What if a girl shit tests me, I provide a shit test answer, and then she keeps saying "No, I'm serious" until I give a serious answer?

lietruth · 2018-01-02T23:51:02+00:00

"So am I".

She's trying to have a stronger frame than you. If you actually passed the shit test, she wouldn't say this because your answer would be good enough. Depends on the shit test though. Lots of guys just think everything is a shit test, when sometimes it's just a question. What was the shit test?

fnordsnord · 2018-01-03T00:07:49+00:00

I'd need to know the specifics to give a useful answer.

I had one plate ask me if I banged another plate. (They were friends.)

The answer was, "A gentleman doesn't discuss such things."

Followed by "How is that ANY of your business" and then "Just who do you think you are?"

DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2018-01-02T23:50:11+00:00

Matters what it is. There are some questions I refuse to answer personally, there are some that you can answer if she won't stop and there's some that you just don't answer because it's a trap.

Most of the time you can wear them out and they eventually relent and if they don't I just say "you're not being any fun, bye."

RPAlternate42 · 2018-01-03T04:37:18+00:00

"Okay, I'll tell you something, since you're serious"

Then I relate some made-up but serious sounding story with a punchline at the end.

I do this with drunk girls I pick up for Uber. By the time I get to the end of the story, it's either their stop, or they forgot what the question was.

redd_reality · 2018-01-03T03:14:37+00:00

I don't get it.

Did she physically twist your arm behind your back? Is she bigger and stronger than you?

The content of the shit test doesn't matter, it is the intention behind why she is dishing it out.

You can only really successfully smash a shit test out of the park if you can intuit the underlying emotional reason for said shit test.

Then, you neutralize her concern with a stoic, confident remark dismissing her concern.

chazthundergut · 2018-01-03T05:28:45+00:00

You should always start out playful and lighthearted about it, and try to keep it that way. But there comes a point, if she simply will not let it go, that you may need to show some teeth. If she simply will not stop until she finds your boundary, then you may need to step up and demonstrate your boundary.

Stop being playfully dismissive and take a serious tone and say that you're not going to talk about it and she is getting on your nerves.

Now, you need to be careful here not to escalate it into an actual fight. This would serve her purpose, since you'd be giving her the emotional rollercoaster that she's looking for. If she continues to push, then very calmly gather your shit and leave.

Girls love the emotional shouting matches. But they hate losing your attention. Withdrawing your attention should be how you respond to her bad behavior, if she becomes too annoying or agitated.

Hopefully you don't need to employ this strategy frequently. But if she forces you to, then consider finding a more amiable chick.

And remember, you are the prize. The moment ANY chick becomes a net negative on your happiness or quality of life, you must be willing and able to walk away.

redhawkes · 2018-01-03T20:17:19+00:00

Dude, pass the shit test and change the subject.

1Pink1Stink · 2018-01-03T08:30:32+00:00

Then maybe it's not a shit test? You people need to understand these terms because i swear half of you don't.

Just because it makes you shit yourself, that doesn't make it a shit test.

nofilmynofucky · 2018-01-03T11:23:25+00:00

That just means you failed the shit test

Or it was actually a comfort test, in which case you failed that as well

MuhTriggersGuise · 2018-01-03T14:00:09+00:00

Depends on context, but for what I'm imagining, I'd follow up a "No, I'm serious" with "I don't care" and continue on with whatever I was doing.