Met this girls last week for a walk on a festival. Heavy kino, sat on my lap, good night kiss. Tonight she comes over to my place (1.5 h drive) and we will be cooking together.

Of course she sends me a 200 line message telling me all the usual stuff:

  • she has been raised conservative
  • she normally doesn't do this
  • she wants to be the one "initiating" things
  • blah blah blah

I know that this is her way of making sure that she remains the good girl. All this text is telling me is that I am living rent free in her head doing the nastiest things imaginable to her.

I replied telling her:

I don't know if I can trust you with that kind of responsibility. I am not that easy! Just promise me you respect my safe word.

She replied enthusiastically and is on her way right now - so it worked out.

I feel that I could have handled it better, though. Did I give up frame by referring to a safeword / jokingly putting her in control?