Hi TRP,

I'm getting the vibe from TRP Field Reports that are are a lot of people in their early 20s reporting on their various successes and failures at "plate spinning".

While I like a lot of the other advice on this sub, I can't connect with these at all because I've spent my entire life around people that don't do this. I'd say 80% the guys I know have only had 1-2 girlfriends, 1 of which they end up marrying.

I'm 31 now and pretty much all dudes I know have followed the same path; have less than 5 girlfriends in their entire 20s and get married at 30. The thing is, the majority of these guys are people that have good careers and I consider them successful overall. Financially secure, and if their LTR falls apart they would have no trouble moving on to the next one. I don't consider these people "betas" at all unless their life starts falling apart at 35 and they decide to become whipped.

I'm from a somewhat conservative Italian-Canadian community where many people pretty much follow the same path, live with their parents till they are 24-28, then get married. People from this community don't leave their city to go to college. They don't try to hook up with girls every other weekend. They move forward in their careers , some of them lift, most of them just accumulate money and try to find a nice girl who will help them afford moving out of their parents and investing in a home.

I'm trying to reconcile the information I'm reading on TRP about plate spinning and the type of men who are successful in my entourage and I'm coming up empty as to which approach makes sense.