My girlfriend spends too much time with this guy

Despacit0 · 2018-08-09T08:51:52+00:00

Bruh you're getting cucked lol

ppanthero · 2018-08-09T09:21:38+00:00

“He wanted to show her something“

😂

Sure he wanted to show her “something“...

wanker7171 · 2018-08-09T09:39:44+00:00

go "spend time" with another girl then my dude

Batmanforreal2 · 2018-08-09T10:05:44+00:00

Youre trolling, right?

showerdudes9 · 2018-08-09T10:22:33+00:00

Ask if she can record when she fucks him so you can sit home and jerk off to it since you seem to be fond of the cuckold lifestyle anyway

Auvergnat · 2018-08-09T11:25:28+00:00

Your LTR is doomed. Not because of that guy, but because that girl's behavior reveals she takes you for granted.

So yeah, be worried. Does she fuck him? Does she line him up as the next branch to swing to? Is she just getting a beta on orbit for validation? Is she developing her options to soothe her ego? Doesn't matter really. What should worry you is that this girl feels that she has you on a leash.

lnternetLiftingCoach · 2018-08-09T09:13:38+00:00

She knows what she is doing is crossing a huge boundary. Any idiot would know. Luckily, you know, or ought to know, what to do in this situation.

work-then-play · 2018-08-09T08:41:58+00:00

What do you reckon?

always_sad12 · 2018-08-09T09:16:13+00:00

It’s ogre.

But seriously though it is. Sorry.

All_fixed_again · 2018-08-09T10:50:36+00:00

Do you have any girlfriends that you can "spend time with"? If so...do it. If she complains then you know that she understands what the bounderies are but chose to ignore them. She has no respect for your bounderies.

She is gone. She is trying to have her cake and eat it...keep You, the safe security blanket while also getting railed by another guy. Either that or she is already lining up plan b.

If she would rather spend the time with another man then you are not important to her.

Important: don't get and act butthurt, this shit happens and it could be an opportunty for you to break free and have a new start. Just ignore it, start planning your life without her..when you are ready...pull the trigger.

person8445 · 2018-08-09T11:11:05+00:00

He's fucking her in the ass.

juliusstreicher · 2018-08-09T11:15:45+00:00

Forget the very obvious "going to his place because he wanted to show her something". That in itself is a Deal Breaker. How about the "long evening walks...till midnight"???

If she's not fucking him, it's only because HE doesn't want to.

SpiderAlpha33 · 2018-08-09T10:15:06+00:00

NEXT.

c_w_o_o_l_l_y · 2018-08-09T13:32:01+00:00

Find out if he's gay first, and if he's not, you already know what to do. Dude, a girl isn't going to let a dude call her a bitch and a whore unless he's either gay or she wants him inside of her. I swear, I had to check if this post was a troll or not, but all of your other posts are about software stuff. So, I'm guessing not.

satlinrabbow · 2018-08-09T11:26:46+00:00

she has been Riiiidiinnng hiis coock alll niiight.

No, seriously, she probably been swallowing his cum then coming home to kiss you when she gets back.

first of all, stop living with women,

second

keep lifting, or rather, lift more

third. . .

talk to other women.

this_weeks_account2 · 2018-08-09T12:05:02+00:00

I almost hate to see this happen to a fellow guy, and OP seems like a nice kid.

You know how many girls I’ve fucked with boyfriends? A TON.

You’re getting played, and at the least, completely disrespected. Get out.

Mangasbzo7 · 2018-08-09T11:43:53+00:00

DONT demand she stop seeing him, that will just seem insecure and make the poosy dry up

If a girl ain't doing what you want, you withdraw TAR from her - time, attention & resources. Slowly cut her off and start spending your time with other ppl instead, ideally other bitches (hell, fuck other bitches if you want)

Eventually gf will clock on that you gone cold on her and ask why, and you tell her if she wanna spend every fucking day with random dude #1737382548 then cool, but you'll be out doing your own thing, and when she ready to act like good gf again she should holla at you.

AMUSED MASTERY + ABUNDANCE MENTALITY will take you far, buddy

johnnight · 2018-08-09T13:13:51+00:00

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ishyman · 2018-08-09T10:34:03+00:00

Reverse the roles and she woulda left you in a heartbeat. Set your boundaries. If she crosses them , happens again, hard next

fuck-fuck-fuck-fuck- · 2018-08-09T13:26:34+00:00

When a girl spends time with “some new guy,” it’s with her mouth wrapped around his dick. Every time. Without fail.

They’re not spending 8+ hours at a library. You’re just REALLY FUCKING STUPID.

Yeah. A stroll. If, by stroll, you mean he’s coming in her mouth and ass, then yes... a stroll.

Even if there weren’t sex involved (and you’re a stupid pussy if you believe that), she’s spending ALL HER TIME with him.

You’re just the literal cuck at this point who licks up the residual cum in her mouth when you kiss her.

She went to his place? LOL. Just for a short time, huh? “I only sucked his dick for like 10 seconds....”

This is as obvious as obvious gets, so you’re either trolling the sub, or you’re a LOW functioning autistic.

account_rp · 2018-08-09T10:48:34+00:00

It's good that you're worried because you should be. She hangs out for hours at a time with this guy, goes to his place and comes back at midnight. Don't trust anything that she says about not getting another guy's dick.

If you really want to bother, hunt down some signs that she's cheating. Personally I recommend breaking up with her. It's best to wait until you have several other girls that you're fucking first, already having a girlfriend gives you preference in girls' pre-selection bias and makes things a lot easier.

Fapisluv · 2018-08-09T12:42:29+00:00

Trp: The forum where you will learn not to be a beta and spend too much time with a girl doing friend stuff while she has a boyfriend.

Asktrp: the forum where we ditch that thought, and if someone is spending a lot of time with a girl, he is banging her, and there is no chance for him to be in the friendzone.

majorketone · 2018-08-09T13:37:43+00:00

dandar4600 · 2018-08-09T13:48:38+00:00

They spend 8+ hours together in the local library, go for food together, some days comes back at midnight, saying that she was taking a stroll with him...She went to his place a couple of times

Sounds to me like they are dating.

[deleted] · 2018-08-09T14:15:13+00:00

Sounds like huge disrespect to me

666mafioso · 2018-08-09T14:47:16+00:00

This is a troll post lmao

Peter_B_Long · 2018-08-09T17:02:44+00:00

You're completely blind. She is 100% cheating on you.

I've been on both ends. In high school I would spend all day with this girl that I was fucking. We would sneak out at night and hang out at school (her boyfriend went to a different school). She would tell her friends / boyfriend that me and her were just friends. Even when he went through her messages and saw that we were texting romantically, she still convinced him that I liked her but that she didn't like me. Girls are pros at hiding shit.

Then, in my last relationship, my ex would always hang out with the same group of friends (mostly guys). She would bring me along most of the time, but she would still be out late with them when I decided I didn't want to tag along. I was always a bit suspicious, but I never really had proof to accuse her of anything. I finally broke up with her, and occasionally she would pop up on social media from friends posts and she'd always be sitting next to one of the dudes from her friend group. Still don't have proof of anything but most likely she branch swung pretty quickly to him even though she claimed she was going to wait for me and it wouldn't surprise me if she cheated on me a few times, because I was a beta during the relationship.

The point is, girls are fucking experts at hiding things and you should definitely trust your gut instinct.

[deleted] · 2018-08-09T09:05:46+00:00

It depends. She may be saying the truth. Msy be. But my modus operandi is trust but verify. The fact that she was in his place raises a huge red flag. Especially when she comes by midnight. Check her phone, emails etc. if you wanna continue the relationship.

After that, assuming you haven't found anything, tell her to stop seeing this guy. Just do not argue. Tell and forget. If she continues - next her. Jealousy is helluva drug which destroys relationships. It works on women well. But for men it is boner killer.

Retstortion · 2018-08-09T11:48:53+00:00

She’s sucking his dick right before seeing you lol

PR0JECT_XIII · 2018-08-09T11:58:11+00:00

When you confront her about it please post what happened

OfficerWade · 2018-08-09T11:45:03+00:00

Time to move on. She’s not yours it’s just your turn.

liberty1127 · 2018-08-09T12:10:41+00:00

He wanted to show her that he powerfucks

HumbleTrees · 2018-08-09T12:22:51+00:00

Bro unless he is gay and you've seen him suck a cock, she's cucking you. Start seeing other women.

I_am_Jax_account · 2018-08-09T14:15:04+00:00

This has to be a joke. You can't possibly think this is ok or that she's not cheating on you. You better end this shit immediately to retain some level of self-respect in her eyes if you ever want to get her back.

__uwotm8__ · 2018-08-09T08:49:01+00:00

Go through her phone and report your findings

novatooo · 2018-08-09T12:18:19+00:00

AWALT

downvotesanimals · 2018-08-09T12:27:53+00:00

Is this a fucking joke?

Alphalizard1990 · 2018-08-09T14:17:48+00:00

OP sounds very beta, dude she is fucking him no doubt! NEXTTTTT!!

sasquatch_pants · 2018-08-09T14:21:39+00:00

She went to his place a couple of times but she told me it was only for a short period of time, because he wanted to show her something

Ya, show her his dick!

She's doing this because 1) She's a cheater and/OR 2) Your not giving the relationship what it needs to keep a woman interested.

The amount of time she has been spending with this guy already says it's too late. Walk away from her.

dixieboyzspookyclub · 2018-08-09T14:42:04+00:00

Lol nice bait

AaronKClark · 2018-08-09T15:00:38+00:00

They're fucking. I think sub-consciously you already know this, you're just afraid to admit it.

romancesg · 2018-08-09T15:20:21+00:00

My best advice is to go to sleep in front of a mirror tonight so you can wake up to yourself.

lekkiplayboy · 2018-08-09T15:37:55+00:00

My favorite is to have her come to my place to charge her phone. I end up charging her with my Universal Serial Dick. works every single time. Dude move on.

Plazma_doge · 2018-08-09T16:26:47+00:00

I am sorry for your loss. Acceptance is the first step. Trust your gut.

atticusfinch1973 · 2018-08-09T11:02:45+00:00

Is this how her relationship with you started? Likely she's considering or already has branch swung. If he's spending that much time with her then he's more of a boyfriend than you are at this stage.

Yes, it's something you should be worried about if you want to keep her around. However, from the sounds of it you should be looking at other options yourself.

Korque_3 · 2018-08-09T11:28:02+00:00

the fuck kinda question is that she probably got that “something” in shoved in and out of her mouth dude. Either tell her to end it or leave it

mrHappyPotatoe · 2018-08-09T12:08:02+00:00

Put that plate nicely back to shelf. Ghost.

[deleted] · 2018-08-09T13:00:01+00:00

I have been the "this guy" before. They are either fucking or a cunt hair away from beginning to fuck.

send_it_for_the_boys · 2018-08-09T12:36:44+00:00

Yeah she’s just taking her midnight stroll on his dick. Next her and go lift some weight.

introvertp · 2018-08-09T12:55:51+00:00

Trust your gut. You know it doesn't feel right.

The guy is investing his time because he wants to hit, your girl is investing her time because she is interested. It's black and white like that sometimes. People don't spend 8 hours together unless they like each other's company or they're getting paid to.

Tousen71 · 2018-08-09T14:28:33+00:00

This is a troll. It’s too by-the-books cuck to be real.

AnonymousADC · 2018-08-09T09:59:15+00:00

Dread game or next,but please,dont check her messages,if she spots you,she is going to tell that to everyone and that is going to fuck you hard,just have abundance mentality.

Gainznsuch · 2018-08-09T12:18:01+00:00

I had a toned down situation like this happen in high school to me. I broke it off with her and moved on with life. It sucked. Only thing I would probs do different is line up the next chick before I dropped the girl who was making a cuck out of me.

Rares5555 · 2018-08-09T12:52:16+00:00

Break up with her. No questions asked.

xxWildbeast13xx · 2018-08-09T13:07:50+00:00

You have to be trolling

justicecantakeanap · 2018-08-09T13:34:31+00:00

Not worried, but you should not invest any of your time and space with this specific girl.

micr0penis · 2018-08-09T13:42:54+00:00

Eh. It's one thing if she has a guy friend that you hang out with as well and you're comfortable with. Not always, but can be.

This right here? This is bitch-town USA. You should have grown a spine and some self-respect from the start and told her this was a deal breaker, but you didn't. Guess what? You still need to grow a spine and break it off with her.

dtyler86 · 2018-08-09T14:22:28+00:00

Weather she’s actually ever actually fucked him (she has), it’s entirely disrespectful for her to even put you in this position. Dump her and dont look back. 99% chance they end up dating.

jekporkins77 · 2018-08-09T14:27:35+00:00

Time to say goodbye

El_Serpiente_Roja · 2018-08-09T14:35:07+00:00

Is this shit real? No wonder some of yall get cheated on

Bedtimeshine · 2018-08-09T14:52:29+00:00

You either end it or you fight fire with fire. That is the only way to handle shady women if you want the behavior to stop and for your girl to respect. Talking won’t help. Talking out relationship problems is among the biggest wastes of time on this planet. It’s either “I don’t want to control you so I think it’s best if we end it.” No ultimatum, no conversation. Or you now give yourself permission to do what you want, when you want, with who ever you want. Spending time and getting close to other women is now completely ok for you yo do. And you should and be “quite open” about it.

red_matrix · 2018-08-09T14:53:28+00:00

Don't be a cuck! Hard next bro.

SoulRedemption · 2018-08-09T16:12:05+00:00

Whether she is cheating on you with this dude (we all know what the probabilities are), the minute you break up with her, she will be on his dick (if not "again"). Plausible deniability - A.K.A. Hamstering and the trickle truth

redd_reality · 2018-08-09T16:23:23+00:00

I know this hurts op.

My advice is to give yourself plenty of space from her. You need to stop caring about her to the point you feel it in your body. Where, when the idea of her with another man enters your head, you literaly shrugs your shoulders and say to yourself "meh, I don't give a fuck." At that point you can begin to focus on yourself truly and bring real happiness into your life.

I'd be willing to bet that is what she is wanting from you also. Three years is a long fucking time to be with someone at a young age and I bet your relationship is stunting both your individual growth; she just had the clarity and accompanying solopsism to run with it.

Take her direction and do as she is doing. Create space and make yourself happy on your own terms; not for her sake, but for yours. Love yourself that much.

jkeegan123 · 2018-08-09T16:30:54+00:00

BRO...

daytonbull90 · 2018-08-09T16:34:42+00:00

Trickle truth, she'll give you tiny bits of truth a little at a time, but never the whole truth. Hit you with the "WHAT, YOU DON'T TRUST ME?" Take it from someone who was cheated on 40+ times by a single girl, she's cheating on you bro.

She cheated on me for roughly months, very open about hanging out with every person she cheated on me with, gave me details of what they did that day to fool me into thinking she was loyal. She fucked 6 different dudes 40+ times, and gave me all the details besides the sexual shit, claiming she didn't do shit with any of them. A friend let me know she was making out with a guy she had been 'hanging out with' for close to a month, said guy didn't know I was in the picture, either. Just next her man, it's not worth it, she failed your screening, pre-marriage gf/bf relationships are a just a long job interview, if they say or do anything that makes you question their loyalty, you say 'sorry, but you're not qualified for this position' and keep searching. Simple as that.

Yozki · 2018-08-09T16:42:57+00:00

I cannot believe your girl thinks that's o.k., and you only tolerate that shit because society keeps pushing for us to think it's completely normal behavior, yet look at how women behave now... they're fucking disgusting

I seriously considered getting a divorce because my 1 year wife was chatting with a regular client (she sells photography equipment) in a friendly tone and I don't want to spend a second unnecessarily stressing over shit like that. (Never told her I was considering it, in case I decided against it, which I did).

redpilledjoe · 2018-08-09T16:47:39+00:00

cuckoldry 101. you are fucked my guy just leave

smirk_addict · 2018-08-09T17:03:00+00:00

Troll post.

DadOnDabs · 2018-08-09T17:21:49+00:00

Is it already loose when you fuck?

forsedditonlyyyy · 2018-08-09T17:27:51+00:00

The first you two had sex didn’t you say something along the line of come to my place i wanna show you or watch “something” with you

waynebradysworld · 2018-08-09T17:39:12+00:00

An ltr should absolutely never spend any time alone with a man who isn't her partner.

Start finding new women

[deleted] · 2018-08-09T18:26:17+00:00

Idk bro I am the friend that the girl hangs out with while the couple is ltr and long distance.

I respect her relationship and we are just good friends with nothing sexual so you don't need to just assume the worst.

adeptintact · 2018-08-09T20:02:00+00:00

Yes she's cheating on you. I had a similar situation years ago when I was in college. She would study in his dorm room and hang out with him a lot, supposedly a common friend. I ended up finding out a year later she was cheating with him the whole time. I was too blue pill back then. I should have known better.

RylanBlackwood · 2018-08-09T20:08:49+00:00

When your game is good and a girl is besotted with you, she won't spend that amount of quality time with another man. Or less he is camp as Christmas (gay asf). Like if they were friends before you met then mebe but if they just met then some level of desire for you has decayed and she's nexting. Sorry mate might hurt like a cunt for a month or two but keep working out and emotions just disappear.

BecomingChad · 2018-08-09T20:21:45+00:00

All you senses and instict are screaming at you full blast that this is NOT ok and yet you are here on r/asktrp of all places asking us to hamster you into thinking this is common practice. How confused are you my guy?

dopey93 · 2018-08-10T01:07:58+00:00

lmao this thread is brutal. But please listen to all of it, OP

sandal_on · 2018-08-10T05:35:49+00:00

From what I have read, I would tell you to ghost her completely if possible and forever. She disrespected you on a big scale and thus don't deserve any bye or why.

[deleted] · 2018-08-11T05:07:49+00:00

Break up with her if you care.

epictetus_irl · 2018-08-11T10:11:33+00:00

I’ve banged women with boyfriends at 5pm on a Wednesday. Get your head out of your ass. Get some self respect and dump her

mabden · 2018-08-09T14:09:55+00:00

>he wanted to show her something.

His dick and how nice it would fit in her pussy.

>She is quite open about it, and she isn't hiding anything when I ask her about him.

Why should she, she is free to do whatever the fuck she wants.

> Is it something I should be worried ?

Why worry about the inevitable, your turn is over.

djh860 · 2018-08-09T17:56:18+00:00

Just tell her to cut the shit. Instead she will dump you and you’ll be better off for it.

anti_masyarakat · 2018-08-09T11:37:45+00:00

Just be cool about it. The questions is not her.

It's you. Do you have the audacity to cheat on her. If not, good. It's mean you respect your relationship and have integrity.

Just play along with her. Thinks positive side. And, focus more about your future. How's your work. Do you have ambition or anything you want to achieve in the life.

Don't waste your time thinking and pondering, about whatever she cheated on you or not.

Focus on yourself. Get your life in order. Have a dream. Plans things. Read book. Joins clubs. Make money rains.

Eventually, the truth will come out. And, just like I said. Play cool with it.

319Skew · 2018-08-09T15:39:09+00:00

If she's not fucking, I'd be amazed. I think this is a troll post but if it's not then look at this way. You're getting cucked. She's either banging or will be banging this guy. You sound like a beta to the core. Read the side bar, dump her for being disrespectful and crossing the boundaries and grow a pair.

Source: I'm that guy that's banging your kinda girl

[deleted] · 2018-08-09T19:40:31+00:00

you took the time to come here and ask because your gut is telling you something your head doesn't want to believe. listen to your gut.

Title	My girlfriend spends too much time with this guy
Author	throwawayfarway2
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Date	August 9, 2018 8:31 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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