Is it possible to be MGTOW and still have children and/or a family? I say yes.

How? Allow me to introduce a concept I like to call "the transnational family."

Let me preface this article by making one thing clear: I have the lowest of opinions for men who intentionally father children yet make no effort to support them or be actively involved in their lives. Such men contribute to substantial societal ills and the suffering of their own offspring. They are among the parasites of modern civilization and fully deserve our contempt.

That said, I think such men are relatively rare. They also can't hold a candle to the amount of damages caused by Western culture itself and feminist-dominated governments, which monetarily incentivize the breakup of families through divorce and child support laws. These laws directly encourage hypergamous behavior and the AFBB sexual strategy among women. Such a civilization is hardly deserving of the name, and will not hold it for long. They suffer from a philosophical illness which make the problems caused by genuine deadbeat dads look like a seasonal cold in comparison.

Red Pill men understand this, and some – MGTOWs - justifiably refuse to participate in a system that is rife with hypocrisy and double standards.

Western governments have provided women with a myriad of reproductive options: the pill, the IUD, Plan B, abortion-inducing pills, abortion clinics, and safe-haven child abandonment laws. At the same time, these very government afford a man no legal rights once a woman becomes pregnant with his sperm and very few (if any) effective rights if the child is carried to term. Outside of physician-assisted sperm donation, the man will be legally compelled to provide for the child regardless of whether or not he consented to becoming a father. This includes scenarios in which the woman managed to rape the man or obtained his sperm through deceit or even through an acquaintance.

This ridiculous set of double standards is why I will never risk having children in a way that subjects me to the jurisdiction of American family courts.

I do, however, want to father and raise children. This leads me to make two observations:

  • 96% of all women on the planet are not American citizens.

  • Absent a treaty, American courts lack the authority to adjudicate claims or enforce foreign judgments for child support when the mother is the citizen of a foreign state, due to a lack of subject-matter jurisdiction and/or standing.

I can already hear the clamoring of outraged feminists at what I’m about to suggest.

These so-called “women” take their culture’s men for granted. They will be livid at the suggestion that men might be able to have children without being subjected to court-ordered financial sodomy, initiated at the whims of a wife who has lost the tingles for her man or the pretty slut who thinks her beauty entitles her to the seed - and ultimately, the financial resources - of a wealthy sucker. But they won’t put it that way, of course. Beyond using the tired shaming tactics of “sexual loser” and “race fetishist”, they will suggest this is a guide for teaching men how to be deadbeat dads and get away with it. As my first paragraph should have made clear, it is not.

Beyond immunity from the hell which is a biased family court system, there are numerous advantages to having children with a foreign mother:


  • Lower Cost of Raising Children.

In many countries, a child and their mother can live comfortably off of as little as $5,000 a year. Having child in America could easily cost a man 10 times that much. Outside of wealthy developed countries, the primary financial costs of raising children - medical care and college tuition - plummet to fractions of what they cost in the United States and elsewhere.

  • Dual Citizenship for your Children

This advantage will provide your children with options in life that others simply won’t have. It will also ensure that your child will never be fully dependent upon Western culture for their identity. It will also be easier for them to identify the shortcomings of Western culture and government by giving them a non-Western reference point.

NOTE: Under American law, a father must acknowledge his child’s paternity before the child turns 18 for the child to acquire American citizenship. This rule applies only to children born out-of-wedlock and abroad to non-U.S. citizen mothers.

  • Happier, Less Combative Mothers

Facts of Life: There are no women on the internet, and there are no foreign mothers who habitually bitch at their Western baby-daddies. It’s simply easier for a mother (or any woman) to nag, manipulate and threaten you if she’s in your presence. In a long-distance arrangement, such behavior is usually counter-productive and women know it.

There is, however, a larger reason that foreign mothers tend to be more pleasant than Western ones. In many countries the economic situation is difficult, and it can be quite hard for a woman to find a local man who is both capable and willing to provide ample financial support for her and their children. Consider two scenarios: (1) A responsible yet physically absent father who provides for his children and participates (via Skype, etc.) in child-rearing decisions, and (2) a local father who is unable or unwilling to provide ample financial support for his children and their mother, and who may or may not participate in child-rearing decisions.

It’s hardly a surprise that many women are more interested in the first scenario.

  • Optimal Division of Parenting Responsibilities

Let’s face it; mothers are better equipped to raise infants and toddlers. Breastfeeding, diaper changing, and all the little obligations that come with caring for a young child are not only ill-suited to men, they are generally not things men look forward to when they say they want to be fathers.

When a child enters adolescence, however, the role of a father becomes much more important. Teaching sons the Red pill; teaching daughters the Red Pill. This is a job best suited to the father. Children of such an age are also more defiant of their parents, and a father is better suited than a mother to teaching and enforcing rules of discipline.

This is why I recommend having your child come to live with you during their adolescent years, say ages 12 to 18. This also allows your child to take advantage of the free American public school system, and contrast Western culture and the culture of their mothers. Once your child completes high school here, they can return (at least temporarily) to the mother’s country, where the cost of a college education will be cheaper.

  • Eventual U.S. LPR & Citizenship for the Mother

How does an unwed foreign mother become a U.S. citizen by virtue of their citizen-child?

Easy! An IR-5 visa.

Once the child turns 21, and subject to a residency requirement, a child may petition for their foreign parent or parents to come to the United States. There is no numerical limit on IR visas, so once the qualifying application has been filed the wait time is usually less than a year. Once the mother has been living here for five years as a legal permanent resident (LPR), she may apply for U.S. citizenship. This allows the foreign mother to opt to live out the rest of her life in the United States without subjecting you to liability for child support (because the “child” is now over 21).

These are just a few of the mutually beneficial advantages of raising children within the framework of the transnational family.


But wait! What about international treaties?

Such treaties can also create child support obligations. When choosing a country to look for a future mother of your children, it’s important to know international law on the subject, or else you may find yourself the unwitting ATM for a crafty foreign woman, regardless of her lack of U.S. citizenship.

When it comes to international family law, there are three sources of authority to know:

  • The Hague Convention on the International Recovery of Child Support

This international treaty includes the United States, all current and future members of the European Union, and other (mostly European) countries.

  • The United Nations Convention on the Recovery of Maintenance Abroad

This U.N. treaty has 65 countries as parties. The United States is thankfully not one of them. However, you will want to know this law if you live (or plan to retire) elsewhere.

  • Bilateral National Agreements

These agreements can be in the form of official treaties or an informal “exchange of letters” between the two countries.

In the United States, the agency tasked with enforcing any child support obligations that are enforceable under international law is the Department of Health and Human Sevice’s Office of Child Support Enforcement. This agency maintains a list of “Foreign Reciprocating Countries” whose judicial decisions are deemed enforceable against American citizens.

So if you don’t want to be coerced by the American government to satisfy the judgment of a foreign court, educate yourself on what treaties exist and apply to your situation.


Today’s post was inspired by the family court system and gold-digging whores everywhere. Edited for formatting.