Did my wife cheat on me? If so where to go from here

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January 2, 2018
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Hi.

my wife says I'm her second, the first was a 6'8 basketball player who's semi pro. Don't know why they split up but I don't like talking about him (keep frame). She says I'm better partner and she doesn't look back (alpha widow?) but I have doubts.

Anyway she hasn't been acting differently and all was well when I took her phone to call my mother and she jumped to call her herself. Later I find she has a passcode on her phone. One day I look without her knowing and catch the passcode pattern, and I log in.

Her old flame sent dick pics and apparently they met? She never mentioned it before. I confront her and she says she gave back an old vaccuum cleaner her forgot with her when they lived together, then cried so much and told me I'm paranoid and not being a good husband.

I'm 70% suee shre cheated. Next course of action?


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Title Did my wife cheat on me? If so where to go from here
Author connorcormack
Upvotes 90
Comments 155
Date 02 January 2018 06:51 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/121180
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[–]creating_my_life246 points247 points  (17 children) | Copy

Her old flame sent dick pics and apparently they met?

Even if they didn't fuck I'd be done.

She never mentioned it before.

gee, wonder why?

she says she gave back an old vaccuum cleaner her forgot with her when they lived together,

because clearly a semi-pro basketball player can't afford a new vacuum.

then cried so much

you mean "negotiated" so much. with tears.

and told me I'm paranoid and not being a good husband.

Gaslighting and Projecting.

[–]Aaren_Augustine72 points73 points  (3 children) | Copy

Hopefully, OP doesn't need an magic eight ball to see that all signs point to yes.

[–]connorcormack 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

Gaslighting?

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev18 points19 points  (4 children) | Copy

Manipulating you into questioning whether shit that has actually happened really happened or not. Such as calling you paranoid and delusional when you question whether or not she’s fucking a guy who is sending her dick pics, and whose involvement in her life she must continuously hide to the point of putting a passcode on her phone, and the best excuse she can come up with for meeting him was that he had to return a vacuum that they used to have together, or some shit.

[–]kregsslauggteepla39 points40 points  (2 children) | Copy

A vacuum cleaner HAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHA

OH MY FUCKING GOD MY SIDES HURT HAHAHAHAHHHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Fuck I would have laughed so hard the entire neighborhood would have come out side to check

Hahahahaha hahahahaha I can’t stop laughing

A VACUUM cleaner hahahahahahhahahahahha

[–]Ganaria_Gente7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

We're all laughing with you man. At the OP.

This shit's great.

[–]Psycholephant2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

and told me I'm paranoid and not being a good husband.

I interpreted that as, "You're billybeta and you're not supposed to question my honor".

[–]1Pink1Stink125 points126 points  (7 children) | Copy

She cried dude. She did it 100%

Why would she cry?

[–]bickisnotmyname57 points58 points  (3 children) | Copy

This guys right. I’ve seen the same shit dozens of times. They cry when they cheat. Always.

[–]trancedj52 points53 points  (2 children) | Copy

Her tears are never for you.

[–]bickisnotmyname1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Beautifully poetic

[–]PB00340 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Saving your comment

[–]connorcormack 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

You didn't see her tears, far from crocodile, but good point

[–]1Pink1Stink13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

Never said they were fake. My point was that she felt the guilt.

[–]kregsslauggteepla2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ugh if she’s a good girl (or appears to be) I know this really fucking sucks but man she cheated.. ugh

If you really want to know find the guys number and just call him and ask. If he’s a sports guy he probably is pretty chill and won’t give a fuck and just admit it. And even offer him to keep her if she did.

[–]LordThunderbolt242 points243 points  (23 children) | Copy

She gave him a vacuum alright. Idiot. She gave him an A1 suck job with her mouth. That's the vacuum she's referring to.

Cut your losses. Do NOT forgive this whore. There is no alternative but a divorce

[–]ShotgunTRP43 points44 points  (0 children) | Copy

Brutal truth

[–][deleted] 19 points20 points  (8 children) | Copy

Is a copy of the texts and dick pics helpful to a divorce attorney?

[–]LordThunderbolt14 points15 points  (6 children) | Copy

Yes, obviously. Download an audio recorder app on your phone as well. See if u can get her to confess to what she did and record it on your phone. Also check the laws of your state regarding audio recording without consent.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy

I mean in the long term will infidelity factor into alimony or anything really have no idea.

[–]wheresMYsteakAt6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Maybe 50 years ago. I doubt it would even be able to be mentioned in court now a days unless it somehow tied in with her leaving her kids places while she goes and parties.

Otherwise I think it would go like this:

"Judge, she has been wanting and receiving other dicks here is the proof"

"Ah yes, 9 inches and black, this must be the basketball player....ma'am is this true do you want other dicks?"

"Yes, your honor"

"And sir, is it true you will not allow her to remain married to you while she gets other dicks?"

"Yes, your honor"

"Then I find cause for this divorce, neither contest it - now we can move on to the finances, sir is it true that you earned the majority of the money while married and your wife was a homemaker, forgoing school and employment advancement to help out in the house while you enjoyed fulfillment both through raising up through your field as well as multiple raises?"

If he's lucky he leaves with half.

[–]vicious_armbar2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Bingo! TRP warned op not to get married. He didn't listen and now he's going to suffer because of his stupidity.

[–]Speedracer11115 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Deleted to prevent doxing

[–]LordThunderbolt4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm not sure. It'll depend on your local laws I believe and if your judge is a fucking cuck. Either way, the more evidence u can submit, the better off you are. Do not stay with the bitch.

[–]vicious_armbar2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Is a copy of the texts and dick pics helpful to a divorce attorney?

Yes, obviously.

You guys seriously underestimate how cucked our country has become! With the exception of a prenup with an infidelity clause cheating has zero bearing. It may partially sway some judges just because of their personal beliefs. But according to the law it should have no bearing on the divorce, and most judges will bluntly state that they don't care who is banging who. Especially when it's the man who has been cheated on. Welcome to no fault divorce!

Obviously talk to a local attorney and get his opinion on the judge that you're going before because ymmv.

[–]cigarillo718 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy

Laughter

[–]MakruraLoL1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck this made me burst out laughing

[–]connorcormack 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

I respect your opinion but what if the very small chance that she didn't is true? I'd be making an irrevocable mistake

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev23 points24 points  (1 child) | Copy

Now you are gaslighting yourself.

[–]bikermonk0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Always listen to the sniper

[–]Two_kids_in_a_coat4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Be a man, stop worrying and overthinking. Just call him. Tell him you know they fucked and you’re not gonna do anything you just want to hear his side of the story.

[–]LordThunderbolt0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy

Yeah she didn't cheat

[–]connorcormack 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

I recognize your comments you post here a lot. Meaning you spend your time on the computer more than real life. Red pill is a good guideline but not everything is 100% correct

[–]Rares55552 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

And I see you check your post comments a lot, since you want us to fucking make your hamster spin and give you validation telling you that your wife has not cheated.

Your irrevocable mistake is not divorce. It was marriage.

[–]LordThunderbolt1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Sure. She's definitely not cheating.

[–]connorcormack 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

I'll wait until (if) you get married, get a dose of real life. You'll be changing your tunes.

[–]kregsslauggteepla6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’m married 2x already. She cheated most likely. Just be a calm dude about it and straight up ask the guy if you’re that scared

[–]LordThunderbolt2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

As if I'll be getting married. I'm not a moron.

[–]esco_70 points71 points  (6 children) | Copy

haven't been on this sub in ages (saw this scrolling through reddit)

If there was nothing fishy going on, then surely she would tell you she was going to drop the vacuum off? How did she explain the dick pick?

change 70% to 99% dude. In my humble opinion, i would be rethinking whether i wanted to be in a marriage with someone who cheats on me (there is an obvious answer to this).

Sorry to hear about the situation. Please dont delude yourself here, it really sounds like she is lieing

[–]justshootinblanks10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Given the 99 percentage surety, Op is knowingly being demoted to cuck status. Good for him though for investigating thoroughly and then sharing anonymously.

[–]nightmancommeth 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

if she didnt delete the dick pic then that pretty much confirm it. People dont just send random dick pics

[–]refusewool8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

People dont just send random dick pics

They do actually. It’s a sad truth.

Still, she cheated...

[–]connorcormack 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

If I am 100% objective it's closer to 90% but I admit my emotions put it back

[–]kregsslauggteepla7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude. 90%???? Listen to yourself

I wouldn’t stay with a woman who 0.000000001% chance cheated on me. Stop being a god damn cuck

She better be sucking the life out of your dick and showing verifiable proof she hasn’t cheated before I even CONSIDER not getting an instant divorce

[–]Throwawaysteve12345648 points49 points  (14 children) | Copy

I confront her and she says she gave back an old vaccuum cleaner her forgot with her when they lived together, then cried so much and told me I'm paranoid and not being a good husband.

Sorry to say it man, but if I had to make a wager, i'd say she was cheating. I won't say "she's cheating for sure" like most guys on this site, as we don't know. But looking objectively, it's pretty damn clear. She cried not because she thinks you're a bad husband, but because of the intense emotions she experienced when you discovered her infidelity. Her entire world is about to come crashing down. it's emotional. The biggest red flag for lying is emotional reaction. If a girl gets angry, defensive, or cries, she is much more likely to be cheating, then a girl who calmly denies it, or laughs it off. I would raise your 70 to 90%. If we add, "about to cheat" it goes up to 99.99%.

Course of action: break up obviously. Collect any evidence you have and get a lawyer.

[–]ShotgunTRP12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

90% is conservative

[–]prigglytuff7 points8 points  (10 children) | Copy

This guy is going to get rekt in court if his evidence is just dick pics. Maybe he should play it cool and then watch/spy her, and wait for real evidence.

[–]2comment 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

It really depends. If he's in a no-fault area, is there really a point? Especially if they're childless, she can try to get pregnant at the last moment.

[–]justshootinblanks3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

Op should leave, see a lawyer to establish an end date, and stop any sex with his wife - or risk paying for someone else's kid for the next 20 years.

[–]prigglytuff0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

stop any sex with his wife

That sounds like a good idea. This way she will def go fuck another guy, and if you have been able to spy, you'll have what you need to go to court.

I dunno about you guys, but giving advice to a man to take a woman to court sounds stupid to me, because women always win. Maybe I'm wrong.

[–]HotStickySemen 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

In this situation there is no other option,as is in most situations involving marriage.

[–]prigglytuff0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'm just saying to give it some time so he doesn't mess up the legal stuff.

[–]ioncehadsexinapool2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Upvote this

[–]Werewolf35b1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

First of all, there's only like two states left that care if anyone cheated.

Second. A wife receives dick pics, then continues the communication without addressing it, such as telling him to stop. then sees the man in person, and conceals it from her husband. Any court on earth would consider that an affair.

[–]prigglytuff 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

But Mr Judge cries, I was so afraid that if I told my husband, he would punch me because patriarchy and shit, and I just kept the pictures in case anything bad happened, and I just continued talking with him because he was a friend in need and sent them while drunk and felt sorry for him.

skip all the above if the judge is a woman

[–]Werewolf35b1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

it would not surprise me in the least if it played out like that now that you mention it.

[–]prigglytuff0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Let's hope it doesnt!

[–]LiftOrGTF055 points56 points  (3 children) | Copy

She says I'm a better partner provider

He's the AF, you're the BB. Have some self respect and leave her. Now that you pretty much have evidence you should know what to do. She showed interest by not deleting his pics and agreed to meet him. Your gut feeling doesn't lie. There's plenty of fish in the sea, so do the right thing and finish it before it gets worse for you.

This is why you don't marry alpha widows, btw.

[–]vintagegirlgame6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

By #2 I think he meant that husband is 2nd man she's had sex with, other guy she lost her virginity to.

[–]LiftOrGTF03 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ah yeah, you're right. Completely misread it. Thanks for the heads up. :)

[–]illmatic70829 points30 points  (0 children) | Copy

Get your ducks in a row. Trickle truth is coming and you should be prepared to cut it off. She 100% cheated.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon23 points24 points  (0 children) | Copy

I confront her and she says she gave back an old vaccuum cleaner her forgot with her when they lived together

This does not align with the receipt of dick picks. It sounds like an excuse she had lined up and ready.

then cried so much and told me I'm paranoid and not being a good husband.

Responsibility and blame pushed onto you.

I'm 70% suee shre cheated. Next course of action?

She met up with an ex, to hand back a "vacuum cleaner"?

Ask details of the vacuum cleaner. Make? Model? Size? Colour? Type? When did they meet? How long for? Why didn't she mention it?

Keep gently probing. If she's being straight she'll answer with simple honest answers. If she deflects and insults you,calls you paranoid, blames you, refuses to answer - then she's lying.

You shouldn't be 70% sure she cheated. You should be 99% sure she cheated.

Where to go from here? Depends if you have kids. No kids? Get the fuck out now. Divorce. If your wife cheated she no longer respects you. She's acting differently. Things only get worse from here on out.

And next time don't get married.

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev20 points21 points  (4 children) | Copy

Short answer: Yes.

"When there is doubt, there is no doubt."

-From, The Sayings of Chairman Zaitzev

Long Answer:

Anyway she hasn't been acting differently and all was well when I took her phone to call my mother and she jumped to call her herself. Later I find she has a passcode on her phone. One day I look without her knowing and catch the passcode pattern, and I log in.

LOL. Does anything say "I'M GUILTY AS FUCK!" more than this?

Her old flame sent dick pics and apparently they met?

His penis met her vagina in a hotel room.

She never mentioned it before.

Duh. That's because she's a lyin' ass bitch.

I confront her and she says she gave back an old vaccuum cleaner her forgot with her when they lived together

Something got sucked, but not with some vacuum cleaner.

So, how long ago did they live together? Was it really imperative to retrieve a vacuum cleaner from 5 years ago (or whatever)? Is there and unexplained vacuum cleaner around the house that you've never seen before?

then cried so much and told me I'm paranoid and not being a good husband.

Whore wife cheats, gaslights husband, blames him.

It's gotta be somebody's fault and it can't be hers, so.....

I'm 70% one million percent sure she cheated.

FTFY

Next course of action?

Secure any valuable that you don't want torched if she got nuts. Photos, shit like that.

If you share a computer, install a keylogger.

Start accruing cash somewhere that she doesn't know about. Don't tell anyone.

Institute the "Dread" Protocol.

Get ready to get divorced. Do NOT get her fucking pregnant.

[–]trpcounsel4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Here's the winning comment. Follow this shit exactly OP.

[–]LordThunderbolt2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

"Get ready to get divorced. Do NOT get her fucking pregnant."

More like: Do NOT have sex with her ever again.

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, but homie thinks there's only a "70%" chance that she cheated. If I tell her "kick her to the curb" or "never bang her again", he's not going to listen.

[–]mrbfs19 points20 points  (1 child) | Copy

Check the frequency of the calls and texts to that number via the phone bill that should tell you if this was a one off or if something is going on over time.

[–]bickisnotmyname12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

This. If your wife won’t allow you to check this, she’s cheated 100%. Don’t be a chump.

[–]CynicalBluestocking20 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy

Red flag. She freaked out when you touched her phone even tho she has a passcode. Whatever happened. She feels guilty about it. There was a line crossed and she knows it.

[–]trancedj18 points19 points  (2 children) | Copy

You already know the answer. Keep your exit strategy top secret. Expect more tears and fits. Be stoic. When the time comes move on. Good luck and be safe.

[–]juliusstreicher14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

She met up with an ex, to hand back a "vacuum cleaner"?

Ask details of the vacuum cleaner. Make? Model? Size? Colour? Type? When did they meet? How long for? Why didn't she mention it?

I know how to get the results much better. OP, ask yourself: Was there a fucking extra vacuum cleaner around the house since you got married?

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

She got dick picks and then met? Women are not retarded. She's not gonna meet up with a guy sending dick picks unless she's trying to get dick.

There's a 99% probability she cheated, and if she didn't it's because circumstances got in the way. She wanted to.

Get out.

[–]mrHappyPotatoe10 points11 points  (2 children) | Copy

You know that vacuum cleaner was a metaphor for her sucking dry clean his pipe?

They probably laugh at that joke right now.

Lol.

[–]kregsslauggteepla2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

HahahahaahhahahaHHAHHHhHhHhAaa fucking dying over here hahahhahahahahahahaha

[–]wheresMYsteakAt1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Best post of the thread.

[–]bluepillcarl23 points24 points  (0 children) | Copy

Pass code on the phone is enough. Sorry man.

[–]jay_jay_man24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

Her old flame sent dick pics and apparently they met?

  • your wife thought it was ok to receive and store an ex dick pics on her phone while married
  • your wife thought it was ok to meet with him alone
  • your wife thought it was ok to meet with a man who sent her dick pics and not tell you about it

Regardless of whether or not she cheated on you (99% certain that she did), she is the one that's not being a good wife. She is not wife material. This behavior is suitable only if she was a plate. She wouldn't even be girlfriend material much less a wife.

[–]AdvocateKillerman8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Man, a lot of the comments on here are harsh - sadistic even - but essentially they’re all true. She 100% cheated. You’ll hamster and look for reasons to believe she didn’t, but she did and you need to accept that. If she was innocent she would’ve told you when they guy sent the dick pics but she hid it and you know why. Also she admitted to meeting him and again you know why. Good luck man, but if you sincerely came here for answers, you have them.

[–]ishyman7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

She’s your wife, so I assume she lives with you. Have you ever seen the vacuum? She woulda told you her ex lover wanted the vacuum back. The dick pictures? Why are they still on her phone? She woulda deleted them if she was faithful. But she kept them. The tears are guilt tears. She is crying because she knows what’s going on. She was caught. Sorry man, all the evidence points that she did see him.

[–]AfterC6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ah, sorry buddy but this one is pretty obvious.

It's done. It'll hurt, but she cheated.

[–]equipmentpool5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

I wouldn’t even touch her after that. Sickening.

[–]ImQuitingPorn4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

LEAVE. FAST.

[–]Kommanderdude5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Act like everything is ok. Get a lawyer secretly and surprise her with a divorce to minimize the amount of divorce rape you’ll experience.

She been on this dudes dick op. Get out now.

[–]Steve_Chiv5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Who cares if she cheated or not. She got a dick pic from an ex and then ran out the door to see him. Is that the kind of woman you want in your life? Of fucking course not

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (3 children) | Copy

Do you really want to be married to a woman that the moment she gets some dick pick she's on her way to some dirty hotel room to have some porn-grade sex ?

This is how much she values you.

Take my advice: get on her phone and make screenshots of the dick pick and check for latest conversations. And don't let her see that you're planning your escape.

You made a mistake by showing her all of your cards, you should have made screenshots and hired a divorce attorney.

She obviously cheated on you.

Also update us OP, this is interesting.

[–]cellphon1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Most states have no fault divorce. Saving pictures and being the cheated party won't do jack shit aside of adding drama to the divorce.

Your divorce should be as quick and as cheap as possible even if you are not able to "get even" and expose her sluttiness.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Better safe than sorry.

[–]juliusstreicher3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

OP, how long have you been married?

Tip: If all she got were dick pics, how come she didn't get details or request for a meetup about vacuum cleaner? Does dick pic="Bring my vacuum cleaner"? Apparently, if nothing else, a dick pic from him means for her to get on the phone to him. Kind of like the Bat Signal.

[–]Herdsengineers4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

she cheated. don't even ask or argue with her about it anymore. just interact with her just like she admitted it, and pay no attention to anymore denials, blame shifting, or guilting she pulls trying to manipulate you.

don't question her about it anymore either - do not try to get her to admit it. just act like she has already even if she hasn't.

next course of action is up to you. what do you want in life? how much do you have invested in this marriage? time in? kids? financially? joint property? how much more do you want to invest in it after this?

for now, go no/low contact with her. no sex, no dates, communicate only for minimal logistics needed when living with someone, and respect yourself first. take care of you - gym, do well at work, eat well, and get good sleep.

beyond that, get some good social time in with friends and family, separate from your wife. and stop checking on her phone, email, etc.

the best thing you can do establish the space and distance between you and her. DO NOT MOVE OUT OF THE HOME - legally that's abandonment of the property and really hurts you in the divorce, but if there's a spare room, move her shit into it.

and above all else, don't be weepy or sad around her. either be upbeat about all the great shit you have going on in your life, or be stoic and non-emotional. be strong and demonstrate you're living a great life, and she can't share in it now.

stop paying for her stuff, her phone, her car, etc.

one of two things will happen, she'll either try to re-insert herself into your life, or she won't. if she tries, her motivations are obviously questionable for a variety of reasons. you'll need to tease out some more if you want to consider trying to reconcile. if she doesn't, she's showing you what you need to know, it's time to divorce her post haste.

last thing - go talk to a lawyer, and get things documented from her - if you have emails/texts/etc., save them somehow. get advice on how to position yourself for a filing.

[–]Rollo_Mayhem31 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yep, this right above is the game plan. Most importantly is show NO EMOTION about this. Sure you feel hurt, betrayed, angry, and whatever else. You want to talk about those feelings, pay a therapist... do not show any of these feelings towards her. STONE COLD. Buy a cot or another bed and sleep in that. Carry on your life and don't let this impact your work or job or income stream...and cautiously interact with her, once she gets the sense that you are done, who knows what she might do. reconcile, split, or maybe create shit ton of drama... and that is what you want to avoid getting pulled into.

Real quick a friend of mine told of his friend who after he found out that his wife had an affair, shoved his wife and she called the cops. Now she has control over him and he has to give her money for rent etc.. Basically she got a restraining order and the time period is still pending and she can just lie to the court and say he did something while she has the order. So he asked her to remove the restraining order and she asks for money to pay rent etc...they are technically not divorced and they have a kid. So check your self.

[–]Herdsengineers2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

i'm speaking as a guy that caught his wife cheating on him. in the aftermath, i did some things right. i did more things wrong. i instinctively knew better, but let my emotions get the better of me. i was impatient and undisciplined. i wanted to save my marriage right then. i didn't realize i needed save myself before i tried to save my marriage, or anything else. i try to give guys advice based on hard knocks experience when they catch their wife cheating these days. very few take heed.

[–]TRP VanguardWhisper4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

"Here's some dick pics. Please return my vacuum cleaner."

Idiot.

Of course she cheated on you.

If an ex contacts your woman, and she doesn't immediately tell you about it, she either cheated on you, or will do so soon.

[–]red-arctic-tern7 points8 points  (4 children) | Copy

Your wife must be above suspicion. If not, divorce.

You start your post by explaining your wifes past. Why does it bother you? You need to sleep with so many women that you don't care about it anymore.

[–]cellphon0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

I don't know if I agree with your point.

Lets say hypothetically you've been with 200 women. Would you prefer a to be with a partner who was with 50 or 3 notches?

[–]Original_Dankster6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

High N-count for men is psychologically healthy - we evolved to spread our seed far and wide, and it's congruent with our biological intrinsic drives.

Nigh N-count for women is psychologically unhealthy - they evolved to seek out Alpha seed, but then secure a protector and provider. For most of humanity's evolution, too much promiscuity would result in more kids than she could handle (no birth control) and then insufficient resources. So her drives are to secure an Alpha, get pregnant, then either turn that Alpha into a Beta or find a Beta to provide for her. Fucking dozens of dudes with no consequence is incongruent, and results in psychological trauma.

[–]2comment 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

Lets say hypothetically you've been with 200 women. Would you prefer a to be with a partner who was with 50 or 3 notches?

The ol` fairness (or equality) doctrine, like in so many places concerning male/female relations does not work here. Get over it.

A woman, unprovoked, socks you as hard as she can in a full bar. What will happen if you respond in kind?

A woman loses her job and now is a stay at home mom while the husband struggles to make ends meet, how will she be seen? Now reverse the genders and consider it.

There are a million example like that, but the gist of it, if you apply the fairness doctrine, youre just neutering your instinctual drives for a false and wishful ideology. On top of that, you wont find your generosity reciprocated when it comes time and at their expense.

[–]cellphon2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude, we are on the same page.

Im replying above to the guy that said his wife past sexual past shouldn't matter. It should and it does.

[–]Werewolf35b14 points15 points  (17 children) | Copy

70% lol.

Your a better "partner."

Him? He was better at brutalizing her torn slimy gooey innards with his

ALPHA BLACK COCK.

It's over. Sorry.

[–]kakarot127 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

Nowhere in the post does it say he's black. Go back to watching your cuck porn

[–]vicious_armbar0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah I have no idea why someone would assume that a professional basketball player is black. (◔_◔)

[–]Werewolf35b-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

He's black.

Go back to your BBC porn, and let's call it even

[–]Kommanderdude4 points5 points  (6 children) | Copy

Who said he was black?

[–]LordThunderbolt3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

He's deff not white. Lettuce be cereal here. 6'8 semi-pro ball player?

[–]Kommanderdude2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Regardless of is ethnicity. Op clearly should have given up when he found out. Losing her virginity to a 6’8 semi pro basketball player is one hell of a alpha widowing. Most men couldn’t top that. That’s thing about alpha widowed women. They’ll always go back to that cock unless you are truly a superior male to the guy that alpha widowed her.

Op is no way a superior male to him let alone a 10y/o boy.

[–]Werewolf35b1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I did.

Cuz hes black.

Pardon me, back to my cuck porn.

[–]Werewolf35b0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I did. Three posts later after denying it, he admits it. Look up my posts. Hilarious.

[–]jay_jay_man-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

6'8 basketball player who's semi pro

A black man would be most likely to persue a professional career in Bball

[–]Kommanderdude2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

K

[–]connorcormack 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

He's not black...

[–]Werewolf35b0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Maybe he's half black, have you seen him....from the waist down?

[–]connorcormack 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

He is actually half black, lightskinned, but he's not black.

[–]Werewolf35b-2 points-1 points  (2 children) | Copy

Soooo...he is black.

Vindicated, suckas!!!!

Also, in what world is a guy that is half something not that thing? Even if someone was a quarter Armenian, or whatever, they could say they're Armenian without lying.

[–]connorcormack 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

So if he's half black half white how come he's black and not white?

[–]Werewolf35b-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

I never said he want white. He's both. He could claim.either and not be lying.

[–]LordThunderbolt0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

B.R.U.T.A.L.

[–]dongpal2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

lmao vaccum. thats how the bitches call the blowjob nowadays

[–]RepostGhostCst2Cst2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Come on man. You know she did. Please listen to this. It's never ever going to go away. This is always going to cause suspicion. Knowing what I do now, I would see about walking. It's never just a one time thing either. In today's society it's okay for this kind of shit to happen. They promote it. So if you don't got kids, I would seriously consider leaving. Do yourself a favor

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I'm not sure how you arrived at 70% when it's pretty much certain she fucked him.

[–]XT3M32 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

if you have to ask.....

[–]jb_trp2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Doesn't matter if she actually cheated (in the sense they had physical sex) or not. Her behavior is inappropriate inexcusable for a married woman. She's being sexual with another man. Period.

And she tried to hide it and gaslight you... You're not being "paranoid." You saw smoke and checked, and yes, there's fire. You caught her red handed. If you stay with her, you'll never be able to trust her again, and she'll likely do it again.

Get screen shots of the conversation and save them. They will help you in divorce proceedings. Then get a good lawyer. Do not have any kids with this woman.

[–]Bigblackbuck732 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yep she cheated, you have to move on. You aren't 70% sure she cheated, you are 100% sure, and 70% not sure what to do about it. Hopefully you realize that if you pretend this was, "just a one time thing", or "I just got drunk at lunch and it happened" then you are truly fucked and she's going to be getting her shit pushed in weekly if not more. Sorry bro, I will toast a glass of wine to another fallen soldier for you.

To the guy that said she had a passcode, she's guilty, some jobs force you to have a passcode if you have email from work. Its only if you don't know the passcode that there is an issue.

[–]connorcormack 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

Guys... wtf

[–]kregsslauggteepla1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Be honest was he black?? Hahahahaha

[–]connorcormack 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

He's not black

[–]Werewolf35b0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

He's black.

She's his.

Continue to eat his seed. Carry on.

[–]zboo1h1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your wife's throat was full of some other guy's dick, and she enjoyed it. Then she lied to you about it to your face.

Don't kill her, do even worse: begin proceedings to never speak to her again. Then, when you're legally separated from her, never speak to her again, or offer any explanation for your actions.

The rest of her life will be confusion and pain, as it should be.

[–]pilljourney1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Tears are one of the 2 tools that women use against men. Women do legitimately cry, of course, but this is a clear example of the kind they use to get what they want. It makes you feel bad for her and want to protect her, it turns you into the aggressor and her into the victim, even in your own mind.

She cheated, and even if she didn't, she disobeyed your trust and loyalty, she's not worth your loyalty. If it were me I'd either smash on the side or leave her, more than likely I'd leave. Maybe both.

[–]huge_gap1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Vacuumed his jizz up like a roto rooter.

[–]0kool741 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

  1. Alpha widow to semi-pro basketball player
  2. Has passcode on her phone
  3. Getting schlong picks from ex
  4. Gave back an old vacuum cleaner? DAYUM.....these thots so stupid they can't even come up with believable lies anymore LMAO
  5. Come back in 3 months and let us know you've bounced. But, if you're still state of the art stupid and stuck around, spare us the details!

[–]life_is_dumb0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Her old flame sent dick pics and apparently they met? She never mentioned it before. I confront her and she says she gave back an old vaccuum cleaner her forgot with her when they lived together, then cried so much and told me I'm paranoid and not being a good husband.

This paragraph exists, and yet you're only 70% sure? Dude, you're in straight denial mode.

[–]ddiogenesofsinope0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Take screenshots for the divorce case!!

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She cheated 100 percent. Leave her.

[–]wheresMYsteakAt0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds innocent enough to me.

[–]Werewolf35b0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Look dude. I said he was black and was right. Your defense is ridiculous. I clowned you, but you have bigger problems to deal with. Take the "L" and move on.

So..

Why OP"s Peter In Law Is Black

Dissertation, by Werewolf35b, Published Jan 4th, 2018

  1. He is 6'8"

  2. He wants his vacuum back.

  3. He's texting another man's wife

  4. He's a basketball player

  5. Hes hung (were dick pics shot in panorama mode?)

  6. You wife is so enthralled by him, she is willing to throw away your entire life, to make him ejaculate one.more.time.

Conclusion, he black.

[–]connorcormack 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

lol. He's mixed. HE's lightskinned. When someone says "black" they mean something different. Go away, cuck

[–]Werewolf35b0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

So lightskinned blacks aren't "black", and also, I'm the cuck here. Ok suit yourself.

[–]pbar0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah. A vacuum cleaner to put his dick in.

[–]SelfRighte0usSuicide0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Man I know it sucks but STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF and go through divorce. It's gonna be exhausting, depressing and stressful the next few months but you must do it. You will get stronger every time you get hurt. Trust me, do yourself a favor and divorce her!

[–]chronosthetitan0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Her name Lauren?

[–]enjoyablehat0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

dick pics they met

Come on, man.

[–]anusbleach111110 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Troll

[–]kregsslauggteepla0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA this thread is fake as all fuck

Let me guess, he had a 40 inch dick, his name was Lebron and your perfect blonde bride was a southern belle with a confederate daddie and you’re on the other line jizzing to these comments pretending he go his revenge on slavery or some retarded fetish

GTFO and mods please delete this shit

[–]connorcormack 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

Deleting thread once it reaches 24 hours.

[–]kregsslauggteepla1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Yeh bc it’s fake

[–]connorcormack 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

No because it got way too popular and people are just throwing insults and I already got enough good advice.



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