A healthy relationship is a mutual transaction. It benefits both parties. As you may have heard, men are the gatekeepers of commitment (which entails attention, validation & respect). Women on the other hand are the gatekeepers of sex. Both parties seek the opposite commodity from each other. Here is how this exchange plays out.

Scarcity

It is the responsibility of both parties to set the value for their commodities. The key concept here is scarcity. Scarcity is what creates demand and value...the degree to which you withhold and create scarcity of your commodity is how much it will be valued. For example, sluts are women who hand out their sex freely. They lose their value very quickly. Nice guys are men who hand out attention/validation/respect freely. They also lose value very quickly.

This is why people like someone who's a "challenge". By giving away your commodity easily, you are devaluing both yourself and the person you're giving it to. If you don't create scarcity, you give the message:

"Yeah I just gave you a handjob, but you shouldn't feel like you accomplished anything because I give it to everyone that says hi to me, including both your roommates and your dad."

or

"Yeah I just drove across the country to give you flowers even though we just met, but you shouldn't feel like you accomplished anything because I did all this shit for you while barely knowing anything about you...because I do this for every girl who so much as even smiles at me."

This is not to say that handjobs and flowers are bad, but they should come from a place of scarcity, not abundance, to maintain attraction.

Why Each Gender Gives Poor Advice

This is also why you do not listen to the advice each gender gives about the other. Men just want sex, but it's easy to forget that the scarcity is just as attractive as the reward. If a woman asked a man for advice, he would just tell her to be a ho. Why not? It's easier access to the commodity: sex! We love hos! But a ho taking it anywhich way is less valuable than a nice, wholesome, girl-next-door Christian girl who whispers in your ear that she wants to choke on your cum and is ready to let your cock be the first one up her butt. And from the perspective of the ho, she would never receive the quality attention/validation/respect that she we would from a partner to which she demonstrated value through scarcity.

Same thing with women. They just want attention/validation/respect, but it's easy to forget that the scarcity is just as attractive as the reward. If a man asks a woman for advice, she would tell him just be a nice guy. Why not? It's easier access to the commodity: attention/validation/respect! They love nice guys! But a nice guy listening to all her problems and buying her a house plus tons of jewelry is less valuable than a busy, motivated, self-made CEO who finds enough time to give the woman a 2 minute call during the day to tell her he loves her. And from the perspective of the nice guy, he would never receive the quality sex that he would from a partner where he demonstrated value through scarcity.

See the parallel?

Why Feminism Is Flawed

Here is where it gets interesting. Both parties must earn what they seek. There are no handouts. It is a marketplace, where things are earned and exchanged. No one is entitled to anything. However there is a huge double standard here. When men demand and feel entitled to sex, it is called rape. When women demand and feel entitled to attention/validation/respect, it is only called feminism. Women cannot demand attention/validation/respect from men for the same reason that men cannot demand sex from women. These commodities must be earned. You are not entitled to shit from me. This is the equilibrium that feminism is attempting to destroy. Feminists want an ideal world where everyone gives them attention/validation/respect. Well I want an ideal world where everyone sucks my dick. That's not gonna happen.

Additionally, feminism is telling women that they can bang as many guys as they want, and they still have value. Basically they are saying that you can create absolutely no scarcity for yourself and devalue yourself completely...it doesn't matter though because you still are entitled and deserving of true attention/validation/respect. Fuck. That. Noise. That's like me telling Nice Guys that they have a free pass to go out into the world and rape whomever their dick sees fit because they are entitled and deserving of it. However, this is what men end up hearing: "No! Just because you are my friend doesn't mean you can have sex!" "I thought you were a nice guy, but you just wanted sex all along!" "Were you just being nice to get into my pants?" What they don't understand is that feminism is doing that same shit that they're calling out. I'll probably be six feet under by the time any feminist figures that out though.

The Sexual Marketplace Today

The sexual marketplace today is all sorts of fucked up. We have men eagerly handing over access to what should be their prized commodity (attention/validation/respect) while complaining that they don't get sex. Duh, because you've devalued yourself! They're also creating an imbalance in the sexual marketplace. Women find it really easy to receive their commodity (they just log into Reddit and immediately white knights start writing them poems), while men are growing up to be virgins into their 20s. There is also an imbalance in the sense that only a select few males are receiving most of the sex, while many, many women are easily receiving attention/validation/respect. Both genders are facing problems though: Many men are getting no sex, and women are complaining about a lack of valuable partners. Men have devalued themselves through inflation, and this inflation has created a sharp decline in quality males for women. Both genders are suffering.

Call for Action

Men. It is time to set the balance right again. Your attention/validation/respect are HUGE assets that you should cherish. They are your prize. Be mindful when you hand them out and to whom you hand them out. Others must earn it. Don't go out of your way to give attention/validation/respect to women just because you're told to. They are just animals that eat, shit, and fuck like us. Each one of them must earn it. They aren't entitled to anything.