Always attracting crazy or damaged/unstable girls.

mrpthrowa · 2018-03-27T16:35:52+00:00

Don't spend your time around "drama". Problem solved.

oyoungpadawan · 2018-03-27T16:51:44+00:00

Those girls become easier to recognize with more experience. They make great plates, but horrible for a LTR. If you want something casual with these types, establish firm boundaries and tell them what you want. Always keep them at a distance and be willing to walk if she causes any problems.

Mr_Badass · 2018-03-27T17:41:43+00:00

People in the artsy scene tend to create art to dissociate, (escape from reality), or to express emotions they are overwhelmed by in a safe manner. Artistic hobbies tends to attract borderlines and shy-narcissists because they had to use creativity, imagination, and lots of daydreaming to escape their horrible reality growing up.

RandyBumgardner85 · 2018-03-27T20:20:05+00:00

I've been there. It's all about your early frame establishment. Crazy chicks are everywhere, nothing you can do about that but if you play hardball from the beginning with all potential prospects the crazies will out themselves early and usually move on to an easier target.

This means not responding in kind to love bombing. Texting only for logistics, not getting into long text convos about bullshit all the time. Saying no a lot early on. Meeting up only on your terms. Not spending more than a few hours together at a time. Once a week max. Resisting all her attempts at increasing commitment. Soft nexting at the first sign of drama and hard nexting if it continues. Having multiple options on the go.

I don't think TRP does enough to warn guys about crazy chicks. These girls will often come off as what TRP deems unicorns/good LTR prospects early on (high interest level, submissive, compliant, sexual) but they really need to be weeded out and ghosted early on if you want to save yourself a lot of drama.

You say you aren't particularly Alpha....you really need to work on this before you can expect your interactions with women to be rewarding.

imboredofitall · 2018-03-27T17:39:39+00:00

Holy sh!t, you described me and my situation exactly. I’ve learned to not just allow anyone into my life despite being a loving and open person. Along with raising standards for myself, I’m raising my standards for whom I’ll allow near me. The crazies in my life would work their way in and try to hook their claws, dragging me down along with themselves. I’d say, take it slow in getting to know someone and jump at the signs of familiar flags.

oyoungpadawan · 2018-03-27T16:54:38+00:00

It's all about where and how you're meeting these bitches, and your lifestyle. For example, you'll be meeting the polar opposite women at an entrepreneurial event as opposed to a dingy club. A good way to get more regular women is to daygame at places like the mall, or some blue collar district around 3-5.

electricitygives · 2018-03-27T19:13:45+00:00

They sense your freedom, and want a taste of the stability that you're able to provide them. Or, they feel as if they could relate to you because you're also an "outsider," or "different."

Plate, and don't LTR these girls. You should have a list of things you find unacceptable in an LTR and automatically start looking for the next if red signs show up. These signs should inherently be repulsive to you.

Morphs_ · 2018-03-27T19:39:05+00:00

Plate more of them and see each one less frequently. A woman makes drama out of comfort. If she sees you once a week max, she'll make sure she's doing her best to make it fun. If she still makes drama, see her once every two weeks or no longer at all.

Moreofmore · 2018-03-27T23:13:26+00:00

It’s the law of attraction. Sounds like you’re looking for something to fix. Fun people and good long term people are not the same.

SoulRebel99 · 2018-03-28T06:40:28+00:00

Cluster B personality... Look it up on girlschase or return of kings. These are plates only, they will fuck you up if you let it. Pump and dump away my friend.

128903 · 2018-03-27T20:21:25+00:00

R u black?

wawakaka · 2018-03-28T01:26:39+00:00

you attract what you lack in your life. if you are calm, stable, and responsible you mgith be so bored emotionally that these women fill a need in you to get emotionally stimulated.

you do have options you could just walk way and ignore them but you choose to engage with them despite there being other types of women out there.

these women fill a void in your life...chances are you are bored with your life so you need crazy to make you feel alive.

mrHappyPotatoe · 2018-03-28T23:00:53+00:00

The saying you attract what you are.

chachaChad · 2018-03-27T17:39:56+00:00

Broken people attract broken people. You're doing this to yourself.

Title	Always attracting crazy or damaged/unstable girls.
Author	oyoungpadawan
Upvotes	15
Comments	31
Date	March 27, 2018 4:33 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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