Started messaging this girl last night. She messaged me first. Attractive for sure. She knows it. Non-stop shit tests to start the interaction. Making fun of my profile, my pics, etc. I handle these critiques fine (I think). She admits she’s attracted to me. Everything looking great so far.

Shortly after that initial wave of shit tests I try to set up drinks next week. She says something along the lines of “well that was a quick vetting process,” to which I reply with something like “yep I’ve seen all I need.” She then proceeds to say she doesn’t want a fuck buddy, and I agree with that, but also say I’m not looking for a pen pal either. This is where it starts to go down hill.

Everything she says from this point out is just kind of dickish. Comes off less like flirting / banter and more like being bitchy. I think she’s still shit testing but I’m tired and starting to get angry. I just want this chick to stfu and accept the fact we’re meeting up next week. Can’t deal with too much more of this bullshit. And so this is where I start to slip up.

I should’ve held frame and stayed unfazed, but eventually I say something along the lines of “I’d much rather be having this conversation in person because I think you’re saying shit you’d never say in real life.” I tell her to stop being a dick because it’s coming off as annoying. She gets offended and says she’s not being a dick but I’m being creepy (because I’m trying to meet up). And now I’ve fallen into the trap of trying to explain myself (I know I shouldn’t do this). I explain I don’t think it’s creepy to talk in person instead of through text because you can make a much better connection, etc. Explaining myself here was my biggest mistake. It came off as if I cared too much.

Eventually we settle on the fact it might’ve just been a misunderstanding because tone isn’t always conveyed through text. No meeting set. Didn’t text at all today. Left off with a kind of weird vibe. I kinda hate this chick at this point. She probably hates me. But she’s hot so I’m not ready to give up just yet.

Is it worth trying to salvage at this point? If so, any tips on how I should re-engage? Should I just pretend the tension towards the end never happened and text her something funny, signifying the fact I’ve already forgotten about that semi-argument?

Ultimately she’s just one chick so I’m not too worried about it. Been trying to work a few plates recently. But this plate would certainly be a fine addition to my collection. So any thoughts on what to do from here? And tips for future scenarios when a chick is being excessively bitchy and her shit tests become annoying and not funny?