So, to start off - I want to clarify that I'm not one of those TRP guys that chase tail, getting laid is a goal ect. Not because i'm not wanted nor because i'm incapable - I turn down girls all the time - I'm just more of the nature of monogamy.

Background

Now, I've been single for quite some time - and I met this girl on the bus at school that i found absolutely stunning - easily one of the most attractive girls at my school. Within a month we were together. She says she's on top of the world and feels lucky that we're together compared to other guys she knows and hits on her ect.

So, let me tell you a bit about me so you understand where I am coming from. I'm in medical school, on my free time i lift, play ball, read books, spend time with family and friends. I also am a spiritual person and follow that to best of my ability. I don't drink. I don't do drugs. When I do, I don't get smashed - just loosened up. So I'm not used to dating girls that go out to bars and the sort. Prior to medical school I worked for a high-end fashion company and often went out but just never dated any girls i met since they didnt match my life goals - no offense, just not my girl.

Now to the problem. When my SO goes out, she gets WASTED. I always without fail get a text 'i'm so fucked' whenever she goes out. Prior to us meeting she smoked weed regularly (since we met, I told her I wanted her to stop for her own health and for the future of our relationship. Before anyone thinks i'm controlling her - She's coughed up tar before, fuck that noise - she needs to stop.) and has done other drugs. She once did coke a few months ago for the first time in a few years - I told her I was not going to stick around if this happens again - since then she has stopped. So needless to say, this is an adjustment for me, and i'm trying to be patient and help her grow out of these things. So far, everything seems to be going smoothly. Last week she threw out her bong and has cold stopped weed.

The issue in question.

So as mentioned prior, my SO gets WASTED at bars (doesn't remember her nights). I already have enough shit to worry about - the last thing I want to worry about is this. But what seems to erk me, not on a jealousy string but just a wtf string is that she accepts drinks from other guys. She strings them along and gets free drinks. Now I don't know exactly how she does this since i'm not there but you can't get free drinks from a guy without flirting with them can you? I honestly have no idea since I don't go out to bars in the nature of getting women. But she needs to be stringing them along in order to get constant free drinks. She tells me after that they're dumb for getting her drinks but she's not going to say no to a free drink. She tells me they're all 'waste' and don't compare so I don't have to worry but I'm not so worried about her cheating as I am that it's just not ethical, it's really un-fucking-classy, and it's a piece of shit move to reel guys in for drinks. Not only that, you're in a fucking relationship? I havn't mentioned much about it, to be honest I brushed it off when I heard it - I don't know much about the culture of bars but I do know that guys buy drinks all the time (why? I have no fucking idea) so i know it's normal. She's also very attractive so I know she's going to get hit on. She says it's her form of entertainment, which i think is fucked up. She admits it's a shitty thing to do. I don't understand.

I've turned this girl down for a lot really good girls. Girls that don't drink, are responsible, don't do drugs, and have generally lived a life parallel to mine. One of the biggest reasons I'm dating her (and fuck me, I know i'm a retard for this) is because she's easily one the prettiest girls i've met. And she does have a lot of great qualities aside from what i've mentioned above. The above is just the worst.

My plan

Next time this happens, tell her how I think this is a pretty piece of shit thing to do. I don't think she's going to cheat but she's definitely playing with fire - she doesn't remember her nights - I am not going to be forgiving when I get the "I was so drunk, I dont remember what happened, it just happened" call. But she needs to stop with getting drinks from guys. She can buy her own. If the guys buying her drinks are her guy friends - whatever. If it's some random guy buying everyone drinks and she's there - whatever. However, if it's some guy who thinks he has a shot with her- she needs to shut him down there and then - not after because it's 'fun'.

Any advice otherwise mates?