The Red Pill is supposed to be about harsh truths, so let's talk about one nobody wants to hear:

She wants to do better.

There is a hierarchy of guys that girls want. All girls use pretty much the same one, and you are not at the top of it. I don't care if you've been acting "Alpha." Your girlfriend or your wife might think you are the best she can do. But if so then that is a thought that life has cruelly beaten into her. It's a frustration, not a blessing. You're far from her first choice. At some point in her life, she hoped and prayed for a more attractive, taller, richer man with a more entertaining life and better charm to sweep her off her feet.

There's no person out there who's "just right for you" (i.e. is attractive and only wants what you have to offer). There's no "One" for everybody. There's no "One" for anybody. The day you met your significant other, she was looking to trade up. Just as surely as your Mother was looking to trade up on your Father, and your Father was looking to trade up on your Mother.

"Everyone's different, people are attracted to different things." Blue Pillers whisper this to themselves when they can't fall asleep. You are not a unique snowflake. You do not have the right "mix" of attractive qualities. There is no right mix. As much as you should always be looking to improve upon yourself, she'll always be looking to improve upon you.

If you're new to the Red Pill and reading this, or if you're here because you want to act "Alpha" so that your wife will cook you spaghetti more often, you've probably got a sinking feeling in your stomach right about now. That's good. That's your Blue Pill fantasy going on life support. Never place your value in a how much a woman wants you. Never allow a woman to dictate your worth. She will never care about you the way you want her to care about you.

There are two people in this world who love you: you and your Mother. And that's assuming you had a good Mother. Everyone else is using you. Pursue your passions. Do what you enjoy. Get a fucking dog if you want a companion. Get what you want out of life and never forget it's a game.