I used to feel resentment towards "onetises" and girls who rejected me or even a girl who cheated on me.

Now? I've become so full of positivity in my life that I feel like I'm looking at this from a completely different angle.

For example, my oneitis - got super invested after getting her number in school, messaged her every day 4 days straight, she lost interest and probably saw me as the beta that I was. I kept wailing on for months, decided to hit her up again over text even though I had anxiety attacks when I saw her at school and basically - got rejected again. Afterwards tried to "troll" her, which again is completely childish, this was all for over a year, if not more.

It sucked ass, obviously, but the more I think about it, it was an incredible life lesson for me, one that you need to experience to truly understand how shitty it is. What exactly should I be mad at her about? Why should she date a skinny, no-confident beta who has no clue how the game works? I know I wouldn't if I was a girl, just like I wouldn't date a fat chick or an ugly girl, the thought alone repulses me nowadays, even moreso when I see ugly girls creeping me intensively. Some bring up the argument of "Fuck that bitch, she didn't go for you and now you are X and Y" ... but that's completely normal though, isn't it? Again, the "be yourself" thing is stupid in the first place.

I am by no means saying that I would want to date them or "have them give me another chance", if I did wanted to have that, the problem would then be scarcity mentality and not being truly over oneitis, plus you'd have to change their perspective of your past beta self. Overall - a deal no one should be taking here. Just the pure realisation and understanding of why things went sour is giving me peace and has let my resentment go smoothly and naturally.

I think this is how it should be, and I'm curious what are your guys thoughts on this matter?

P.S The only thing that I'm unsure of now is wether the same applies when you are a beta and she cheats on you, because while it makes sense why she cheated on you, she still has her responsibility and you can't put all the blame on yourself.