I am trying to wrap my head around some concepts and I am getting confused with the termini. I am not sure if I am correct the way I see it. I show you what I mean. I will throw out some statements/facts, so feel free to add, quote and correct me.

First of all, I will state the following. It doesn't matter where your SMV stands in relation to her SMV objectively. It only matters how she perceives your SMV in relation to hers, subjectively. SMV relations and the alpha/beta dichotomy are different concepts, but as I understand it, they describe the same principle.

For sake of simplicity, I will classify women into two categories. Pre- and post wall. I guess it would be also neccessary to classify women into the two categories pre reproduction and post reproduction. Making it a two dimensional square with four fields.

If a girl perceives you as higher SMV (SMV = looks/game/status), you are alpha in her eyes (good for fucking and seeking commitment with pre wall, good for having affairs post wall). If a girl perceives you as lower SMV, you are beta in her eyes (good as orbiter pre wall, good as provider for not neccessarily his child post wall). Equally perceived SMVs are a grey area. Personally I think this is the area where the most shit testing occurs pre first PiV, so she can sort you in one of her two mental boxes (at first).

For the following I will use 'being alpha' and 'having higher perceived SMV' and 'being beta' and 'having lower perceived SMV' synonymous. But the devil lies in the detail as we will see.

For a girl to be sexually aroused by you, she needs to perceive you as alpha. For a girl to have sex with you, you don't necessarily need to be perceived as alpha (i.e. duty fucks in a ltr with her beta bf). BUT for the very first PiV she needs to perceive you as alpha.

Now, that means that every plate, who is giving up her pussy for you without commitment (the very definition of a plate), needs to perceive you as alpha. Hence AF. Now, these plates are pushing for commitment with a man they perceive as alpha. But as soon as you enter with one of your plates the verbally agreement to be 'sexually and emotionally exclusive', a monogamous relationship, the betaization process starts. The first hit your SMV takes, is the mere fact that you agreed to enter a monogamous relationship, making her the gatekeeper of your now only source for sex. Power has switched and her SMV got a boost in relation to yours.

The process goes on. I am not sure if the betaization process can be stopped or even reversed but at one point in time, her SMV perception switches to 'I am higher SMV than him'. I guess it must be somewhere between 3. and 4. on the curve. And now the relationship that was up until now, per definition, alpha fucks (hot/dirty sex) and alpha bucks (respected rewards), switches to the dredded beta fucks (obligation sex) and beta bucks (expected obligation).

Thusly, if you

  • only want hot alpha fucks sex, you never commit.

  • want hot alpha sex and pair bonding, you do serial monogamy with plating/vetting in between and eject at point 4 during the ltr.

  • want kids in a monogamous ltr, you need to slow the betaization process down as hard as you can. But going south, it will. That's the bullet you need to bite if you want kids. Sure you can end the relationship (I am not talking about marriage, lol), but then she will find a beta stepdad raising your kids. And who the hell wants that.

I haven't touched on other relationship concepts, such as open-relationships. In my opinion they are not worth it. Committing time and resources into a ltr while she is getting alpha side dick, is a big nono for me.

Feel free to add.

For further reading.

The betaization process

Protector vs Provider

Alpha Tells

Beta Tells