My social life with women is non existent. Need RP advice.

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August 18, 2016


I have control of most of my life, except for my social life, and sexual life. Need RP help.


So, I'm 20 y/o, I'm a freelancing actor and I've been having some nice gigs. I'm also learning programming, reading like a madman, and been having some voice acting side gigs as well.

Financially, I'm doing well. I've been working hard and I've got several thousands of dollars at my disposal with zero dollars in debt or any of that. I don't owe anything.

But that's the kicker. A year ago I started with The Red Pill, and since then I stopped chasing women. I'm working out, working hard, and I've been focusing purely on myself, on improving myself. But, while my friends are going out, going on vacations together, having relationships, getting drunk (I'm not jealous of the drunk part), I am just sitting at home, working and watching Mad Men (more about this later).

I wanted to go backpacking in South America with a friend, but that didn't happen.

I wanted to buy a car (and take the massive financial hit) and explore the country, but that didn't happen.

I wanted to go out to a dancing club, but I can't dance and I have no social skill with females, so that didn't happen.


I feel like I'm a guy that could, but doesn't.


This is the odd part. I've been doing better lately, and I can talk to girls, but ONLY purely in a friendly way. I've been laughing a lot with girls from my classes, but that's it.

I can talk amazingly, but only with guys. With women I get less confident, but not too bad. Except, all sexual things fly out the window.

Now, Mad Men. Three weeks ago I got hooked on it, and since then I couldn't stop thinking about Don Draper. Its beta as fuck, but without me noticing, I've even been copying his facial expressions, it's fucked up, but I feel like it's the only way I can get confident, with the Fake it 'till you make it method. It's stupid but I've been enjoying thinking about it.

But here's the kicker. It doesn't matter if it's Don Draper's smoothness or some info I read from a book, the second I leave my house and enter a place with women, it goes the FUCK away. All of it, I shed it like a skin, and then underneath, the good old beta comes up.

Look, I don't know. This will probably be at 0 (33% upvoted) within a minute, but this is the last place I can ask for some non-beta advice.

And fucking hell, I need it.

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Title My social life with women is non existent. Need RP advice.
Author WolfofAnarchy
Upvotes 6
Comments 9
Date 18 August 2016 04:39 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

No More Mr Nice Guy

[–]brooklynisburnin 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'd add The book of Pook to that suggestion.

[–]Hollowskill 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I feel like I'm a guy that could, but doesn't.

reminds me of this motivational video "Challenge Yourself"

TL:DW: nothing worth having is easy. Change isn't easy. changing habits isn't easy. you're gonna have to hustle/apply yourself/challenge yourself/ make yourself uncomfortable and go through awkward shit before you get better and more comfortable at it.

but i mean whatever, if you really want to do that shit make the choice to do it, even by baby steps. you don't want to end up 30 or 40 and look back with regret that you didn't take a dance class or chat up a girl or go on that road trip.

don't sacrifice your future for it, but have fun along the way- push yourself out of your comfort zone now to make the future better.

[–]BenjiDread 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This guy knows what he's talking about.

Source: I'm 39 and full of regret over time wasted. I'm still the guy who could but doesn't. I need this advice as much as OP does.

[–]play_time_is_over 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I dont have a social life with women but I do have a sex life. I don't have any female friends nor do I spend much time talking or working with women. Which im totally okay with, I just have tinder plates that comes over once a week.

I'm dint have a lot in common eith girls do this works for me, my advice.

Take some really good pics and get on tinder.

[–]SexySmexxy -1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy

There's nothing wrong with watching something you like.

I recently rewatched a 150 episode anime over a period of a few weeks.

Seems to me like your problem was yiu went full monk mode for whatever reason.

You stopped chasing women to start reading TRP. basically you mentally masturbate to what you think is the premise of TRP, instead of pursuing sexual relations with women.

You're a fucking 20 year old actor. Yo must have some amazing shots of yourself, put them on tinder and get laid.

[–]WolfofAnarchy[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Thanks, but what about modeling fictional behavior? Is that a good approach to Fake It Till You Make It?

[–]SexySmexxy 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

There are plenty of non-fictional role models to choose from.

Probably not a great idea to try and emulate non-existent characters.

[–]redditatt 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Nothing wrong with emulation. Consider incorporating the blank stare of Ryan Gosling. Absolute killer dread game.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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