So, a friend of mine recently went through a tough breakup. I know this guy, and he's a great catch for any lady. Tall, good looking, decent shape.

The girl he was dating was a good point and a half lower than him. I'd say he's an 8.5 and she's a 7.

Recently the two of us were sitting at a bar, talking about life. I asked him about what went wrong in the relationship, hoping I could use some of the cheat codes you all have given me to get him through it.

He said that what ultimately did it was that she thought he had "too many options available to him," so she was just going to move on to someone else.

That puzzled me. Preselection is supposed to be an advantage which works in your favor, not a limiting factor. Even if a woman DOES think her man can easily up and leave her for someone else, that should just makes her all the more eager to cling to him like cellophane, because she can't just give up on a high value man like that. Desirable alphas need to get fucked, no matter how many sluts they have in their harem.

Upon probing deeper, I discovered the problem. I asked him how he demonstrated to her that he could fuck other girls if he wanted to. Apparently, all he did was tell her that he could. He did not SHOW it. He just SAID it. He was all talk and no walk, and she saw right through it.

If you can get IOI's from a 10 and there are witnesses present to see you work your game, that is an infinitely more effective DHV than if you loudly and drunkenly yell to your group, "I could fuck a 10 if I wanted."

Even if you're 100% telling the truth and could land Jessica Alba if you so chose, people would either a) think you're full of shit and desperate for their validation, therefore lowering your DHV to them, or b) know you're telling the truth, but think you're a needy, validation-requiring asshole for explicitly trying to draw attention to your good qualities, to the same effect.

If you are to truly be an alpha male, you should never seek to validate yourself using merely your own tough-talking words. That's not to say there isn't value in having charisma and being able to talk yourself out of a tight spot, but ultimately, your alpha traits are something that need to be DEMONSTRATED on the battlefield, rather than bragged about in the bar.

People are much more like to believe things if they feel they have arrived upon a conclusion of their own free will.