best decision I ever made.

[deleted] · 2018-07-26T16:15:55+00:00

always make sure your bitch has a job before marrying her. and if she suggests she might quit, suggest you might divorce her

cl3537 · 2018-07-26T16:46:27+00:00

In Canada child support is on a fixed schedule (no judge can change it) and its based on the income of both spouses. The law assumes the more money the parents make the higher the cost of living should be for the children.

Assuming his ex makes nothing he probably makes between 300,000 and 350,000 net a year and the child support is peanuts like 9 - 10% of net income after taxes. Much less than if he had pay to take care of the kids full time.

Australia has a very similar system and fixed capped formula like Canada but one thing is clear he has two or more kids (the cap for one kid is less than 2300/month), its a lot more fair than in the United States, child support is for the children and no judge or lawyer can change the formula.

enderbeannn · 2018-07-26T18:22:30+00:00

I know you're kidding or at least I hope so but 2 condoms is less effective than 1

xxLMxx · 2018-07-26T19:15:14+00:00

I paid more than that (2 kids 25% of pre tax income, California) plus another 1,800 a month in alimony. It sucked but I'm past it

sjdfhskdjfh · 2018-07-26T20:38:31+00:00

I don't know why men like that don't just go live off-grid in some SE asian country instead

ripSOCRATES · 2018-07-26T21:34:14+00:00

Is no one going to tell him that double wrapping condoms makes it easier to break the condom? or did the joke fly over my head?

OfficerWade · 2018-07-27T01:54:07+00:00

I pay 800 month for a 8 year old and I’m only bringing home 4000 month net before taxes. Houston, TX

It used to be 400 month when I made 2500 a month so yeah, if you make more they gone getcha.

[deleted] · 2018-07-27T04:35:39+00:00

I love that on top of all of this, I can't look at a tv or a cell phone without seeing that the pay gap between men and women is unfair. American women really have it bad. The next civil war really might be between women and men, with beta orbiters fighting on the side of women.

lazydogg9 · 2018-07-26T09:57:40+00:00

The 2 condoms thing cracks me up!

[deleted] · 2018-07-26T14:35:36+00:00

Yep.

Bruchibre · 2018-07-26T07:34:37+00:00

He seems to have more than 1 kid from what you write?

Also he's senior = he's probably earning a lot.

If it's for the children why not, as long it's not alimony for the ex-wife. I mean, you won't bring your money in your tomb so you might as well share it with your own offspring.

cimsoc · 2018-07-26T14:58:53+00:00

He hasn’t seen his kids in 7 years, and you feel sorry for him? Fuck this guy. What a worthless coward.

Title	Older guy at my gym recently "casually" brought up in brief conversation to me that he pays $2300 a month child support. What the fuck is this serious?
Author	bf1bro18
Upvotes	112
Comments	142
Date	July 26, 2018 5:41 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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